Early pregnancy anxiety!

[pinkstar01]

I'm 4+1 with baby #2 after 18 months ttc. I thought getting the BFP would be the end of my worries but what was I thinking?! I'm so anxious that somethings going to go wrong! I'm analyzing every small little symptom now, like my boobs feel less sore today, why is that? I'm not feeling sleepy or more tired than usual, it's too early for that right? My appetite has gone down when with my first I was super hungry for the first few weeks! I felt a small amount of clear watery vaginal discharge and now I can't stop examining the tissue for signs!

Please tell me this is all normal? 

Reading this has given me some relief of my own anxiety to know I’m not the only one!

I’m 4 weeks today, after TTC for 6 months.
From the minute I found out I have been an anxious mess. I can’t help but think something is going to go wrong, it’s really getting in the way of me feeling excited or anything. You’re not the only one:( I have no idea how I’m going to make it till 12 weeks to know everything is ok!

@pinkstar01 @Hayleyla definitely totally normal! I’m 10+2 today and still feel the same as you, counting down the days to my 12 week scan.

I had a private early scan at 8 weeks and that has definitely reassured me as all looked good and we saw a heartbeat.
Other things that have helped my anxiety are telling close family early on (I worry more if I can’t talk about things), trying to keep busy and staying away from Google/too much time on Mumsnet. Easier said than done, I know! If you’re worried about something try to stick to the advice on the NHS site or consult your doctor/midwife- google can be unnecessarily stressful!
This site is also great- it shows how your chances of miscarriage drop with each passing day and I’ve found it quite reassuring: datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer.php

One day, one hour at a time. Today you are pregnant. Try to enjoy that day, that hour.

At least, that was my philosophy after ttc for over two years, with two chemicals and my successful round of ivf.

Congratulations and good luck!

Okay atleast I know I'm not the only one feeling this way, thanks ladies...I do suffer from anxiety so I wasn't sure if I was just being extra crazy
I was initially so shocked and happy but now it's sunk in a little bit and the worry has started!

I too will be booking a private scan at 8 weeks because there's no way I can last till 12 weeks without knowing.

I've also told my immediate family and 2 of my best friends for some emotional support, it does help!

4 + 3 and full of worry. Wish I could sleep this part away. I stupidly put my weight into that link above and it gave me a 50 50 chance almost 😭

I am 5+3 and terrified too. Keep expecting it all to go wrong each time I go to the loo. This wee one has been a really long time coming to even get to where I am now. Trying to enjoy but there is such a long way to go. It's exhausting. 12 weeks feel so long away!!!

You need to find ways to distract yourself from thinking about it, or you will go crazy. Right now you have no particular reason to think it will go wrong, you haven't had multiple mc, for example. But even if you had, the advice would be the same. For me it was doing a lot of crosswords - just something to occupy my mind enough that it wasn't going round in circles worrying all the time.

I feel the same. Constantly worried about everything going wrong. I was like this with my first pregnancy. It's such a rubbish feeling

Completely normal - but I'm afraid it doesn't stop after the reassurance of the 12 week scan, you'll just find different things to worry about! First it's, "Is it ok that my symptoms are fading?", then, "Why haven't I felt movement yet?", then, "Baby hasn't moved much so far today - is something wrong?" Etc. It's part of being a parent ;)

Hey sorry you are feeling this way, it's awful! I still have horrendous anxiety that something will go wrong and I'm now 35 weeks. The first 12 weeks my symptoms kept coming and going, it drove me mad! All I can say is take one day at a time. Also have you ever had any help for your anxiety? I am considering getting some counseling for mine as it takes over my life at times. Hope all is well x

I'm 12 weeks on Saturday and I'm suffer with health anxiety and being pregnant has made it 10 times worse I have had 3 scans already heard the baby's heart beat even have pregnancy symptoms slightly but constantly think something is wrong I don't think it ever goes till your baby is here in ur arms

Thanks so much for your reassurances everyone, I've actually managed to just calm down and take it one day a time now! I already have a child whose 4 so you would think I'd know what it was like, but I guess it's a new journey each time!

I'm planning to go for an early scan the day before my birthday and I'll be 7.5 weeks then so fingers crossed it all goes wel! :)

You're going to notice symptoms coming and going throughout your first trimester. Baby's growth spurts might use lots of energy one day, you might eat a better combination of food and have more energy the next day. Blood sugar affects hunger levels too, so if you eat more sugar/white carbs one day, you might feel hungry quicker because of spikes and dips in your Levels. The next day, you might be sick from morning sickness and slightly dehydrated, leaving you feeling lethargic and tired for a day or two! Then you might feel better...Hormone surges also affect things. So stop over analysing!!! It's not a reliable way to tell if the pregnancy is going well...! Trust me!

