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Pregnancy is so boring

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Horehound · 06/04/2019 16:34

Since becoming pregnant I seem constantly ill. I hate not drinking and alot of our social environments involved it. So its not changed for my husband but for me I don't want to sit in pubs and watch folk drink. Or even have them round to the house. We used to do loads of hosting and now I just can't be arsed. I feel left out. I've turned into the driver.
It's just so boring and im only half way
.. urgh

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Horehound · 07/04/2019 14:36

NHS guidelines on drinking whilst breast feeding.

There's some evidence that regularly drinking more than 2 units of alcohol a day while breastfeeding may affect your baby's development. But an occasional drink is unlikely to harm your breastfed baby. If you're breastfeeding, you should have no more than 1 or 2 units of alcohol once or twice a week.

1 or 2 units a week..isnt That like 1 glass of wine?!

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Horehound · 07/04/2019 14:37

Fucking hell a large 250ml glass of wine is 3 units... wow lucky us.

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Megasaur5keeper · 07/04/2019 15:06

Just to say - you can drink a little bit when you are breast feeding; what you can't or shouldn't do is drink and cosleep, or get so drunk you might drop the baby. Which to be fair would go for formula feeding too.
That said, in the time I was establishing feeding I was getting my kicks from dihydracodiene, and thereafter was just so bloody exhausted that wine did not seem like a good idea. Or even very appealing.
Obviously it's a personal choice whether you would want to.

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Horehound · 07/04/2019 16:46

That's true I can't imagine I'd want to drink in the initial stages. But as per above it seems whatever your blood alcohol level is, so is your breast milk alcohol level. Hmm

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avacadooo · 07/04/2019 16:54

@ememem84 oh my god gin 🤤🤤 I miss it so much

Sunny1990 · 07/04/2019 17:46

I'm not a big drinker but now the suns out I'm starting to fancy a few drinks! For me I'm missing training the way I used to.

I must admit that I've never enjoyed this pregnancy and at first thought I was the only one who felt this way, but the more I speak to people the more I realise a lot of people really don't enjoy it!

Already trying to work out the most reliable form of contraception for after the baby comes 😂

Also with you on the stuff nose...SICK OF IT I JUST WANT TO BREATHE.

BirthdayKake · 07/04/2019 17:50

OP I agree with you! I'm 26 weeks having conceived straight after a miscarriage, and my god I miss drinking. We don't even go on social outings cos I already have four DC, but I miss drinking at home. Wahhh!

ememem84 · 07/04/2019 18:12

We’ve had a day of ds being a hurricane. I could murder a g&t.

Don’t get me wrong he’s cute and usually well behaved etc. But today he’s tried our patience.

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 07/04/2019 18:33

I hate being pregnant it's boring and so long !, I've had 4 miscarriages and 2 live children I feel like I'm not really allowed to complain really but it's just a mess off feeling like crap constantly and just want to curl up and sleep. I miss having a nice glass of wine with the girls once or twice a week and eating whatever I want without knowing that I'm going to puke it back up soon, I'm 33+3 now so not long left

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Horehound · 07/04/2019 18:51

Ha thats true re. the food point. We love fine dining and talk about foods a lot but its just so boring double checking stuff and also Id like have wines to go with food. So nothing is as special. My husband also said its different for him too (I didn't have much sympathy) because we used to have nights in where we'd have one or 2 bottles of wine and having music on and dance around the living room. Just fun stuff that we won't do for ages.
Hoesntly the stuffy nose is doing my head in!

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PhoebeBear · 08/04/2019 08:41

