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Inappropriate things people say when you announce

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Wedgiecar58 · 04/03/2019 14:34

Just for fun chats, I'm not actually offended by any of these (luckily!) ...

My brother said "I thought you were looking chubby" - TBF he isn't wrong, I was in the peak of first-trimester bloat.

My boss at work "Oh wow, was it planned?"

My colleague "I thought you've been eating loads more than usual, I said to Sally in Accounts!"

My aunt - "omg you're going to be a giant whale in the height of summer"

My Zumba teacher "Make sure you use a good body cream, she sister's middle was absolutely DESTROYED by stretch marks!"

Anyone got any to share?

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afternoontwee · 04/03/2019 21:43

"Is this good news/are we happy about this?"

Nah mate, I'm devved, but still decided to share the news with a million smiley faces and a thrilled phone call for some reason.

Rolling my eyes so hard I put my back out.

Kismetjayn · 04/03/2019 21:47

'Oh no'
'Are you going to keep it?'
'(air sucked in through teeth sound and raised eyebrows)' courtesy of partner's own dad

Tbf I had just turned 20, but still

Cosmogirl86 · 04/03/2019 22:25

Worst thing ever was telling my friend the 8 week viability scan found two heartbeats, and he told me not to get too attached because of vanishing twin syndrome... Ridiculously inappropriate

doodlejump1980 · 04/03/2019 22:29

Mil, I know someone who had boy twins and they both turned out to be gay.
And?

Hairwizard · 04/03/2019 22:30

Mil : you need a licence. (We arent married yet...)
The usual, 'was it planned?' (How fucking rude)
Sil : do youse not know what contraception is? (As its 3rd pg you are a bit fucking late to start with that)
Also sil : youse should have waited at least another year. (Erm, none of your fucking business)

Hairwizard · 04/03/2019 22:32

@gabby

Omfg i get 'husband' instead of partner too. I only have an engagement ring on, not that fucking hard to grasp.

kayakingmum · 04/03/2019 22:39

I'd been with my partner for 3 or 4 years before conception and it took a few months to falk pregnant. I'm definitely not the type to be unfaithful but the first thing my mum and brother (separately when I told them) was - who's the father.
I burst into tears when mum said that. Definitely not the response I was expecting. The only reason I can think of her and my brother saying it was because we're not married. I announced my second pregnancy through WhatsApp to minimise the risk of any negative reactions.

Rememberallball · 04/03/2019 22:45

One of my siblings, when we told them 3 weeks ago “Oh, I did wonder when you said you had sea sickness” - actually, yes I did have sea sickness as it was a crappy 6 day transatlantic sailing from UK to Bermuda in early February!!

Justus22 · 04/03/2019 22:55

It doesn't offend me at all but baby number 4 and we've been asked "don't you have a TV?" about 10 times now. Also the "I bet you want a girl don't you?" as usual, winds me right up despite me knowing most aren't being nasty just making Conversation. I get "your brave" a lot too 😆

SpottedTiger · 04/03/2019 22:57

FIL: Well, these things happen (we had been trying a few years and about to start fertility treatment.)

DHs mate: Are you sure it's yours? (DH responded by giving him somewhat too much detail about why it was definately his )

My boss: Well we planned our children around our work commitments.

Most astonishingly, when I finished for Mat leave, some of my collegues hadn't realised I was pregnant at all, assuming they just thought I'd got fat!

beforeihit30 · 05/03/2019 00:49

I really don’t get the “was it planned?” question and why it’s so common, as it’s such an odd and personal thing to ask! It’s never crossed my mind to ask it if anyone else.

However, mine has always been a take on that - I’m pg with DC3, and each time it’s been a statement not a question, eg “Well obviously that wasn’t planned” or “Wow bet you were surprised!”.

I have no idea why everyone is so confident that none of my children have been planned! I’ve been married for 10 years, the DCs are relatively spaced out age-wise, we have sufficient space in our house for multiple children and I have a very good job that is family friendly with a great maternity scheme...

You don’t need all of those things to have children, but given our circumstances I don’t think it looks all that shocking on paper that my husband and I have actively planned to have children

beforeihit30 · 05/03/2019 00:52

(By the way that’s not meant to sound like some sort of weird stealth boast, reading it back, I’ve just been trying to figure out what aspect of me and my life indicates to friends and relatives that I keep accidentally having children...)

