Pregnancy is so boring

[Horehound]

Since becoming pregnant I seem constantly ill. I hate not drinking and alot of our social environments involved it. So its not changed for my husband but for me I don't want to sit in pubs and watch folk drink. Or even have them round to the house. We used to do loads of hosting and now I just can't be arsed. I feel left out. I've turned into the driver.
It's just so boring and im only half way
.. urgh

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The OP shouldn’t have to feel guilty because she feels bored during pregnancy and others have miscarriages!!! Pregnancy can be boring and we loose ourselves a little and who we used to be so it’s perfectly normal to feel like you are missing out. But it’s such a short time in your life so try to embrace it and on the plus side at least you don’t have to wake up with a hanger over ;)

@hopeandgrace2019 shes bored because she cant go out on the piss with her husband and friends not because shes pregnant!

Do you do other sruff with tour husband that you like? Like hiking or something?

Stuff with your husband...

Maybe suggest something new with your partner that isn't boring for you, something that you can both enjoy? I'm finding out quite quickly that you have to try and continue life as normally as you can because if you sit around waiting and counting the days you will be so bored!

The reason you’re bored is because your social life seems to have centred around drinking. Use this as an opportunity to expand it a little; go walking, hiking, take up a new hobby; join prenatal yoga.

@HJWT speaking as someone who has suffered two miscarriages and one full term pregnancy, I can tell you- pregancy can be hard and boring. Wanting a baby and not enjoying pregnancy can be mutually compatible, you know.

I’m sick of women being told they can’t complain. Pregancy can be very difficult for many reasons, including social isolation and physical pain. Not everyone has an amazing supportive partner and family, not everyone is even thrilled to be pregnant. Pregancy is always depicted as something lovely and cute, the media never showcases women who can’t even walk or who suddenly lose all of their friends. No, we only see the likes of Megan Markle in heels, who is of the approved child bearing age with many friends who are sharing similar life experiences.

So excuse me @HTCW you need to find a different thread to throw a pity party on because indvidual struggle is subjective and you have no right to minimise the experiences of this lady.

I’m sick of women being told they can’t complain.

Agree with this! Pregnancy can be awful and the sudden change in your social life just adds to that!

The no drinking thing is boring - especially when you've been invited to two weddings. I love a wedding piss up. Now I'm the designated driver for them. Of course, it's all worth it in the end and I thank my lucky stars to be carrying a healthy baby, but yeah, not drinking on a night out is boring!

I see the rule about the first couple of responses being horrible is in full force on this thread. I agree with others. It can be super boring. I stopped drinking a couple of years before being pregnant but even I'm struggling - my issue is food. I used to love going out to eat. Now I have to triple check everything and it's boring. Of course I'm looking forward to having my baby here safe and sound but I could murder some sushi right now.

OP I’m with you. Pregnancy is shit. Worst social occasion I ever attended was SILs wedding whilst heavily pregnant. Everyone was having a great time and I was bored and felt on the edge of it and it was just rubbish. And me and my friends would always meet in the pub- so when we started having kids that was boring and shit too. I hear you, it’s shit, pregnancy can fuck off. Love my children with all my heart it hated being pregnant in every single way.

@PBobs I don't want you to miss out, you can eat sushi while pregnant! If you're concerned you could ask the restaurant if all their fish is frozen before use, but I've never found a sushi restaurant that doesn't do this.

I’ve had three miscarriages and I fully agree pregnancy is shit. The first trimester is really shit. The second trimester is not so bad but even then I have a few coming events that are going to not be as much fun because no drink (gasp! Sometimes drink is fun), soon I’ll be off my bike. Horse riding is out. By the third trimester going up the stairs is hard work never mind hiking (!) pregnancy is really shit.

And I’m so feeling tired my work is being affected, I was on fire before. Gahhhh!

I feel you. It came as quite a shock to me just how boring drinking lime and soda in the pub is!

