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Convince me that baby boys are the best! :)

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hipstercat · 24/01/2019 21:50

No certainty yet, but at my scan at 13 weeks the sonographer was pretty confident I'm having a boy. After years of trying, I'm over the moon to have a baby at all, and a healthy one at that, but I can't deny that I was hoping a little bit for a girl. Would anyone like to help me get over my (minor!) disappointment and convince me that being a mum to a boy is awesome?

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PoohBearsHole · 24/01/2019 22:33

Oh and unlike my girl (tween) the boy child doesn’t hold a grudge longer than about a goldfish!

DeloresJaneUmbridge · 24/01/2019 22:33

Boys not “bits”

FourForYouGlenCoco · 24/01/2019 22:39

I have 3. I love them all equally, I don’t have a favourite. But if I did have a favourite...it’d be my boy he’s just a scrumptious little ball of lushness, he’s so happy, cheeky, funny, awesome. He goes zooming about on his chunky little legs and it makes my heart burst. Once you meet your boy (and fwiw there’s no guarantee it is a boy; 13w very early to tell!) you won’t be able to imagine how you ever thought you’d prefer a girl

SparkofJoy · 24/01/2019 22:42

I adore my boy. I was convinced I was having a girl and I couldn't quite believe my daughter was a son. So cuddly and loving, wouldn't change him for the world.

I was concerned I wouldn't know what to do with a boy. DC want love and attention and I am happy to join in with whatever he wants to play. I didn't get hung up on boys or girls toys.

Congratulations.

meow1989 · 24/01/2019 22:49

I thought I was having a girl, had a big. It is the best. Can't actually work out why it's at all different to how having a girl would be at this stage (7months) but he's my sidekick and my favourite person in the world. Can't imagine being another to a girl now. I get little butterflies when I say "My son"

meow1989 · 24/01/2019 22:50

I had a boy not a big, though he is huge!

Boxerbinky · 24/01/2019 22:56

My ds is soooo loving, he is adventurous, curious and inquisitive. He has the most amazing little laugh and makes my heart melt every time I look at him. I love being the mum of a little boy! Whatever you have you will be totally in love I'm sure. Xx

FortyFacedFuckers · 24/01/2019 23:07

Honestly op I desperately wanted a girl only ever pictured myself with daughters but the second he was handed to me I was overjoyed. He’s 13 now and honestly he has been an absolute dream so far such a laidback, happy, kind, loving boy if I was to get the the option of another baby right now I would pick another boy!

Singlenotsingle · 24/01/2019 23:11

Boys are smiley and cuddly. They make you laugh, especially when you take the nappy off and a fountain goes up!

spudlet7 · 24/01/2019 23:16

I have a boy but he's only 4 months old so I probably can't tell whether that makes him awesome yet. But it doesn't matter because you just will not care. Your baby will be fucking awesome and you won't be able to imagine him with a different nose let alone as a different sex. He will be exactly the baby you want, no matter what.

MadisonAvenue · 24/01/2019 23:40

I have two boys, not so little now as they're 21 and 18 but they are wonderful!! Life with them growing up has been so much fun!

Jent13c · 24/01/2019 23:47

My little boy wasnt the easiest baby but since 18 months he has been a dream. He was always fairly clingy and loves being close at all times. First word was of course mama and first sentence was 'nice cuddle please'. He would spend the whole day cuddled in with me if he could get away with it. He loves cleaning with me and loves fiddly little things like untwisting screws and locks. He eats anything and everything. Never tantrums.

Tortycat · 24/01/2019 23:52

Hate to say it but i also secretly wanted a girl and a boy before having children. Have 2 sons now (4 and 2). Thrilled when they were born (didnt find out before, partly so i wouldnt be disappointed), but also sad. Took a few months to get over the disappointment that i would never have a girl (too old to realistically go for number 3). Fast forward a year and i LOVE having boys. Only downside is that over 4 years boys clothes are awful, but i console myself that girl tween clothes are also awful! I now just think i was meant to have beautiful boys

