Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.
MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk
If you need help in obtaining medication, phone them on:
024 7638 2020
Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy
I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.
Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.
It has been suggested that I add some practical tooth cleaning advice: a lot of sufferers find using a child's small toothbrush and strawberry toothpaste far less nauseating.
On my image of a pink castle: that is an image I use because when I was little, my family had a Snakes and Ladders board with an image on the last square of a pink castle in the clouds. As Hyperemesis is so like a grotesque version of Snakes and Ladders - eat a meal, go up a ladder, first thing in the morning bile run, down a snake - I have used the image of that pink castle on the last square of that Snakes and Ladders board as a metaphor for the happy end of Hyperemesis.

Advocadoo Goodness, poor you. I fnd it amazing you can stagger in to work, with all these extra strains. I do hope people are being a bit nicer.
Cheering on silversplodge and beanhunter. Thinking of everyone...

Wow it’s been quite eventful for some of you, I hope you are all well

19 weeks now. Nausea has been up a bit over the past week (humph). Have had a couple of days where I can’t go past 3pm and need to go for a lie down for several hours. I’ve not done much so it’s not about over exerting myself, but I do get up in the morning more often so that might be where the exertion is coming from if that makes sense.

I’m signed off for a couple more weeks. Still doesn’t feel like I’ve reached return to work levels yet, I guess I thought once upon a time I’d be sorted by now! I also feel huge (I’m not actually huge, I’m not 3rd trimester big, but my stomach is big nonetheless) and the skin on my tummy keeps flaking because of the skin stretching (despite my copious moisturising). My complexion is still rubbish. Told DH this is a big part of what puts me off more children, it’s not more children but more pregnancies that is daunting. He was very understanding! (I’ve also had this same conversation with him in my previous pregnancies so I’ve obviously not committed to the sentiment in the past!).

So basically I’m tired, I feel huge, and spotty, and a bit pathetic, and I’m ready to have my baby. 20 weeks left!

beforei I'm totally with you on the ready to have my baby front, or at least not be pregnant anymore. I've woken a few times tonight with a lot of pains and tightenings in my belly, as well as feeling v sick and v much like I need to pop*but no poo forthcoming). At midnight I was able to settle things a little by puking. But woke up an hour ago in agony in my lower left back, same v intense pains and tightenings at bottom of bump and still no poo but thus time no puking either. Also don't think I've felt baby move for a while. So off to hospital again. Concerned my body has decided this baby is better out than in, but the pains don't feel like contractions did with my son - just painful rather than productive.

Poor you @eallison88 such a lot of going back and forth which must be exhausting, I hope things settle x
@beforeIhit30 you're having a very rough time and I can imagine the tiredness is making it much worse. I'm only a few days ahead of you I think and really sympathise. I was like this last time but luckily seem to be able to manage as long as I'm in bed early now. I'd rest as much as you possibly can, I know it's hard though as it's really out of your control and it's so boring being stuck in bed all the time. I hope things get easier soon x

Admitted for monitoring. Upon arrival I started bleeding. Doctors happy baby is fine (2 hours on CTG plus a scsn). I've been admitted to delivery initially; I have a drip and am being monitored for 4 hours to check I'm not in preterm labour, which it seems I might be. If I'm not they'll transfer me up to antenatal for 24 hours. Food will be fun, but for once I'm glad they've admitted me, and committed to do so for a decent length of time. Hopefully when I leave thus time it will be fully hydrated, but free, and with baby still inside!! Hope everyone else managed a more peaceful night than I did!!

Oh eallison so much going on for you, hope all goes well at the hospital. I had pains with DC2 and thought I might be going into labour as they were scarily regular, was monitored but turned out it was more like Braxton Hicks, the only was to stop them was to rest (ie barely move!). It’s disconcerting and uncomfortable, but hopefully your pains are more of the false variety.

norbert it could be so much worse, which I remind myself of, just going through a moment of self pitying this week being bored/unproductive does seem to be a large part of it, I’m just so I used to it, I’m not one of those people that goes on about how busy they are (!), but I’m just used to doing things most days - I’m usually out of the house pretty much every day of the week, either for work or for family outings etc - plus doing household tasks too when at home, so doing so little is just weird, and I’ve been like this for 14 weeks now which is just a whole new experience, I’ve never been ill for so long.

However, I am learning some really important lessons about relaxing and letting go! Which is probably a good thing for me for the longer term

I mean “so unused to it”, my autocorrect has been going wild lately...

eallison My goodness, I am sorry to hear that there has been more bleeding. You must be so fed up with visiting that hospital. Never worry about grim details. I am so glad it was a virus rather than the Hyperemesis alone.
ElieMacjibe Sorry, I congratulated you on the scan but didn't sympathise about the tube faint. Very brave of you to travel by tube when suffering from The Scourge.
norbert I also neglected to congratulate you on Alton Towers.
beforeihit30 Might feeling extra bad be due to the 20 week hormonal surge that so often afflicts sufferers? Don't rush back to work, Mother Hen says, flapping and clucking as ever.