AGnu · 05/03/2019 01:22

All from the same relative:
DC1 - "Oh, really? Umm... Ok... I don't really know what to say..." Maybe, congratulations?!
DC2 - "Oh... I thought we were waiting a bit longer..."
DC3 - "I don't understand... I didn't think you were going to have any more..."

That relative is not DH so there's definitely no "we" in the decision making! All of them were planned. I'd said I wanted the first 2 close together & actually waited a bit longer than we'd originally planned. I also didn't keep it a secret that I wanted more than 2 so why she should've thought we were done at 2 I have no idea!

Hairwizard · 05/03/2019 09:18

Some people are so rude. Cant believe the nerve of some folk.

Ribbonsonabox · 05/03/2019 09:21

'Wow that's brave after your last birth!'.... yeah mate thanks for bringing that up

Kukumbr · 05/03/2019 09:22

‘oh, I thought you’d put weight on!’ although I was 20 weeks by that point.

‘Oh so you WERE pregnant at your wedding!’ No! I was not. Do the maths

BlueMerchant · 05/03/2019 09:27

My friend announced she was pregnant and for some reason, maybe shock I blurted out " Is it Craig's?". Craig is her much loved husband who friend is very much in love with and they had been trying for baby for years. I was devastated at what I had said.

Wifelife · 05/03/2019 09:30

“Gosh I wasn’t even thinking about babies at 27! I wanted to live first” (sonographer)

“You’re only a baby yourself” (midwife when I confirmed my D.O.B)

I’m 27, married for 2 years hardly teenage!

“Oh you do realise your baby’s birth certificate will say Luton” (friend, when I told her which hospital I was booked into...)

What is that supposed to mean?!

Ribbonsonabox · 05/03/2019 09:32

Haha my close friend asked if it was my husbands when I told her I was pregnant.. second child as well lol! I just thought it was funny I wasnt offended

ohmywhattodo · 05/03/2019 09:42

Before I told my parents I was expecting my 3rd but was feeling unwell with morning sickness my dm said “let’s hope you’re not pregnant because that would be a disaster!” When I was expecting my 4th & I was upset non of my siblings had bothered to say congrats dm said “no one cares when it’s your 4th - they didn’t when I had you!”(I was her 4th) When I was expecting my 5th and my eldest brother his 1st (a boy) Dm said “a proper (family surname) at last!” My children have my married name - something that was a sore point between myself and my dh, which dm knew.

blondeirishmummy84 · 05/03/2019 09:52

My Dads wife when I became pregnant with my first - 'I didnt think you wanted to be a mother' . Clearly never made an effort to get to know me properly.

After I had an emergency c section with DS1 my aunt said - 'Gone are your days of wearing a bikini then'.
Not that I care either way, but how is that so?

And when I became pregnant with my second, several people said to me - ''you'll be hoping for a girl then'.
erm no, I will be hoping for a healthy little human being more tyhan any gender

CallMeRachel · 05/03/2019 10:34

Pregnant as a 19 yo, told my Mother. I was still living at home. "Oh God! What are you going to do? You need to get married"

I told my Boyfriend after he returned from his lads holiday. His response was "Is it mine?".

No marriage proposal and no support from either so I had to terminate.

Years later, pregnancy announced to Mil by dh, her response "I thought you would have waited".

Cookit · 05/03/2019 11:02

the first thing my mum and brother (separately when I told them) was - who's the father.
I burst into tears when mum said that

That’s horrible, what the hell?

My Dad came out with some awful ones:

“you don’t seem very maternal to me”
“I thought you weren’t going to have a second?” (I’d never discussed anything of the sort with him but he didn’t let it lie and argued and argued that i’d definitely told him).

I also had from someone at work the gasp “but you’re not married!”. I was 30, homeowner, stable job, long term partner etc.

eightoclock · 05/03/2019 11:15

Almost everyone has asked if it was planned.
The funniest was a friend, her partner, 2 teenage sons and 8 year old daughter were all standing in the group: 'how did it happen?'
Not had any negative comments at all apart from FIL - 'it'd better be a boy'
Well he will be seeing very little of it either way so not to worry

nuggles · 05/03/2019 11:18

MIL when we told her about DS1 (my first) oh my gosh, I don’t know how I feel about becoming a grandma. - then proceeded to tell everyone she knew SHE was having a baby

Dads friend: oh, thought you were a career woman and didn’t think you were a maternal person

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