@Horehound I can relate. I'm almost 23 weeks with my first and I have to admit before pregnancy me and my partner were heavy drinkers! It almost got to the point where i was worried about our health. My partner still has the odd drink now which I'm fine with but the first weeks was hard to watch while drinking mocktails haha
Whenever I socialise without him it's with my sister and friends which we also would go shopping and for a meal and a drink. We do diffrent things now like cinema and dog walking, I know it sounds boring and of course it doesn't beat a good night out but honestly I've gotten used to not drinking now. Don't get me wrong if I weren't pregnant I WOULD NOT turn down a pink gin and tonic haha but now the thought of my little baby makes it worth the while.
Maybe think of other things you and your partner could do which doesn't involve drink, I know it can be boring but you'll get by x

peaches19 · 08/04/2019 09:15

There’s a lot of misinformation around drinking and breastfeeding. This is a good article: www.telegraph.co.uk/health-fitness/body/breastfeeding-mums-rejoice-you-can-drink-alcohol-christmas-or-no/

purplemama1990 · 08/04/2019 16:46

Glad to see people responded to @HJWT ! I'm fed up of seeing people comment about how you should be grateful because others had a miscarriage... no one is saying having a miscarriage isn't a horrible thing to go through, and that the OP isn't grateful to be pregnant! But we are still allowed to complain if we want! That's like saying to someone who has awful morning sickness or hyperemesis that they aren't allowed to complain and should be grateful because at least they didn't have a miscarriage.

I think pregnancy is boring for a whole different reason, I don't drink anyway so that hasn't affected me.. but I'm just so bored of waiting for this baby to arrive! Feel like I've been pregnant for years, and still another 14 long weeks to go... and, yes, I'm grateful to be pregnant!

RedWineAllMine · 08/04/2019 16:53

OP, i missed drinking too when I was. I recommend Eisberg alcohol free wine. It's the only one that kind of tasted like real wine for me, of course it's not as good as the real thing, but it's the closest thing to it I found. Or alcohol free lagers or Kopparbergs.
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Duffya93 · 09/04/2019 08:33

Totally agree with all but one of you. @HJWT maybe your pregnancies have been fantastic but unfortunately it’s not that way for everyone. I’m sick of people telling me to be grateful that I am pregnant - of course I am grateful I am able to bring another human into this world but this doesn’t mean I don’t feel left out or fed up sometimes! OP I’m with ya on the boredom, I am resenting the fact that I can’t do my own things anymore and it has been very difficult for me to get my head around. We didn’t plan to have a baby for another few years as I’m in the middle of my nursing degree and it wasn’t the right time, but everybody says when is the right time? I try get out at weekends with my other half to have dinner or just go for a drive. I’ve stopped watching social media like I did before pregnancy as it doesn’t help the feeling of jealousy.. which is perfectly okay to have!! Some women adore being pregnant.. I am not one of those women. But this doesn’t mean I’m disregarding my unborn child. I’m allowed to feel like this because it’s NORMAL!

RainbowWaffles · 09/04/2019 08:39

I hear you too! It’s perfectly normal for people without children to have social lives that center around drinking. Obviously that changes a bit when you have children but while you are pregnant you just have a void to fill and nothing to fill it with until the baby comes. That’s a lot of time with not a lot to do. If you decided to take up origami in pregnancy then good for you, but I was too tired and miserable to take up a hobby I had previously demonstrated no enthusiasm for. It will get better, hang in there.

katmarie · 09/04/2019 08:46

It's boring and it seems to take forever. Plus my immune system seems to have gone to shit, I'm only 12 weeks but I've already had to have two weeks off work with a chest infection. That was spectacularly boring. Plus I am too tired to do anything once I get home from work, which sucks for my ds who just wants mummy to play with him, so he probably thinks I'm boring too. Also alcohol free wine is not the same and alcohol free gin is rubbish or really expensive.

I'm thrilled to be pregnant, but there are definitely times when I would fast forward this bit.

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Horehound · 09/04/2019 18:51

Yup im nodding along with all of you! Glad others are the same.
"but while you are pregnant you just have a void to fill and nothing to fill it with until the baby comes." Ha this is so true. I'm actively thinking "at least when the baby comes I'll be busy". It's definitely just a time filler at the moment, like working the last two weeks for work before going on an amazing holiday.
I know ive spoken alot about drinking etc and it was a big part of our social gatherings. Now i just don't have energy to see people or want to stay up late or go on walks because I'm out of breath so quickly.
I like painting and crafty stuff but just can't be bothered. And my husband wouldn't want to do stuff like that so I kind of have to go along with him and be sociable like he is and wagch him drink then drive home.

20 week scan tomorrow! Now I'm thinking christ I'm only half way argghh

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