Evening all!

@eallison88 I hope you are ok and that they are looking after you well 💐

@silversplodge I really get why the feeling of being trapped would worry you. For what’s it’s worth - I had a vomiting episode on the table as they were stitching me up last time. It was ok as they were able to tilt me sideways and give me a bowl. They also quickly popped anti sickness meds into the drip & it worked well. My first cuddle with ds involved them placing him on me & me shouting “get him off, I’m going to be sick!” 😂

@Reastie my story above might help with some of your worries about being sick during a section. I hope your heartburn is better today - it’s an evil thing!

@beanhunter plug is a good sign of things kicking off I think. Fingers crossed for you.

Well done on surviving CBeebies land @norbert23. Would you recommend? We won’t have a proper holiday this summer, but we’re thinking of taking ds to somewhere like that.

@beforeIhit30 I feel tired, huge, spotty & ready for pregnacy to be over at 12 weeks! It’s going to feel like a very long pregnancy! I’m also learning some big lessons around letting things go with this blasted hg! I’m usually so busy & on top of everything. It’s been hard to sit back, let things slide & let others take the reins.

I hope everyone else is ok. Sorry if I’ve missed anything.
Another good day here. Loads of vomiting this morning, but this afternoon we managed a little trip out to my sisters. So lovely to do something other than lie down.
I’m sure I’ll pay for it in exhaustion tomorrow, but with dh at work & both kids in school, there will be plenty of time to rest.

Cattaxi so the anti sickness on the iv worked ok? Did you have any anti sickness before that? I’ve neen told I can take cyclizine, ondansetron and metcloploride first thing before the section so will already be dosed with some medication.

Before I stilksteuggle with doing nothing. Today dh was decluttering and I wanted to do it so much but I know if I did it would be too much and had to sit on the sofa feeling pathetic for doing nothing still. I’m worried it’ll become habit by the time baby is here and I’ll just be generally very lazy and so not get back to my active self and how much of an effect it has had on my stamina. I feel I’m a weird way institutionalised, like I’m used to not going out or seeing people and normal life. Post pg will weirdly feel like I’ve just been let out of prison if that makes sense.

Eal let us have an update when you can, hope all ok.

Beforeihit I’m at exactly the same mental point as you except I have about 10 weeks left. I just keep thinking ‘remember when you had 35/30/25 etc weeks left? Now it’s down to 10. You can do this’ time is going, just ever so slowly.

Barely any bms today which can only mean one thing.....likely lots tomorrow mixed with high sickyness.

I'm now on the antenatal ward. I wa starting to feel better earlier, but now I'm puking again and can't tolerate food or drink. The care is much slower and less proactive in the antenatal ward. I'm the plus side, I don't appear to be in preterm labour.

*on the plus side, not I'm the plus side!

@Reastie I all honesty, I can’t remember what I was given before. The c-section came after a long failed induction. I had puked loads, but can’t remember if they gave me anti emetics. But I do remember them giving me them in theatre & they worked really quickly.

@eallison88 I’m glad you are not in preterm labour. But not glad you are feeling so I’ll. I hope you start feeling better very soon xx

Got home from work and slept from 2pm until 11pm yesterday arose for a chippy and went straight back to bed. Got woken up by work at 10am asking me to go cover a shift with a service user I know I cannot work with as I struggled on my one shift with them pre pregnancy (they're 20stone I can't move that safely with the parasite!!) I'm fuming cause I still haven't seen a risk assessment and they clearly don't care about me or the baby. I'm dreading work tomorrow because my colleague scares the shit out of me and I find it very stressful.
I'm desperate for my bed right now but I'm cooking a pie for dh to discover when he finishes work at 2am!

@Reastie I'm already planning being lazy with the baby, I'm so excited for joint nap times, accidentally let my nephew nap with me when I was babysitting 😂 and all three of my sisters kids had a pj day!

@eallison88 I hope you feel better soon and escape that place!💕

Everyone talking about c-section fears I'm with you I'm terrified of not having control and the thought of being stuck on my back unable to do anything makes me feel sick!

Hope everyone's had a good day!x

Definitely recommend CBeebies land @cattaxi it's expensive but so lovely watching their faces "meet" and see all the characters. We did the CBeebies hotel last year which was £££ but fantastic. If you can avoid school hols or go mid week it's tons cheaper! We're also not going to manage a proper holiday so I can justify nice short breaks instead 😀 I hope you get a nice, quiet day to rest today.
@Reastie It sounds like a rough day, hopefully the worst of it is over quickly so you can sleep.
@eallison88 Any better news? Thinking of you x
@avacadooo good luck at work - I wish they were being more supportive. You'd think that they'd be much more careful.