Last year, DH and I had to terminate at 13w due to fetal abnormalities. So obviously we have some anxieties left over from that and I'm pregnant again now (10w). I also am a super anxious person anyway and worry like crazy/lose sleep/get panicky over things day-to-day but I've recently come to the following conclusions, which has helped me feel much calmer:

• you're going to worry for the next 9 months and then when you're home with baby, then the next 18+ years. It's always going to be one thing after another to worry about... I don't know why but looking at the bigger picture and realising you're always going to worry about SOMETHING makes me feel better.

• I'm literally in a Facebook group of 40 pregnant women due on a similar date to me who are ALL worrying about the same things. (And same as you!) That makes me feel like what I'm worrying about is super normal and quite pedestrian/ordinary. That makes me feel less panicky about it.

• as long as you follow NHS advice of hand washing, eating/drinking well, avoiding certain foods, taking vitamins and getting plenty of rest, that's ALL you can do to protect your pregnancy. We really have no other control, whether it sticks etc. If you have a loss, it's likely because of genetics which is down to eggs/sperm... nothing we can control! I guess on one hand that's stressful to realise but I feel an element of just sitting back and relaxing and going with it. If you can't control anything, you don't have much choice 🤷🏻‍♀️ .

• anxiety doesn't achieve anything positive. There's literally no point to it. This is a mantra I live by!

• I look around at all the human beings around me. They're all babies that were born! Billions of them. The odds are in your favour!

• as PP said, right this second you're pregnant. You can enjoy being pregnant in this moment. The next moment hasn't happened yet. Don't focus on it. I found this advice very useful in my last pregnancy when anxious too. (And in life!)

• DH and I made a pact. We're not going to worry about our scan until the day of. (It was our previous 12w scan that flagged up the problems with our baby). He is very anxious too and I told him that we must literally shut off the intrusive thoughts and say to ourselves "no, I will worry about that until the day of my scan. Not today." I love to do that in general with all sorts of worries. I'll designate a day. I find it is a good coping technique. It might work for you.

• can you afford a private scan? We had one at 8 weeks and it helped me a lot to see my baby's heartbeat.

I hope something in all of my ramblings helped x

Oh I just saw your update. That's brilliant. I hope your scan goes well x x x

Im 4+4 and I'm shit scared. I had an eptopic in 2014 and this is the first time iv been ready to try again .
I'm so scared and can't stop thinking about the worst. If someone can come hold my hand for the next 12 weeks ... Or 9 months much would be appreciated x💛💙

Awww Emz I'll hold your hand! How many weeks are you? xxx

Wildflower - amazing post and so very true ❤️ I’m 22 weeks & this pregnancy has also been anxiety ridden after I had a mmc last year. It’s like being on a roller coaster than you can’t get off !! Yesterday and today I have felt my first obvious kicks from my little lad and it’s literally put the biggest smile on my face and gave me some confidence as I was starting to freak out! Literally know it’s cliche but all you can do is take each day as it comes, Ride the storm, think positive and just know your never ever alone because these feelings are completely natural. We are women and this is what we do! 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩 X

@Annielou516 I am 4+4 I think if going by first day of last period xx

Hi @pinkstar01 -I'm 5+5 I have watery discharge that's normal I had it with my other pregnancies too! I think this early you get intermittent symptoms they don't start properly imo til 7 week ish
I'm struggling at the mo coz I'm only able to eat lunch coz I feel ill the rest of the time or not hungry even if I don't feel sick -
My nipples are sore all the time but sometimes my boobs are really sore and sometimes not so much!
Try not to stress too much I know way easier said than done I still go to the loo like 20 times a day to make sure there's no spotting but it's better for the baby if we chill out a bit and just take each day as it comes - I figure everyday I'm not bleeding is a day longer of being pregnant! The days are really dragging tho! Xx

My panic levels are through the roof this pregnancy I'm 6wk +4 and have had a temp drop this morning from 37.06 yesterday to 36.9 today. I've already had 1 mc this year so terrified it could be another.

Trying to stay level headed and not over think is so bloody hard . I'm trying to think if positives and that I'm pregnant and I'm super happy . But those horrible thoughts keep popping in 😡

Oh god, me too! I’m 5 weeks 1 day, and last time I miscarried at 5 weeks 5 days, only two months ago. My body feels as if it is back in exactly the same place it was last time. The symptoms feel the same: light cramps/lower backache, no ‘good’ signs of pregnancy such as nausea/sore breasts. I’ve convinced myself things will go the same way and I feel very stressed.

It’s also odd how one finds oneself in medical limbo at this stage. I have a booking appointment with the midwife in a fortnight, before then nothing - but I wish I could have medical reassurance about symptoms now! It’s hard to just have to wait it out.

Good luck to everyone and stay strong...

Surly if you've miscarried before your get to see someone early?

I had an eptopic a few years back and I'm now 4w and 5 days . I am seeing midwife on Monday. I'm hoping I get to have an early scan . Or at least some reassurance x

It's definitely worth asking @turquoiseturtle and @EmzFirst if you can have an early scan I've got one scheduled Tuesday because of my previous mc

@daisyboo I am going to ask but can you see much ?? I am 4+5 but think I'm actually only 2+5 ... I have no idea how they work all this stuff out 😭😂😍