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Breastfeeding or Formula; why?

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Midwife23 · 16/01/2019 13:59

Hi everyone!
I’m interested in everyone’s thoughts and opinions on infant feeding. Why did you choose to breastfeed it use formula? Did anything influence your decision?
Currently indecisive!

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Reccy2018 · 16/01/2019 14:04

What are your thoughts on each one, OP?

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 16/01/2019 14:18

I'm expecting DD2 in a few weeks. My eldest is now 5

I didn't breastfeed her once. I honestly never had the urge to try or the want to do it. Growing up, my mum and family all FF their babies so me that was normal and I knew the basics of what to do.

This time I'm planning to BF. I'm older and I just feel like this time I'd like to give it a go. I've met more people who breastfeed and I feel I'm ready to give it a go.

It really is down to your gut instinct as a parent as to what you do. I liked that with FF my husband could help to but this time, we've bought bottles so that expressing is an option and he can still be involved.

todayiwin · 16/01/2019 14:20

Wanted to BF because it's free, easy, no sterilising, whip out a boob instantly

I was lucky enough to BF. I chose to stop after 6 months because I was drained, exhausted and wanted a bit of me back

todayiwin · 16/01/2019 14:22

I mean I was lucky enough to be able to do what I wanted.

QforCucumber · 16/01/2019 14:24

I wanted to bf, Hadn't even crossed my mind not to try. It's free.

Felt touched out by 6-7 months and slowly transitioned before returning to work when he was 9 months. Then I missed it terribly.

5lnaBed · 16/01/2019 14:25

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, it’s entirely up to you how you feed your baby. Nobody else should express an opinion on it.

wombatsears · 16/01/2019 14:37

Breastfeeding is thought to lower risk of SIDS by 50%.
Breastfeeding reduced risk of obesity in childhood and adulthood.
Less chance of chest infections in childhood.

Lower risk of osteoporosis and breast cancer for the mother.

It’s free and convenient and creates a bond.

For women who can breastfeed, it’s a no brainer!

5lnaBed · 16/01/2019 14:43

creates a bond.

It is of course nonsense to think that formula feeding your child will mean you don’t bond with them.

CosmicComet · 16/01/2019 14:45

Breastfeeding is significantly healthier for the baby and protects against illness. What other reason would you need?

GummyGoddess · 16/01/2019 14:51

Didn't want to and bought a prep machine to formula feed from birth before I got pregnant.

Dc1 was born and thought I'd do it for 6 weeks for his benefit while mix feeding, then thought just until after his jabs, then just until after Christmas, then when jabs finished I was halfway to 6 months so thought I'd keep going, then at 6 months I decided to let him feed until he self weaned. Somewhere in there we ditched the formula and he stopped throwing up after feeds and I started to love it. He weaned off when I was pregnant with dc2 and he was about 14 months, I was sad he decided to stop.

Dc2 was just breastfed and is now 7 months and being weaned but still loves his milk.

I love the milky smiles, the falling asleep snuggled into me, looking at dc's fat rolls and thinking I did that, the lack of washing and sterilising I had with dc1!

Cocolola23 · 16/01/2019 14:53

Perhaps I worded the post incorrectly towards the end however; I formula fed my first (I was 16, uneducated, not informed and didn’t research into breastfeeding). With my second I breastfed till he was 3. With the next I’m certain I will start breastfeeding also. I guess a lecture today at university made me think HOW do we go and decide on feeding choices.. what is influencing some to breastfeed and others to use formula.

Nothisispatrick · 16/01/2019 14:54

I don’t see why you wouldn’t at least try to breastfeed. I formula feed, but I tried to breastfeed for 8 long hard weeks. So while I think you should try, I don’t think it should be at the expense of everything else in your life.

I’m not convinced by the illness thing though. I work with children and have never seen a marked difference in level of illness. My own twin niece and nephew are an example, sister tried to combifeed and neice lost interest in bf at about 3 months and nephew continued. Nephew had all kinds of skin conditions, is pasty skinned and snotty, neice is picture of health. Gets colds but recovers quickly etc. It is absolutley not a given that your baby will have some kind of super immune system because you breastfeed, nor is it a given you’ll have a sickly child if you formula feed.

