Positivity, please.

[MrsF90]

I am looking for some positivity!
After a whirlwind surprise of falling pregnant in our first month of TTC (I’m about 5weeks currently), I am now worried this is all too good to be true. Most posts I read on here are about early scans and everyone worrying. What I need is some positivity! The fear of miscarriage keeps me awake at night (as I suffer from health anxiety) and I’m trying to calm myself with the knowledge that 75% of babies are NOT miscarried.
Any one else feeling the same way?

Having a real meltdown today. My morning sickness had been really bad for a few days but has now mostly gone away. Rationally I know pregnancy symptoms can come and go in the first few weeks but I'm terrified something has gone wrong.

Dustydoorframes that is brilliant!! I just enjoyed playing on that quite a lot.
Onlyinanemergency I think that’s quite normal. I’ve been feeling really fine some days and really poorly other days. Right now I feel like I have a cracking hangover (ironic much) but other days I’ve been absolutely great. Any more experienced mummies have a clue on this one?

Thanks MrsF90. I know this thread is supposed to be about positivity but I am just so anxious today.

Bless you, you 100% can’t help it don’t apologise. Xx

(How did you tag me? I can’t seem to work it out)

Going to jump on here. Conceived v quickly too and weren’t seriously trying but now all I can think about is MC. 2 months until scan is going to kill me! Lovely to hear some positive stories!

@MrsF90 you can tag someone (on the app) by typing @ and then choosing their name from the options which appear. Or, you can just make their name bold (which is what we used to do before Mumsnet supported "at"ing people...) by pudding an asterisk on either side of their name, or a shortening of it. See, Mrs?

cegbee welcome! I’ve found it has helped to read the lovely stories when I’m feeling anxious at 4am when I can’t sleep. How many weeks are you? I’m 5+5 today. So still VERY early days.

@MrsF90 I'm only 4+6! Took a test when my period was 1 day late and really didn't expect it to be positive! I'm 35, first pregnancy and it's my husband's 40th bday party tonight. Will have to try and hide my non-drinking all night (very abnormal for me!!). X

Have recently had beautiful baby and my honest advice is to just enjoy it!!! Google became an enabler of hypocondria. I worried nearly the whole time even when I felt her punch and kick and do both at the same time 😂😂 I'd love to try again and I'd definitely do it differently as I had a great pregnancy (1st) and quick labour. I had no problems and gave a beautiful daughter. It's the most brilliant feeling and you are going to love it 🥰

I was the exact same as you OP. Conceived early, and I just kept thinking it was too good to be true. I'll be honest I wasn't too positive....I got myself ready for seeing no heartbeat in scan/something would go wrong etc. And then my friend kept telling me that people "just know" when things are ok...and that made me panic even more!! I didn't "just know"....I worried! A lot!!
I just had a word with myself and kept reminding myself how lucky this baby was. I was only so anxious because this little one was so loved. I was also really honest with my husband and family about it, as I felt like I wasn't acting excited! I was just worried!!

The pregnancy that made me THAT anxious has resulted in my amazing daughter, who is now 6 days old. She's absolutely perfect and gorgeous and worth every second of worrying!!

@MrsF90 I'm doing well thanks. I feel much more relaxed now than I did last week.
I've got my GP appointment on Friday which will make it seem more real.
I've been cramping quite a bit but no blood so decided not to worry about it.
How are you feeling?

cegbee have a wonderful party!! What a reason to celebrate 😊

bluebell9 am feeling mostly ok. Quite hungover type feeling most of the time. Just spent two solid days at uni lectures though (doing a masters level qualification on top of normal work) and am EXHAUSTED. I’ve had a very tight feeling lower tummy, so I’m hoping that’s a good sign.

I’ll be pretending tonight too as we’re going out to dinner with the in-laws and they don’t know yet.

