6 week brown spotting ? Pay for private early scan

[squirrelnutkins1]

Long back story here but the basics are it's taken us 19 months, a million blood tests, OH semen analysis, laparoscopy, rubella jab, many, many tears to get our very first BFP on Sunday 😊 I couldn't believe it so retested on Tuesday and BFP again 😊

So I'm 6 weeks today and at lunch time I got some brown spotting when I went to the loo. I'm absolutely terrified 💔

I phoned the fertility unit who told me to speak to gynae assessment. They weren't very interested. Said you can't really see anything on a scan until 7 weeks (not what I've read on here!?!). Said it's not uncommon to bleed in pregnancy and not too concerning if only light.

Im thinking of paying for an early reassurance scan. It's £59. Am I being crazy? Honestly I feel like I'm getting my period. No real preg symptoms. I did one digital test and another that you get a cross when preg and both were very obviously positive.

What should I do??

Oh no! Really sorry to hear that. I hope the pain has subsided a bit now, at least?

Yes, going to wait for the time being. If I haven't had a heavier bleed or a fading test by next week, I might look into a scan - but I'm not optimistic about my chances.

It's a really crappy feeling isn't it. I don't feel preg at all - not that I've got anything to compare it to but yno. I feel like the pain is just waiting to come back, like I've got a niggle that could become a bad pain again.
I've got something unavoidable on Friday so I want to hear from the docs after that, won't be able to deal with bad news before going to it. @PowerslidePanda hugs x

Yeah, it is. I know what you mean about not feeling pregnant - this is my second pregnancy and I'd been thinking how easy this one was so far because I didn't have many symptoms compared to before - now thinking that wasn't a good thing!

The sense of the bad pain coming back must be horrible, but from what you've said, I reckon there's a good chance that the worst of it is over for you now. Your plan for Friday sounds sensible - hope both the doctors and your other thing goes ok - I'll be thinking of you.

How are you feeling today? Xx @PowerslidePanda

Thanks for asking - still bleeding, a little less than yesterday, but it's darker now. I've had some cramps this evening, so there may be more to come. Nausea is getting worse - I want to take that as a sign of HCG continuing to go up, but have read it can also be a symptom of a loss, so still not sure what's going on!

How are you doing?

Good that it's darker blood. Bleeding is less for me too and darker. Same with cramps tho and just generally not feeling well. urgh I hate that this is happening to us ☹️*@PowerslidePanda*

Yes to the generally not feeling well thing - it was hard dragging myself out of bed this morning!

Me too. I know it's a common thing to happen, but even so - I figured once we conceived, the odds were in our favour - something like a 1 in 4 chance of it going wrong, versus 3 in 4 of a successful pregnancy.

Yeah I thought not being able to conceive was the worst part but this is def worse 💔💔💔 I don't know where I'll stand with the fertility clinic now either, seeing as we conceived naturally just before I was due to start on ovulation stimulants. Urgh.
Hope you feel a little brighter tomorrow xx

Well doctor just phoned and confirmed what I already felt 💔💔💔 @PowerslidePanda

Oh no! I'm so very sorry, @squirrelnutkins1

Take it easy for a while and let your OH look after you. After the TTC journey you described, I can't imagine how painful this must be for you, but I have every confidence that it will happen for you one day. This experience proves you can conceive - and that's without the ovulation stimulants (I'd be surprised if the fertility clinic didn't continue with the original plan). You were very unlucky this time, but everything I've read suggests that it is just bad luck and it won't affect your chances next time. Thinking of you

I'm so sorry x

So sorry @squirrelnutkins1

Rest, cry, vent, and don’t be hard on yourself. TTC can be really shit and I’m sorry you’ve come so far for this. All my love and prayers x

Thank you so much for your kindness ladies xxx

@PowerslidePanda how are you? Xx

I had no bleeding at all between Thursday and Saturday and pregnancy tests were still positive, so I booked a private scan for this Friday, but then on Sunday, it all started again heavier, and is still going - but also still testing positive, so still none-the-wiser as to what's happening!

