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Was supposed to be induced today.Feel like a failiure

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dobbysmum · 26/03/2019 11:42

I'm so upset right now. All my family knew I was coming into to hospital today to be induced, and would be coming home with my baby, but ive found the sweep even too painful and cried so much, that the nurse can't even do the induction (balloon).
She said I could try a Pessery(?) But would need a sweep for that too.
The next plan is to wait for doctor to discuss if I can have a c section, but it wont be today so now going to have to explain to everyone (including my little boy, teachers and mums on school run) who are all expecting to see me with a baby next time they see me.
Has anyone else experienced this? I can't even face a labour if the sweeps too painful to continue with

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MintyCedric · 26/03/2019 11:46

Sweetheart, it doesn't matter what other people are thinking or expecting.

You have grown a whole human being...or the second time, you are anything but a failure.

So long as you and your baby are well, try to relax and see what the doctor says. I'm sure you know that being tense doesn't help with things like this.

I had 2 sweeps, was offered a third and turned it down. They are fecking hideous. I'm still in need of rescheduling my last smear test as for the first time ever, at the age of 43, I was also tense my bloody cervix went into hiding.

Sometimes our bodies just don't co-operate.

Flowers and good luck x

RingOfAppreciation · 26/03/2019 11:51

You poor thing. Did they not offer you Gas and Air? When I was induced I refused any examinations without G&A and they were totally fine with that. Might be worth asking for it? Not sure why they are saying you need a sweep for the pessary though - I’d question if that was necessary.

AmazingGrace16 · 26/03/2019 11:52

You can decline induction and wait it out if you wish!

BlueMerchant · 26/03/2019 11:53

I haven't been through this but I have had 2 inductions.
Just wanted to say don't give two hoots what anyone thinks.

Concentrate on you and your little one who you'll be meeting very soon!! Plans often go awry.
You will be fine.You are in good experienced hands.Flowers

alislim · 26/03/2019 12:02

Hi

I had several sweeps. Probably about the 5th one got me going. They are bloody painful. I nearly climbed through the wall it was that painful. I used gas and air.
I'm the end I had to have an emcs but contractions were no where near as bad as the sweep.
Don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

Good luck.
All be worth it x

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dobbysmum · 26/03/2019 13:20

Thank you x I had gas and air but it was still agony.
C section waiting list is a week long so I'm on a ward now being monitored then going to try pessary.
I keep crying, im so scared of the further examinations and being on a ward with other people due to my social anxiety. Everything is just so overwhelming and scary right now

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BlueMerchant · 26/03/2019 14:02

Good luck. You can do this.Flowers

beforeIhit30 · 26/03/2019 14:05

You poor thing OP, you’re definitely not a failure and don’t worry about other people’s thoughts. Mostly I imagine people would just be wondering if everything is okay if they saw you and you hadn’t given birth yet, I doubt anyone would judge you in any way.

I can’t give any guarantees as every woman is different, but FWIW I found the experience of getting the pessary inserted far easier than a sweep. I had one sweep with DC2 and whilst it wasn’t agony, I did find it very uncomfortable and felt uncomfortable for the rest of the day too. I was offered a second but declined any more after the first one. The pessary was much more straightforward for me, quicker and less uncomfortable, they just inserted it (like a very flat and short tampon) and I couldn’t feel it once it was in.

Flowers
Mrsbclinton · 26/03/2019 14:14

Ahh dont be so hard on yourself. Sweeps are not a nice experience. I cried during mine.

I also found the whole ward experience in hospital stressful in an already stressful situation.
You are going to be fine, you can get through this x

snoopy18 · 26/03/2019 14:20

I was also induced with pessary but they didn’t do a sweep just a cervix check?

Good luck op

GrasswillbeGreener · 26/03/2019 14:36

I don't think they managed to do a sweep before trying induction with my first. I did end up with a section because she was showing early signs of distress at a point when hardly anything was happening still. With my 2nd I think a registrar offered to do a sweep the next appointment and when whoever saw me next went to do it she said, well if the doctor thinks she can do it she can do it herself (or words more politely to that effect!), because I was a long way off ready. Ended up with a section again (both went to 42/40 + ).

Very best wishes. Inductions do usually take a fair bit of time anyway so people won't be expecting to see you tomorrow with a baby!

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dobbysmum · 26/03/2019 14:52

Had 2nd examination with gas and air, hubby was here so I squeezed his.hand and cried the whole time, I don't know why I find it agony, I'm the same with smear tests and when I had my coil fitted.
I've got the Pesary in now and I'm currently in a room on my own while they do the Doppler for an hour, then going to a ward.
Husband has gone home but coming back later with snacks.
Not sure if its in for 12 hours or 24, if its 12 hours I'll be on my own for next examination as it will be about 2am, he's only coming back in night if they are going to break my waters or I go into labour.

I've treated myself to a new tablet so when I get on the ward I'm going to watch some tv and try to calm down.

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JustHavinABreak · 26/03/2019 15:00

Virtual hand hold if you need it xx

mummmy2017 · 26/03/2019 15:00

Even if you had a sweep, it might not of worked, don't worry all your worries will vanish when you hold little one...

coffeeaddiction · 26/03/2019 15:04

Can't offer any advice but just wanted to wish you lots of luck !

Newyearsameoldshit · 26/03/2019 16:09

Well done for getting the pessary done, great idea to stick your tablet/headphones on and try and zone out - hope you can get some peace on the ward! x

GooodMythicalMorning · 26/03/2019 16:15

good luck. hope it all kicks off for you soon.

RingOfAppreciation · 26/03/2019 16:44

Well done on getting the pessary done 💪🏻 Try as best you can to relax, and if you feel up to it, go for a walk around the hospital or use your birthing ball.

jputthekettleon · 26/03/2019 17:04

I found sweep and pessary really painful wasn't expecting it to be painful at all. Really shocked me. Didn't hurt by second pessary. Not sure why. Sorry not offering much help just wanted to leave a supportive message that you are not a failure. Pregnancy and birth are a big deal. Take care. Hope you are okay.

DiaryofWimpyMumm · 26/03/2019 17:30

Good luck. I hope you can chill out a bit with your tablet. I agree sweeps are awful.

doodles1234 · 26/03/2019 17:47

If it makes you feel any better i came in ti be induced yesterday!

The 1st 24hr pessory slid out after a couple of hours, so I had another re-inserted, this came dislodged and then slid out again 5 or so hours later, so a 3rd was put in and slid out just before it was due to be removed!

The 1st pessory has done nothing, no real pains, no further dialation Nothing.

The 2nd pessory (1st 6hour one) inserted and after 6 hours nothing, another internal and no further dilation.

3rd pessory inserted now and waiting - am being told I could end up with a 4th or a 5th and can't go home till my baby is delivered.

Don't feel bad, sometime things just don't go to plan - that's what I'm telling myself

Good luck x

JustHavinABreak · 26/03/2019 22:40

How are you feeling OP? Hopefully you're engrossed in something on your tablet and the time is just slipping by!!

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dobbysmum · 26/03/2019 23:44

Quick update. My waters have broken. Because of the extra fluid it went everuwhere.contractions strong, painful and very close together but midwidlves still not keen on husband coming in.
They are going to let him if he stays in my room and "doesn't get seen by other patients", but he'll have to go back home if labour not established.
I saw all that fluid and panicked, rang him straight away to come in.

On the Doppler now, crying in so much pain

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Mrsmummy90 · 27/03/2019 07:08

Sending you massive hugs! I hope that your baby will be in your arms soon xxx