Everyone obsessed with 'one of each'

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Feeling a bit annoyed after another comment along the lines of 'hopefully its a boy so you don't need to have anymore' (we have a DD)

I don't get the obsession with having to have a boy? Me and DH would be ecstatic with 2 DD's but apparently no one else will be! All of my family and his have said, I think you will have a boy, hopefully because it would be nice to buy for a boy ! There has been 3 boys in my family in the last 2 years 🤨🤨🤨

Do I just smile or do I say actually id be more than happy if I never had a boy, 2 girls would be perfect thanks 😁

We’re expecting twins and get a lot of “ooh, it would be good to have one of each and get the family out of the way in one go” as if we’re going to automatically try for more children if we have 2 the same. As it happens we’d quite like it to be one of each as this will be our first and last pregnancy but, by the same token, so long as both babies are healthy and everything is where it should be and doing what it should do, we’ll be the happiest parents there are!!

I get exactly the same! Me and DH have a DD and were secretly hoping for another girl just so we wouldn't have to buy anymore clothes haha. But everyone else wanted a boy, and according to 20 week scan it is a boy so everyone happy.
I more hate that everyone says you can stop now though. Like the only reason to have more would be in hopes it's a certain sex

I have a 2.5 year old DS & have just found out I’m pregnant with DS2. I think a couple of family members are disappointed but I think that’s mainly because the last 2 babies in the family have been boys. I’ve received some insensitive comments from “friends” saying how disappointed I must be & how sad it is that once my boys grow up they won’t see me anymore. Some people are just stupid.

Totally agree, we get the same. We have a daughter and I would genuinely be happy with another daughter, would save me a small fortune!

It’s ridiculous isn’t it. What is with people and their obsession with the perfect ‘one of each’. It’s as if your only the perfect family when you’ve got the typical dad, mum, son and daughter. And a dog!!!!
I’ve got a 10 week old son and I love him so god damn much that I couldn’t imagine being unhappy with another son. Wouldn’t I love him exactly like I love my first.
Infact I now crave another son because my boy is so perfect I want another one of him. And plus he’s got so many beautiful clothes that I could re-use. Atleast i woudnt have to buy everything again.
But anyhow, If I do have a daughter I’d be just as chuffed. I really don’t see why it matters. As long as my next is healthy then I’m a blessed human being x

Glad its not just me that gets frustrated 😁

I say "well we weren't planning on breeding them so we don't need one of each". Fairly rude but so are they and it definitely shuts them up!

Yeeeees!!! I have two small boys and everyone acted like I must be so disappointed when ds2 came along. We are thinking of having a third and everyone is saying, ‘aaah so you’re trying for a girl.’ No??? I couldn’t give a toss if it has a penis or a vagina!?

@Falafel19 excellent response, am stealing!

I have two girls. I had this on all my social profiles for a while

I've got one of each...two boys, one brown eyed brunette and one blue eyed blonde!
They are so much more than what's between their legs, I cant imagine it any other way.

It doesn’t stop once you’ve had them either - we have 4dc, G B G B and have been told numerous times how clever we are.

Our lovely DS1 spent the first few months of his life in ICU. He went through several operations, and we were warned by the doctors that he might not make it.

We adore DS1, and would not change anything about him. However, I was very pleased when out second son was born totally healthy, as it meant that he did not have to go through the pain and difficulties that his brother did.

Several people made comments along the lines of "never mind" and "maybe next time" when DS2 was born. I was so upset that they could not see how amazing DS2 was. I felt like the luckiest person in the world when I was able to take my new born baby home from hospital, hold him, feed him, dress him , bath him etc.

My boys are best friends, and I am glad that they are my children because they are themselves and perfect to me.

Imo it would be easier have two of the same sex. Hand me down clothes, same buggy plus shared toys etc. However I suppose it's an experience thing as you get different experiences with different genders. I have a DS and must admit I would love a DD! Purely because I like drawing, dress up and glitter all things my DS hates so these activities are reserved for spending time with my niece.

Agh yes totally agree, when my DD was just a few months old an uncle meeting her for the first time said “now you just need to have a boy next and then it’ll be perfect.” As he was looking down at her in his arms! That really stung, as if she wasn’t enough on her own!

We hope for another DD for the same reason a PP said, we’ve saved all her clothes. And also, we absolutely adore her, I’d happily have a million of her.

Congratulations, OP. Hope the pregnancy all goes well.

@hazandduck thank you! DH secretly wants a girl and keeps telling me its a girl 😜

It's so stupid, I already have one of each so when I announced I was pregnant again everyone was like why you have 1 of each there's no need to have anymore children !, It shocks me that people don't actually think before they speak when there are pregnant woman involved. As long as baby is healthy I've never minded what I was having and I know most don't, my friend has 3 girls and is very happy with them but the amount of comments where she gets asked if she's upset she doesn't have a boy or if she's going to try again for boy is unreal

I think the main thing is that you and your DH would be happy with a boy or girl. It must be really awful when one/both of the parents wants it to be one particular sex and gets the other.

I have a DS, only 13 months and currently 8 months pregnant with another boy. Love that I'll have 2 boys! They'll be like best friends. Always loved the thought of 2 girls or 2 boys, instead of one of each

When I was pg with DC2 (already had a DD) MIL informed me that "life would be less interesting" if I had another DD.

I had another DD.

Life's plenty interesting, thanks

@ApocalypseNowt oh god! MIL's and their comments I am SO glad we no longer speak to my MIL! She and FIL are not together but speak everyday 🙄 so she probably knows I am pregnant hasn't bothered to text though!

I know she would have something to say about it being a boy over a girl! She never even liked her own daughter the witch 😬 xx

I don’t understand it either, OP. We have 5 DDs and we are genuinely delighted. Would also have been delighted if any of them had been boys I’m sure.

I always thought I’d want 1 of each. Now we have DD I couldn’t care less, if we have another DD then great we have all of her clothes, if we have DS then great he has some of DDs neutral clothing and we get to buy more tiny human clothes.

All I hope is that we make it to term 🤞🏼

I have a son, and pregnant with a girl and everyone says "Thats perfect. You don't need to have anymore kids now" ....my OH and i would like a big family. I think there is nothing we can do about these comments, although sometimes i wish i could slap people 😂😂 At least i know how annoying it is and i will NEVER say those kind of things to anyone.

I have a dd and am pregnant with dd2. Before finding out her sex, we had a lot of comments along the lines of "are you hoping for a boy?" It wound me up so much that I'd always reply "no. I'm hoping for a dinosaur."
People would usually not mention it again! 😂