I used the time to find non-boozy things to enjoy and rediscover old hobbies. I also treated myself to a really nice bottle of champagne to open the moment I was home from the hospital

@scratchbass thanks so much. I really appreciate it. Unfortunately I live in a country where getting a straight answer about frozen fish is difficult and I wouldn't trust them to not refreeze etc. Some of our restaurants definitely don't freeze their fish. I'm happy to eat it when not pregnant but not so when I am. Food safety and hygiene isn't really a thing here. I did have a nice roast dinner at a buffet today where the lamb was well done although the yorkies were still raw in the middle. But I felt very cheered by the event. Even though the rare roast beef looked the bloody (literally) nuts. 😁

Thanks all for the responses.

We went to a friend's house last night fir abganes night and actually, even though people were drinking they werent tearing the arse out of it and there was lots of laughing and just good fun but I was definitely pining to join in when someone wpukd say "who wants a glass of wine?" Meeeeee. I dooooo!

I would not manage a hike. We have started going on walks around the forests nearby but even that's hard for me but I'm determined to get out for a bit.

I think the problem is, all my friends have kids and are doing their own thing or their kids are just that little bit older that the parents can drink again and im still left out!
My husband has been out a fair few times recently, not normal for him, but I'm fed up when i pick him up and I see his drunk glassy eyed look and then he's hungover for the Saturday or sunday and so it's just me left to fill my time again.
I moaned about having nothing to do a wee whole ago and he said ok he'll book a day for clay pigeon shooting or archery.
I wpuldnt mind archer but the whole thing annoyed me, just sounded like a bloody stag do.
I want to go to interesting places, have nice lunches, I want him not to drink for one bloody event/thing we do and just kind of empathise with me but I'll not say that to him because it's up to him and if i wasnt pregnant id want to do as he does.

Also, just fed up of having a stuffed nose all the time! I had one week of havung a virus fever thing, I have had almost 2 weeks of thick mucus stuffing my nose but doesn't feel like a cold.

Ugh just fed up and fancied a moan. It's nice to know others feel the same actually even though i dont want you to feel this way.

And yy having miscarriages doesn't mean you can't find pregnancy boring. It just is!

You have my sympathy. I find being pregnant utterly tedious. Imagine my horror when I realised that even when the baby arrives you can't drink if you're breastfeeding ffs. Luckily I got good at expressing gallons so I could at least have a couple with dinner. Now life is all back to normal and I can go out with friends and laugh in the pub again. The only difference is it's now once a month as I'm too tired and old 🤣.

Haha Yeh that's right I do intend on breastfeeding so ill have to wait to express so we can get BF established. Ufff
Once a month sounds ok to me :) enjoy!

@HJWT that's so rude of you. My pregnancy from the day I found out has been shit, I've had hyperemisis and still suffer now and you acting as if people who do not enjoy being pregnant are ungrateful to be having a child.
I want a baby but I hate being pregnant and I'm sorry to those who have miscarriages that's really horrible but it does not mean our feelings are invalid.
I don't think it's discussed enough that we do lose ourselves during pregnancy especially if you end up off work sick for 4 months and end up not seeing anyone but your dh.
OP it's ok to feel like it sucks because it does!

Hear hear @avacadooo!

I’m currently pregnant with dc2. I’m not enjoying it. Physically I’ve been fine and very lucky (no sickness etc). But I didn’t want to be pregnant again right now (ds is only 18 months and I’m due in July).

I’m just feeling awful too - full of cold after cold after cold. Exhausted (because I have ds and he’s gotten to the little ball of energy stage - which is great but maaaaaan it’s exhausting!) etc.

But I know how lucky I am to be able to Do this for a second time. I’m 35 now and we had thought about a longer age gap (however my body had other ideas - I was on the pill....) and figured it could be a now or never situation.

I don’t resent it. Just don’t want to be doing it. I’d just got my life back too. Settled back at work, back to my hobbies etc. We had a routine!!!! (And id just developed a taste for lovely gin!)

You certainly can drink when breastfeeding! I can tell you I wouldn't have lasted 3 years bf if you couldn't!