December2018 · 24/01/2019 23:57

My little man is 5 weeks old on Sunday and he is such a little ray of sunshine!
Boys are the best because they are so cuddly and squishy!
And when he wees everywhere it's so adorable... especially when it's on somebody else
And also there is loads of cute dinosaur clothes for little boys now!
I tried Oliver's first pair of dr martens on him today and it just made him even more awesome!...
I'm a very proud mum and I am biased tho not going to lie 😂
And he's my first so I've never had a girl before
I secretly wanted a girl at my scan and I wouldn't have Oliver any other way! He is just so perfect and wouldn't change him for the world 💙

discusstin · 24/01/2019 23:57

Just wait til they are teens. I can't begin to tell you how much fun they can be, you will be laughing so much and so glad you have them.

babydreamer1 · 25/01/2019 01:12

I always thought I'd have a girl and I had a boy. He is absolute perfection. Slept through from 1 month, only cries if he's hungry and spends his time giving me beaming smiles. Babies are all different though, it doesn't really go on sex. It sounds cliched but just be happy for a lovely, healthy baby. When your little bundle arrives, you won't care less.

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hipstercat · 25/01/2019 07:44

Wow, that got a lot of replies!! You all present a very compelling case indeed! Thank you so much for all the lovely stories. Your little boys (and big boys) really do sound awesome!

It's nice to hear many of you felt the same initially. I don't necessarily picture pink princess dresses all the way but I would love to do some girly things, go shopping when she's a teenager, and just be able to give advice from my own experience. I worry that I won't understand a boy and he won't understand me! But it seems that fear didn't come true for many of you, and that's very reassuring. I especially love the comment about boys not holding a grudge longer than a goldfish!

I'm also a little worried that he will be forever unfavourably compared to his cousin, who is my in-laws' first grandchild and their absolute joy. I know that's not the most important thing at all, but I can't help thinking it. But he'll be my parents' first grandchild, so at least he will always be as perfect to them as he is to me.

And yes, the sonographer did stress that it was a guess at this point, but she's very experienced and had lots of time as it was a private scan. So I'm preparing myself for either outcome now, because I'd rather feel some disappointment (and the ensuing guilt) now than when he/she is born. While I don't doubt I'll fall in love as soon as I hold my baby, I'm not one for surprises.

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rightreckoner · 25/01/2019 08:25

Well just to warn you - I didn’t fall in love the first second. I fell in love with my first (DD) when she laughed for the first time at 4 months. My stomach flipped . So don’t go chasing anything. If it comes on day one then that’s lovely but later is fine too.

BowBeau · 25/01/2019 09:19

OP you could have a tomboy daughter who hates shopping and doesn’t wear makeup. Or you could have a gay drag queen son who loves pamper days and makeovers. Nothing is set in stone, you can’t make assumptions about what your child will be like.

3boysandabump · 25/01/2019 09:25

Don't write off the dresses just yet. My 4 year old ds has 2 favourite fancy dress costumes super girl and batgirl both dresses 😂

Darkstar4855 · 25/01/2019 09:51

I wanted a girl for years before I got pregnant and right through the early part of my pregnancy (we’re only having one child for various reasons). By the end I’d totally changed and wanted a boy, no idea why but that’s what we had! I adore my son and can’t imagine him being a girl, love the idea of playing with dinosaurs, train sets, cars etc. He’s got gorgeous dungaree sets which were just as fun to buy as pretty dresses would have been and I love seeing him with my partner “both my boys together”.

Give it time OP. Your feelings are completely normal but I’m sure once you’ve had time to adjust you will be just as happy.

PhoebeBear · 25/01/2019 09:59

@hipstercat omg I feel exactly the same! I'm only 11 weeks at the moment and I'll be getting a 13 week scan and I'm so eager to see if the sonographer can see the sex of my baby. Even before I became pregnant I just dreamed of a little girl and I really want it to be true! However if I did have a boy , reading through these comments I think I'd love him just as much 😊😊

Pythonesque · 25/01/2019 10:30

My son was the cuddliest, smiliest, funniest baby and toddler. He's still got a wonderful sense of humour, and now that he's the same sheight as me still likes to rest his head on my shoulder. And gives tremendous hugs.

Oh and his big sister and I find shopping tricky :)

Best wishes for an uneventful pregnancy and enjoy your baby when he (or she) comes!

PrettyPurpleDress2 · 25/01/2019 10:48

Love having two boys!! My boys tell me daily that they want to marry me when they grow up ❤️❤️

PhoebeBear · 25/01/2019 11:00

@PrettyPurpleDress2 that is the cutest!! 😍

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