I scared myself reading about caesarean scar ectopic pregnancies, which are rare, but fit my symptoms. If that is what's happening, I don't trust the private scan place to pick up on it - so I've got a doctors appointment this morning and am hoping they'll refer me to the EPU for some answers.

How are you doing now?

Really hope you get on ok at your appointment. Let me know. Hugs Googling things is quite terrifying sometimes isn't it hope you're ok xx

Doing ok, up and down emotionally but no bleeding since Friday night and blood test tomorrow to confirm what I already know. Although I am just wondering if my levels haven't got down to what they should be whether I'll be called in for some kind of medical management. Hope not

Wondering whether to do another pregnancy test, it's quite the torturous time isn't it 💔 xx

Thanks - I've got an appointment at the EPU on Monday, but the GP wasn't overly concerned about the caesarean scar ectopic risk. I think I'm going to keep my private scan appointment regardless - try and get some answers sooner. Lots of cramping at the moment

Glad to hear that you seem to be ok physically. Yes - fingers crossed no medical management will be necessary. It's understandable that you're up and down emotionally - it'll take a while to come to terms with How is your OH doing?

The cramping is horrid isn't it ☹️ I'd be the same, wanting answers sooner. Glad the gp wasn't too worried tho in a way.

OH was keeping strong for me but then he totally broke down at the weekend after we'd been out for some dinner 💔 how's yours doing? Xx @PowerslidePanda

Yeah, it's put my mind a bit more at ease ahead of Monday.

Oh, poor thing! It's so tough on them too. Mine's doing ok so far, but he's been more level-headed than me throughout anyway - e.g. he carried on taking his conception vitamins even after we got the BFP, just in case.

Have you heard anything yet about what will happen with the fertility clinic?

Bless him. What vitamins is he taking? My oh hasn't been advised to have any but it's a good idea ready for next time 🙏🏻

Not yet no. I would imagine it'll take a couple of weeks to hear back.

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Squirrel I'm so very sorry .

And best of luck Panda.

I went and saw a nurse this morning. I thought I was literally just going for a blood test but yet again I had to go through what happened ☹️ She said my HCG levels had dropped again and instead of a blood test she could just do a preg test to see if any preg hormone left in me. I didn't mind as I bruise badly after blood tests sometimes.

Test was negative.

She thinks I was only 4-5 weeks by my HCG levels which has left me very confused. By my last period and confirmed ovulation (2 blood tests) I thought I was 7 weeks this time last week. Feel more confused tbh but she really acknowledged my feelings and that's been good therapy for me.

She said even in the short time I was preg my life changed because you make plans and have all these thoughts and we've waited so long and had so many disappointments and we've had a LOSS, doesn't matter how many weeks, something has gone and it wasn't my fault and it's ok to grieve.

Funny how I know all these things but I feel like my feelings have somehow been validated and I feel a bit better (after some more tears of course).

Sorry for the essay! @PowerslidePanda

Thank you @Foo2 xx

How are you hun? @PowerslidePanda

Hi @squirrelnutkins1 - thanks for asking. I had my private scan today and to my complete astonishment, not only am I still pregnant, but there were 2 heart beats! There was also a blood clot, which is the reason I've been bleeding. Based on its size, the sonographer estimated I'll continue to bleed for another 2 weeks or so.

I feel awful telling you my happy news after how things ended for you, but I also would have felt bad not telling you - especially if you then ended up reading it elsewhere on the site anyway. I'm so grateful for your support on this thread and so very sorry that we've had such different outcomes.

The nurse you met with sounds wise and I'm glad she made you feel a bit better. There's no timeline for grief, but I wish you the very best of luck for whenever you feel ready to try again. In answer to your question, DH is taking Wellman Conception vitamins, and the month we conceived was the first month we tried Conceive Plus lube (could just be a coincidence of course).

If you'd like to continue talking, I'm here and would love to keep up with how you're doing, but equally I understand if you'd prefer not to.