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Inappropriate things people say when you announce

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Wedgiecar58 · 04/03/2019 14:34

Just for fun chats, I'm not actually offended by any of these (luckily!) ...

My brother said "I thought you were looking chubby" - TBF he isn't wrong, I was in the peak of first-trimester bloat.

My boss at work "Oh wow, was it planned?"

My colleague "I thought you've been eating loads more than usual, I said to Sally in Accounts!"

My aunt - "omg you're going to be a giant whale in the height of summer"

My Zumba teacher "Make sure you use a good body cream, she sister's middle was absolutely DESTROYED by stretch marks!"

Anyone got any to share?

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Sladurche · 05/03/2019 11:35

"Oh, no, you're kidding. Don't expect me to look after it". My DM......

MondeoFan · 05/03/2019 11:43

Yep loads

"I'm guessing I won't see you much anymore then" from a VERY jealous ex best friend at the time.

"What in that small house" work colleague referring to my 2 bed bungalow.

"Guessing they will be an only child then" WTF and why?

iamapixiebutnotaniceone · 05/03/2019 12:03

You do have other options you know. My boss that I had just met that day! (she was new, not me!) to be fair to her I was quite clearly devastated at being pregnant again having only had my fourth child six months earlier!

Mrsblackforrestgateaux · 05/03/2019 14:46

When pregnant with DC1 mil said oh I didn't know you were trying?? Who the hell discusses their sex life with their mil?

When pregnant with DC2 (he was a huge shock but still) mil again said oh I didn't know you were trying and if you find out the sex of the baby I don't want to know until its born 😠 not even a congratulations or anything

Floralmoral · 05/03/2019 16:02

Beautifully unkind comment from someone who I am no longer friends with:
“Oh I just can’t imagine you as a mother! You know, with all your partying and drinking and immaturity!”

Soubriquet · 05/03/2019 16:05

My Nan with my second pregnancy...

“Oh you bloody idiot”

To be fair, I had struggled with my first pregnancy. ALOT. But still she shouldn’t have said anything like that.

FurrySlipperBoots · 05/03/2019 16:09

My gran to my mum (who was 29, and had been married for years) on being told of her first pregnancy:

Stunned silence '...Oh what am I going to tell me friends?'

Her reaction was even weirder when I was announced 4 years later - then she pretty much went NC with my mum!

Megan2018 · 05/03/2019 16:12

I told my team yesterday - I knew it would be a shock as I am nearly 41 and am known for not being much keen on children (I am hoping I will feel differently about my own!)

Lots of ooh and ahhs from most people - but one of the team came in to my office to ask me very seriously "Is this good news, are you pleased?" followed by "I am worried that this isn't planned and you are unhappy because you prefer animals".

Weird. But this person is very literal. I mean I do love animals (I have a lot) but I will love my baby too!

GabbyGal · 05/03/2019 16:32

My 60 year old uncle when I confirmed that yes, it was planned: oh good, good... and I mean you’re still sort of young. (I’m 34)

My male boss who’s younger than me: That’s great news for you but not great for me is it? (He did mean it in a nice way, as in he’ll miss me when I go on maternity leave 😂)

Blue92x · 05/03/2019 16:39

With my first I found out I was pregnant at 19

My mum hit the roof and told me I should of gone through gene therapy because the father had missing ends of his fingers (genetic) my daughter has the same. So baby wouldn’t be bullied when they got older. However DD is 6.5 now and she wouldn’t change her for the world

My dad said kids are for life not just the benefits!

Second time around with diff partner (admittedly more settled, engaged and been together longer before getting pregnant this time and 26)

Mum - omg I didn’t know you were trying I’m so happy for you
Dad didn’t say anything he’s not a kid person tbh.

PhoebeBear · 05/03/2019 22:20

Everyone was happy and I didn't get anything than good replies.. until I told my boss and she just went 'uh' and nodded her head. IT.WAS.SO.AWKWARD.
I then sat in the staff room and another employee who already knew about my pregnancy asked if I told my boss yet while team leaders and management were sitting there. They all just looked at me funny and I said 'yeah I'm pregnant' and they went 'oh' and carried on eating their dinner. What a way to feel like a kick in the face eh

Firsttimeuser12 · 05/03/2019 23:13

Stepbrother 'didn't think parenthood was for you '

I replied saying I thought the same about you.

What is wrong with some people

bubblegumbottles · 05/03/2019 23:22

Anything along the lines of 'Oh well that's the end of (insert fun thing here) for you then!'

Oh, my bad. I didn't realise being a parent meant I had to have a personality transplant!

BertrandRussell · 05/03/2019 23:26

My fil never forgave himself for saying “well, this is one we won’t have to worry about!” (His other grandchildren all had complicated lives) I miscarried the following week. He was so sad.

Twolittlebears · 06/03/2019 02:27

Colleague (when I was 38 weeks and had put on 70 lbs) - well, people aren't used to seeing someone your size

grinningcheshirecat · 06/03/2019 08:42

@PhoebeBear it sounds like your boss might have had struggles themselves on the pregnancy/ babyfront. I worked somewhere for ten years when I had a miscarriage, then two colleagues (that I chatted to on a very regular bases) both told me about their first babies that died (in one case two weeks) after birth. They hadn't talked about it in all these years till they were confronted with my news and felt the need to tell me. That taggt me that there are many more people with losses than you will even know. So your boss might be just trying to hold it together while you told the good news.

PhoebeBear · 07/03/2019 11:06

@grinningcheshirecat there was another team leader pregnant (she's on leave now) and they were over the moon for her! They bought her flowers and once she announced it was a girl the staff room was always full of presents for her. I wasn't too fussed as I knew I only had to tell them because of my job I lift heavy boxes etc. Just felt a bit like I had let them down but hey-ho. They're okay with me now, I showed them a 3D ultrasound of my little boy and they seemed happy x

Starrygirl12 · 07/03/2019 13:56

Are you happy?

Was it planned?

BertrandRussell · 07/03/2019 14:00

Actually, I think that for someone you know reasonably well, “Are you happy?” isn’t inappropriate at all.

Starrygirl12 · 07/03/2019 14:05

@BertrandRussell I can see why you would say that but to me it was the other one is well done to my husband

wbk17 · 08/03/2019 12:20

This is making me very nervous to tell my family, probably because I know their reactions will be along the lines of what everyone's been listing!

Gumbo · 08/03/2019 12:25

"You should get your tubes tied" - after announcing 2nd pg to brother. I had 1 child already - just 1, not 10... (I went on to lose that - and subsequent babies, and have now been NC with brother for many years)... Tosser.

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