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Pre birth assesment social services

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 17:05

I’m looking for some advice I’m pregnant and just had a pre birth assesment. She told me the outcomes were child in need or child protection. I lost my daughter after having her 4 years ago. She said the outcome of this pre birth assesment was there wasn’t any concerns ( they dont think child in need or child protection) it seems to good to be true as there was so many concerns with my first child and none of them were mentioned. What’s the stages now? I haven’t had confirmation yet? Will they have concerns when baby’s born? Will they take baby although there saying the pre birth assesment was done and ok? Do they have to have a meeting now? Will they get back involved

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LovingLola · 15/02/2019 17:09

What were the concerns with your first child ?

LovingLola · 15/02/2019 17:10

Is the father of this baby the same father as your first?

YogaWannabe · 15/02/2019 17:11

Lost your first daughter, in what way do you mean?
Sorry if that’s insensitive Flowers

Hubblebubbletripletrouble · 15/02/2019 17:17

Are your circumstances different to when you lost your first child, then?

MostlyBoastly · 15/02/2019 17:19

Very hard to gauge risk factors OP without any background information. If you mean is this the end of it? No, you will be regularly reviewed throughout.

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 17:20

They said I was unable to protect my first child I had a dv incident with the dad and he had dv incidents with ex girlfriends also he Had sexual assault. My new baby’s dad is different. He has a couple of common assault convictions but no dv. He had a drink and drug problem and this is why his convictions happened. Since finding out he’s going to be a dad he’s kept out of trouble and goes councelling and groups for his previous drug problem. He has never been violent to me or another woman

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YogaWannabe · 15/02/2019 17:25

Where is your first child?

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 17:25

Longer term foster care

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 17:27

Surely they would know all of my background and information as they would have it all? Surely they knew all this when they did the pre birth?

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YogaWannabe · 15/02/2019 17:39

Could you make an effort on getting your first child home?

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 17:52

I have tried the decision was I wouldn’t!

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MostlyBoastly · 15/02/2019 17:53

They do know all of that. They can’t, however, be completely confident with how things will progress with your new child so there will need to be close monitoring.

MostlyBoastly · 15/02/2019 17:54

Do you have any contact with your ex?

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 17:58

No I don’t have contact with him and that’s why I’m suprised I’m on on any plan like child in need or child protection? I don’t know what the next steps are or what’s going to happen :(

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 17:58

Also my ex partner wasn’t even mentioned

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NotAgainSilly · 15/02/2019 18:01

that’s why I’m suprised I’m on on any plan like child in need or child protection?

You have a child in long term foster care!

bubblegumbottles · 15/02/2019 18:05

You've lost me OP... are you saying you are on child protection or not?

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 18:05

I ment I’m suprised I’m NOT on any

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MostlyBoastly · 15/02/2019 18:09

Your ex won’t be mentioned because this is a plan about your new baby. However, they sit alongside a wealth of other paperwork that, as a complete assessment, flag up potential issues down the line. Did you honestly disclose the convictions of your new partner?

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 18:11

Yes she did checks

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 18:13

So what happens now if they have closed the case? Will they only reopen if there is new concerns? If they think I don’t need child in need or child protection then surely i won’t lose my baby

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MostlyBoastly · 15/02/2019 18:13

Did she speak to you about continued monitoring?

MostlyBoastly · 15/02/2019 18:14

In all likelihood, when you disclose your relationship with SS to health visitors and midwives, that will trigger contact. HV will liaise with SS about any concerns and the progress of the child.

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RhianonS10 · 15/02/2019 18:14

No she said I haven’t met threshold and there’s people that do need there help and I don’t

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