I had the tightening and extreme cramps and was assured that it was all part of baby attaching herself an she certainly did that 😍 ladies I am so excited for you all. Make sure and pamper yourself too (throughout) with long lie ins, smellies and treats etc this is your best time to be selfish!!!

I concieved first try with my first child and my current pregnancy (currently 24 weeks). Many people only post when they need support for something going wrong (understandably!) but it does skew the conversations. Of course it’s so important to talk about miscarriage and to support people going through tough times in pregnancy, but it really did give me so much fear in my first pregnancy- I’m a lot more laid back this time!

Hello positive people!
How are we all doing? Xx

I am twenty weeks now, and I experienced complications that turned my pregnancy high risk.

I wanted to post here to let you know: I had no desire to chat online about my pregnancy until these troubles started (around week 17) and I could find no one in my direct environment who experienced such uncertainty and complications in their second trimester. The conversations here are so skewed for that simple reason. There is every chance in the world you'll have a healthy baby and a straightforward pregnancy (prepare for some annoying and wacky stuff to happen to your body - but everything will very likely work out just fine).

Completely feel the same, all you see is threads about worries/peoples bad experiences.
Think of it like a holiday review, people go out of there way to talk about bad experiences but not so much the good!

I’m 9 weeks today in my first ever pregnancy and have anxiety of waiting until my first scan. Wondering if something’s gone wrong.
Hardly got any symptoms either apart from tiredness and abit of reflux/wind.
Worried I’ve not got any nausea but then I keep reminding myself I’m not anyone else. I am me just like you are you and we all have unique experiences!
Good luck

I had this big time during pregnancy. Only thing I can say is just remember that whatever may or may not happen, your current status is 'pregnant.' Enjoy every second of it, don't waste these precious moments while they're here. When I had an MC I still appreciated being pregnant for the time that I did. I then went on to have a healthy baby.

Hello @MrsF90.
I'm good thanks. 6+1 now and saw the GP on Friday so she has referred me for my booking in with the midwife.
I've been getting nausea and having lots of trouble sleeping at the moment. My DP is away for 3 weeks with work (back at weekends) so I've got the whole bed to myself but I still can't get comfy!
Its starting to feel more real now, I'm getting more excited about it.

Thank you wiseblankie and merrydoula for your positivity!
Luna and Bluebell- I’m about 7 weeks today. It seems like time is standing still. Feeling tired and I feel very sick if I get too hungry!! Otherwise not feeling too bad. A bit of a crampy tummy but I’m hoping that means it’s all growing nicely in there. My midwife appointment is a week tomorrow which I think will make things seem more real. I just think every day that passes is another day closer to that moment of 12 weeks when we can start to enjoy it and tell family/friends. Xx

I got my midwife appointment through for the 26th March when I'll be 9+2. Is your DH/DP going with you for yours?
It still doesn't seem real that I'm pregnant although the constant nausea reminds me that I am!

DH isn’t coming with me as he works during the day and it’s at lunchtime. I’m going it alone!
It hasn’t sunk in for me either- I can’t believe it really!! The meltdown I had at work yesterday (full crying several times) was a reminder. Luckily, not been feeling TOO sick.. x

I've not been too bad with the hormones and crying.
DP isn't coming to the booking in appt either. He said he would if I wanted him to but he'll be at work.
My boobs keep growing, I was an E cup before I got pregnant and now I'm struggling to do up coats and still be able to breath!
Still got the nausea and sleeping badly at night too. It'll all be worth it in the end!
How are you getting on?

In lots of ways it’s so exciting with all the symptoms!
I feel generally ok today but had an awful day yesterday- I gagged on my toothpaste!
Boobs are out of control here too. I’ve taken to wearing elastic sports bra type things until I think it’s “safe” enough to go and buy some maternity ones.
Midwife appointment is tomorrow- exciting!

Good luck for the midwife appointment! That's very exciting!

I'm trying to hold off buying any new bras yet too, but I'm not sure I'll be able to last until after the scan.