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When did you tell people you’re pregnant??

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Starlight84 · 13/05/2019 13:24

Hi everyone. Just wondering when you told people about your pregnancy? I’m about 5 weeks and told a couple of friends I can trust. I’ve not told my employer yet or any family! Im going to call the birthing centre this week xx

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Starlight84 · 13/05/2019 22:58

Comps83 it’s such a tough choice to make. I know I’ll need to have 2 lots of time off before I even want to think about making it public. I’ll just have to deal with it when it happens. I also saw your comment about a night out. I am supposed to be out on the 24th for my birthday night out. Think I’m going to stage a uti from the weds eve and that I’m on meds again. I always get them all the time and always on meds. I will also say I’m off out for the day sat so need to be feeling fresh so I’ve drove and hope no one sees through it xx

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agteacht · 14/05/2019 00:25

Hi all

Really interesting to read the different experiences.

I'm 10+2 today and haven't told anyone yet.
Apart from DH of course.

I have my 12w scan at 12+2 but planning to tell my mam and brothers and sisters when I'm 13+5 as will be seeing them face to face - they're in Ireland and I'm in UK. Also going to tell MIL then by phone as she is elsewhere. Could tell them all after scan but I figure face to face would be nicer.

My plan was to tell work after that so when I'm 14w or so but I keep changing my mind. I might wait a bit longer. I would like to wait until after my 20w scan as one of my best friends sadly lost her baby at 17w. But I think practically waiting another 10w from now feels pretty impossible so 14w it probably will be...

S311 · 14/05/2019 09:07

Also found it interesting hearing all your stories.
I just found out at 7 weeks 3 days ago. Only the husband knows.
Anyone have experience telling close friends who are unable to conceive? I have one very close friend who after 6 years of trying everything has just given up. Not sure how to tell them.
I wish I could talk to my mom but she can't keep a secret and I wouldn't want anyone knowing before my first scan.

Macaroonmayhem · 14/05/2019 12:13

Nobody til after the 12wk scan.

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Starlight84 · 14/05/2019 15:56

I am determined not to tell anyone until the first scan other than my 2 friends that know. I’m still not sure how anyone is going to take it either. Xx

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Comps83 · 14/05/2019 16:29

It’s jnteresting how many ppl have not told work
Not sure what the law is but where I work we get time back for preg related appts and preg related illnesses and absences are treated differently so I thought it was in my best interest to tell them

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Starlight84 · 14/05/2019 17:49

My reason for not telling my employer is I know it will get out. They all like to gossip and I can’t risk my nearest and dearest finding out that way. I just hate knowing it wouldn’t stay between me and management xx

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kgeal3 · 14/05/2019 18:17

Mother in law 7 weeks ish as we couldn't hide my sickness and knew she would be supportive no matter how the pregnancy went.
Work I had to tell my boss early as I was very sick.
Colleagues, around 14 weeks, some still don't know...just letting the gossip spread with that one as and when

Rest of the family...12 weeks after first scan
Friends...as and when I've seen them after 14 week scan...some still don't know as I'm not one for fb announcements

I've kept it quite quiet as didn't want much fuss. This one isn't my first so I'm happy to plod along, point out and continue as usual with no fuss lol

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Starlight84 · 14/05/2019 20:05

I’m not one for announcing on Fb either! I shall maybe tell my parents before we tell our children and then tell them and then other family members after xx

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Ohrobin · 15/05/2019 07:57

Hello!

We've told my parents (we were about to have surgery to help us conceive followed by IVF) so they knew everything and we would need support if things don't work out. DH also told his best mate as he has been supporting DH through all this. We have an early scan so will tell close friends and family after that. Then let people find out as and when. I probably won't put an "announcement" on social media will just be any pictures as I show.

Telling boss soon as my work commitments were all on hold due to waiting for surgery dates! Plus I'm already feeling shattered with headaches!

Congratulations everyone. So excited!

MyHomey · 15/05/2019 18:08

I told most people at 12 weeks after the scan and my employer at around 14-15 weeks.
I did tell a couple of my close work colleagues when I was about 10 weeks as we were at a work event and I needed them to help me pretend I was drinking!!

Rubberduckies · 16/05/2019 08:16

Told immediate family after an early private scan at 8 weeks. Told my boss just after that because I have a risky job. All others after 12 week scan (actually at 13 weeks)

Slomi · 16/05/2019 08:30

DM: 6 weeks (threatened MC and needed support)
DP's parents: 8 weeks
Siblings and close friends: 11 weeks (after scan)
Boss at work: 12 weeks
Everyone else including the rest of work was when I saw them and it became obvious, around 17 weeks onwards. No social media announcement or anything.

My boss is the biggest gossip going at times and he is dating one of the girls in the office who is very chatty with everyone in there so I was fully expecting it to get out as soon as I told him but to give him credit he told nobody and no one was aware of it until weeks later. It would be incredibly poor of your management to divulge that sort of thing and you would be well within your rights to complain.

HayleyHaystack · 16/05/2019 08:46

We told our families at 13 weeks at Christmas, my family first, husband’s family the next day. It was fab, my mum could then go call everyone she wanted too! A couple of best friends knew prior to that but that was it.

PolarBearBubbles · 16/05/2019 08:47

DC1: told parents and close friends at 12 weeks

DC2: told parents at 6 weeks (needed help with childcare as I was so sick), a couple of close friends and in laws at 13 weeks, remaining close friends around 18 weeks

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Starlight84 · 16/05/2019 16:09

I definitely would complain if I told management in confidence and it got out via them. I know my scan will be during work hours so I will have to tell them then I think. I’m absolutely dreading telling my children and family xx

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Andersonx3 · 16/05/2019 16:22

I found out very early on and one evening just as a friend who knew we were TTC was coming over for dinner. I told my husband as soon as the test showed the faintest line, and told said friend too when she arrived. Parents and siblings at around 4+5 weeks and then if it comes up in conversation we are happy to say but we will not be 'announcing' until after my scan which is at 13+1. I'm currently 11+1. Good luck!

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