Anyone else feel like their pregnancy is dragging?

[nickyXjayno]

Hi girls am just over 10 weeks but feel like I've been pregnant forever.
Anyone else like this?
I found at at 4 weeks, planned pregnancy, and time is just going so slow!
I just want to get out of first tri and have my scan cause right now I feel like I'm imagining being pregnant.
I'm a bit more tired than usual but other than that nada.
This is my second and I don't remember my first feeling this slow. It flew by. Though he was unplanned so maybe the panic made it feel time was faster ha.

Yes! I could write everything you’ve said, only I’m seven weeks with my first. I’m usually someone who feels time flies by quickly. I will book an event for eight months away and know it’ll be upon me in the blink of an eye. But time has changed since finding out I was pregnant, at four weeks. It’s dragging incredibly slowly. I’m so anxious all the time not knowing if everything is okay or not. Desperately want to get to my next scan on Tuesday. So scared of things going wrong.

I think the key for me is just to give in to the worrh rather than fight it, let myself gather info online even though my OH thinks I’m stressing myself out. Fill my time. Keep busy. Try my best to focus on my work as hard as I usually do and fill my evenings and weekends with seeing friends and going places and doing chores. And accept that whatever happens with this pregnancy eventually I’ll look back and know the outcome.

I'm 29 weeks pregnant and I am just so
Bored! I can't wait to get this child out!

I feel like a baby carrying vessel that no one cares about all they do is ask about the baby and not me! That sounds so selfish but it's reality 😭

Ahhh yes this! 32 weeks and just want it to be done now. My first pregnancy was twins who arrived at 36 weeks and that seemed like I was pregnant for years so I'm particularly dreading the last couple of weeks this time when I get past that point

Not just me then!
I loved the bump part but this weird first few months where you can't tell anyone and don't even know what's going on inside and just look a bit like I've eaten too much buffet food is going sooo slow. NHS scan should be in about 2 weeks but bet that's going to drag also

I feel the opposite... it’s flying! I have so much stuff yet to buy, a whole nursery to decorate, and I just love this feeling and wish it would slow down. Can’t really believe you guys are wishing it away! To be fair I’m not in the 3rd trimester uncomfortable stage yet.

When you think about your life in it’s entirety, this part really is just a small moment. Plus if you already have DC, enjoy your time with just them before a little baby takes up lots of your energy and attention.

Snakes it’s really hard not to wish away this early awful period where you’re riddled with anxiety and uncertainty about whether you’ll carry your baby to term or lose them. I think once I hit twelve weeks I’ll really relish it. But the danger zone can’t end soon enough.

@Emerald I found this really helped me - datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer.php

But more than anything, just try to keep positive and remember that if you have no obvious cause for concern (bleeding etc) then chances are baby is developing well in there :)

Thanks Snakes! I’ve actually been using it, and it’s dropped to a reassuring 8% risk now. However with endometriosis your risk is increased by 73%... but still low I guess.

I know the odds are in my favour but it all feels so theoretical and fragile until you physically see development in there.

@EmeraldRubyShark I do understand how you feel, everything is a hurdle... getting to 12 weeks, getting your blood test results, getting to 16 weeks, the anomaly scan.. what’s worse is I imagine when baby is here it’s very much the same - non-stop worry that he/she will always be OK.

But do try to enjoy it... the anxiety and fretfulness doesn’t stop these things happening. It just sucks the joy out of you.

Good luck with your pregnancy, hope everything goes well for you.

I think you misunderstand I wasn't wishing the pregnancy past just the initial 12 weeks. I adored being pregnant as soon as bump comes. But this not feeling at all pregnant makes it almost feel like nothing is actually going on in there. I'm very much looking forward to a scan to confirm I'm actually pregnant and not crazy lol

Yep it's boring as hell. 24 weeks in ugh. When I had my 20 week scan I thought "how can I do the same again?!". And even then you find out 5 or 6 weeks in and it dragged so the last half will be worse. This is my first and im not sure I'll do it again. I wasn't even I'll so I can't complain about that, just so lonely, isolating and boring.

@nicky yeah I felt similar in the 1st trimester, I couldn’t wait to the scan and to be able to share the news. I found time just flies though as soon as you’re passed the 12 week mark.

@Whisky2014 I could of written that myself! Yes we are very grateful don't mistake that... but the boredom, and loneliness is real!
I also had no sickness or symptoms and Iv only gained 9lb in 29 weeks so it's not even about that.