Oh dear. First day of the school holidays. Husband off work so was hoping he and the big girl could do something fun. Instead she’s woken up hot and miserable. Now hoping today isn’t labour day as would be unfair to ship her out to someone and so I would have to go to hospital alone. Also hoping I don’t get it - only just better from my bugs.

Very frustrating last night. I asked for another bag of fluids and was told that the doctor was happy I was fine and no more fluids. I asked how the doctor could possibly know whether I was dehydrated or not when she hasn't been to see me and I hadn't provided a urine sample since midday, before I was moved to the antenatal ward. I was then asked to produce a sample, at which point I laughed and said I peed 10mins ago, offered it as a sample was told no need, and said cos I'm dehydrated it'll.be q while til I can produce again! First thing this morning I peed for them and lo, 3+ ketones. Very quickly a bag of fluid was hung. I'm so pissed off. One of My consultants has clinic this morning, so I've insisted that I see her today. I know she won't be happy with my treatment. I'm still bleeding, and I've never bled for 24 hours, my bleeds last 30mins normally. I actually think that it's my bloody show, its very mucusy. It's every time I go to the loo. And I'm still getting these pains, tho they're not as rhythmic as they were. I am slightly concerned about slow preterm labour. I don't know. I feel quite dismissed since being moved up.to this ward. Feels like once they decided labour wasn't imminent, they don't care any more.

Oh eal poor you. I hate how care can vary so much and be so rubbish. I can’t understand why they wouldn’t have given you more fluids, there doesn’t seem to be a logical answer. Fingers crossed for consultant apt this morning and they will put a proper treatment in place or something so you can get a proper check.

Bean nooooooo to possible new bug, just what you don’t need!!

Avocadoo work sounds very tricky, I hope it goes ok.

Seen my consultant, she's prescribed me another litre of fluid. Hopefully I'll be going home after lunch. I'm on the monitor for baby at the moment, and all see me normal with baby. To be honest, I think I wanna get home now look after myself with fruit and lollies (And hang the diabetes for a few days).

Glad all is ok with the baby @eallison88. I hope you get home this afternoon.

Gosh, @avacadooo, your work sounds like a nightmare. They really shouldn’t be expecting you to go anywhere that isn’t properly risk assessed. Stick to your guns. I hope today is going ok.

@norbert23 thanks - will look into CBeebies land for sure. Ds is Thomas mad, so Thomas land might also be a good option.

I hope you don’t catch the bug @beanhunter and that is passes quickly got your daughter.

I’m having a quiet day and feeling exhausted after the weekend. I tried not taking my cyclezine this morning - not s good idea 🤢

I hope everyone is having a good, sick free Monday.

eallison You poor thing. It is such an unnerving, horrible expererience. We all feel for you, but that doesn't do you much good. I am so glad you were assertive
advocadoo You are quite right to resist this. Surely this is illegal?
beanhunter Poor LO. I hope she recovers and all is well with you.
Waves to cattaxi norbert Reastie and everyone...

I'm home! Ketones down to 2+ (they've been 3+ since Tuesday, and we're pretty sure that the only way they're going down now is with food - since they've been 3+ I've had 7 bags of fluid l, and even then they only dropped to 2 when I managed to eat something). So it's a case of keeping getting food in, slow and steady. I'm feeling better than i have since last Wednesday, so that's real progress. Unfortunately I pretty much had to fight for everything once they decided I wasn't critical.

I've not had chance to catch up.on everything else; sorry! I'm still feeling pretty weak. E.g. I just showered and realised that I've not stood up for as long as I did and it nearly broke me. So now I'm collapsed on my sofa! Luckily huby arranged for our son to have a sleepover at Grandma's tonight, so we're child free overnight and in the morning we'll get a lie in. Which is really fabulous and will really help. Tomorrow I'll catch up with everyone. Wishing everyone a peaceful and restful night.

Quick note to say baby girl born yesterday at 18.29 weighing 6 pound 11. No name as yet.
Didn't need induction, was 8cm when I reached hospital screaming in the corridor having stayed at home in pain but not wanting to embarrass myself by going in too early and not being dilated. Born about an hour or 2 later by emergency forceps as heart rate was very low, only had time for tens, gas and air and local anaesthetic for the forceps, didn't even get any paracetamol in! I screamed the hospital down! Have got episiotomy and two 2nd degree tears but as of right now they don't hurt.
But the good news for all worried it will go on even after giving birth, within an hour the nausea had vanished. Hot chocolate and 3 slices of toast eagerly devoured.

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Huge congratulations @silversplodge enjoy all those lovely snuggles and yummy food! Well done xx