I also reckon the link between obesity and ff is influenced by a number of other factors.

username58483 · 16/01/2019 15:08

I think a lot of women try to bf first but for many reasons many go on to ff. I am still bf my one year old but at the start I didn't think I would last two weeks. It can be very hard at the beginning to bf (not for everyone).
If your thinking of bf I would recommend you look into it and attend a class your midwife would know when they are.

mrsk28 · 16/01/2019 15:10

Currently pregnant and I plan on bottle feeding. Main reason is I have to start back on regular medication as soon as the baby is born.

But even without that I don't think I would breastfeed. It doesn't appeal to me at all and I want DH to be able to help out with feeding too. People are very quick to judge people who don't want to breastfeed and it's not very fair. Formula contains everything baby needs in this day and age.

PlayingForKittens · 16/01/2019 15:13

I bf. At first because it seemed easier than boiling kettles. Then because I realised how important it was.

Most know the basics, fewer infections, less obesity, lowers risks of certain cancers for mum etc.

But where formula contains fats, carbs, proteins, vitamins. That's it. Literally it. And the fats especially vary in provenance according to price so you don't actually know what you are feeding your baby. Yes companies put stuff on that sounds good but it doesn't have the effect the human version does because it doesn't come from humans.

Breast milk has the right balance of nutrients. It has viral fragments to help kick start the immune system. It has hormones, not just oxytocin for brain development and bonding but your thyroid hormones, insulin etc to help baby transition to life until their own system does it themselves. Transfer factors to absorb nutrients, special factors to absorb iron so it isn't around in the gut for bacteria to use to grow and spread, it lines the gut so bacteria and viruses can't escape and infect the body. It has so much more than nutrition.

Of course formula is nutritionally adequate and I think it is awesome that we have something that can grow a baby in the absence of breast milk and sometimes it is absolutely necessary but nothing can ever replicate the protective factors in breast milk.

wombatsears · 16/01/2019 15:14

It is of course nonsense to think that formula feeding your child will mean you don’t bond with them.

Oh ffs here we go. Promoting the benefits of breastfeeding is not an attack on formula feeding. Stop being so bloody defensive.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 16/01/2019 15:18

@wombatsears well you did imply that breastfeeding is how you create a bond with baby.

Just feeding baby (in whichever way you want) and spending time with it will help you bond.

ZogTheOrangeDragon · 16/01/2019 15:20

As someone who has breastfed, I have to disagree about it being free. I spent a ridiculous amount on suitable clothes etc to wear to be able to breastfeed when out and, because I also expressed, I still had bottles, pump and steriliser etc.

I would say to do what works for you as a family and if you give BF a go and struggle, but want to continue, look for some support as that can make a huge difference to how successful you are.

Celebelly · 16/01/2019 15:20

I'm due in three weeks and planning to breastfeed or at least give it as good a go as I can feasibly manage. I just feel very strongly that it's something I really want to do for me and my baby. My mum breastfed me and all my step-siblings have breastfed their children too so I've always been around that and used to it so it's just the norm to me to breastfeed. I have a partner who is very supportive of me breastfeeding too, which I think helps a lot.

I've done a lot of reading and research and got contact details for breastfeeding consultants and groups in the area if I need the support. If it doesn't work out, I just want to say I gave it my all.

But it's such a personal thing. I think it's worth at least trying it, even just for a few days for the colostrum.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 16/01/2019 15:23

Didn't want exh to be able to take dd1 away from me for very long. So I bf. HTH

Nothisispatrick · 16/01/2019 15:25

As someone who struggled with bf it did not help me bond with dd one bit, I would say it had the opposite effect.

KatharinaRosalie · 16/01/2019 15:26

I had boobs making milk, seemed odd not to use it and buy formula instead.

flumpybear · 16/01/2019 15:30

@wombatsears - bf can cause some
Negative feelings to be honest so the bonding thing is a bit misleading, particularly as there are many things including ff that can help parents and their baby bond

needsleepzzz · 16/01/2019 15:32

Didn't want to BF so i FF. I have a happy healthy toddler, not missed out on anything or lacking anything just because she wasn't BF.
Do what you feel comfortable with OP and sod any people who judge, from both sides!
Fed baby is best :-)

Cocolola23 · 16/01/2019 15:33

Would anyone have any recommendations or opinions how how the breastfeeding rate can be increased? As statistics haven’t really increased.. so whatever is being done now isn’t working?