@Whisky2014 What’s so boring about it? What can’t you do now that you did before? My only thing is drinking and I don’t really miss it too much, I’m sure I will when I’m on holiday but day to day, it doesn’t bother me. I’ve even been out clubbing & just drank appetiser in a wine glass to not feel left out. No shade, I’m genuinely curious as to what’s so “boring” about it? I’m so excited, the opposite bored.

And yes I found keeping the news to myself for the 1st trimester pretty lonely, but as soon as I could share the news I don’t feel isolated at all - in fact everyone’s been all over me about baby stuff, gifts etc.

I'm just about 32 weeks.

First trimester DRAGGGGGED in, in fact up until about 16 weeks dragged. Then the 2nd trimester just flew by, I've been lucky and had a really good pregnancy thou, BUT since 28 weeks I feel time has stood still

8 weeks to go.... Yawwwwn

@SnakesBarmitzvah yep, drinking/socialising. Now I can't drink, I see how much is an influence in our life. Enjoying a glass or 2 of wine with my husband...nope glass for him and juice for me...great. Going out and socialising...everyone orders drinks and I'm sitting having juice again. Everyone getting tipsy and up for fun whilst I drink juice and get tired. People making comments about their drinks and "cheers" every so often. And if I choose not to go its boring too. And now people only talk about babies, and it seems that's all I can talk about too. I'm fed up!

I felt like this at 36 weeks 😂 had him at 37 + 6 🙈 good luck & enjoy the pregnancy

I miss running a lot. Its something my husband and I shared. But I have found I'm too tired after work to run. Am hoping energy levels come back and I can run again.

OP I could have written your post! I'm feeling exactly the same.

First baby, 10 weeks, planned, and obviously delighted but I've been feeling a bit down this week and just bored of being tired/looking fat (not pregnant)/not running (which used to be my escape/me time) and not being able to tell anyone why!!

I've been watching the letterbox like a hawk for our dating scan date to come through and still nothing. Just can't wait to (hopefully!) be told everything is OK, be able to tell friends/family/work and start enjoying this pregnancy.

I'm sorry you're feeling like that however it is reassuring to hear I'm not the only one, and hopefully likewise for you

@Whisky2014 No offence but it sounds like it’s your mindset - not really the lack of booze. Why not try some non-alcoholic wines for at home with DH? i’ve not found a wine I like but i’ve enjoyed trying them all. And I do like Sainsbury’s Nosecco - not exactly the same but nice enough. I’ve actually discovered a new-found appreciation for nice soft drinks like appletiser and Elderflower presse.

Of course if you sit there with the juice while everyone else is drinking you’re just going to feel left out and bored. I was out dancing til 2am for a friend’s bday, we went to a cocktail bar & I had all the mocktails, I didn’t feel left out at all and even felt slightly tipsy off the atmosphere of it all. Nothing stopping you cheers’ing with everyone else.

Try not to be so miserable about it, you might enjoy yourself!

Why can’t you run if you feel like it?

Most you don’t sound like you’re doing much to help yourselves to be honest

Sound like my DM but “only boring people get bored”

Boobs too sore to run at the minute.. midwife said that might ease off, I'm hoping so!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

SnakesBarmitzvah ha i do I have non alcoholic gin and stuff but that really is just juice. We've gone out to dinners with friends etx where I think no one needs to drink that much but then of course it leads to more drinks and people do change when they are drunk. Being the sober 1 is really different watching everyone else get merry.

I mean I'm not miserable when I'm out! But it's just not so enjoyable. I went to a fancy dinner in glasgow 2 weekends ago and the table discussion about what wine to have went on forever. I live wine, I wanted wine. I had a "drivers punch" cause they didn't have non alcoholic stuff. Also, if you drink alcohol it's not because youre thirsty. There's only so much juice I can drink.
A games night at friends resulted everyone getting absolutely blootered. I did the 2 hour drive home and partner conked out 2 mins into the journey.

I was at the theatre last night, met u with brother and his gf for food before hand. They all had fancy cocktails and I had a mock rail. Went to show which was a fun rocky show where at of audience participation happened. Everyone pretty tipsy and drunk around me and I'm stone cold sober. It is boring.
I'm not saying I don't enjoy myself but it's just not as good at all.

SnakesBarmitzvah and you seem to be telling us all its all ourattitude. You can't grasp people can be different from you. You have no idea whay we are like. Not because we are making it boring, it just is!
I'm not sitting in a cave moaning away. I am doing things, I am being social. It's just not so fun. And I'm fed up talking about babies. I am still a person, not just a baby vessel.