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Potty shot help, confirmed both boy and girl!!

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lelrx · 15/01/2019 19:40

Hello ladies, I had a private sex scan at 16+1 and have the potty shot pictures, they confirmed a baby boy, we had a reveal party and everything, today I had my anomaly scan at 20+3, 2 sonographers have confirmed girl!!!
I'm so scared it will change again I don't want to buy anything
I don't know what I'm looking at on the potty shot, anyone have any ideas?!

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pollypockett · 15/01/2019 20:14

Ignore the pathetic posts OP. Some people literally live to be miserable 🙄 I’d ask for another scan. Congratulations 😊 and there is nothing wrong for buying different things for different genders. We don’t all buy into this new world nonsense

spugzbunny · 15/01/2019 20:14

I'd call up the place you had the private scan at 16 weeks. I am almost certain they'll tell you to come back in to verify. They don't want to risk their reputation.

SandysMam · 15/01/2019 20:15

If 2 NHS sonographers said girl then I would go with that! Were you hoping for a girl? Congrats on your pregnancy.

MynameisJune · 15/01/2019 20:17

They do not look clear at all. I would call them and tell them what’s happened and I imagine they’ll rescan you for free.

Lookingforadvice123 · 15/01/2019 20:18

Yes definitely call the private scan place, explain that you've been told by two NHS sonographers that baby is a different sex and can you have a scan to confirm. If it's wrong they should let you have the second scan for free!

PrincessWatermelon · 15/01/2019 20:18

We had a private scan at 16 weeks for screening reasons. The first sonographer said it was a boy and then the lead chap came in and told the first sonographer off. Apparently what she thought was a penis was actually the clitoris! And it definitely was a girl 😀

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lelrx · 15/01/2019 20:20

I have no preference on sex but I was really shocked when they confirmed girl as we have had lots of boy stuff bought for us and just imagined our life with a little boy so we will have to change our nursery plans etc
We are very excited!

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RJnomore1 · 15/01/2019 20:23

What does a little girl need in her nursery that little boy doesn't?

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lelrx · 15/01/2019 20:24

None of your business

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Hedgehogblues · 15/01/2019 20:36

I know the sex of my baby. I'm still not buying anything different for her than if she was a boy. Gender steriotyping is harmful bullshit.

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lelrx · 15/01/2019 20:42

Well she will be wearing blue clothes for a while anyway now, it literally has nothing to do with you what I do in regards to my baby or home...

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Starfish2045 · 15/01/2019 20:44

Well good for you hedgehog but others can do what they please!

lelrx I agree that you should contact the private clinic and ask to be rescanned.

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lelrx · 15/01/2019 20:44

Thank you ladies for the necessary responses, I will give them a call tomorrow! X

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SlimGin · 15/01/2019 20:50

Congratulations! I agree that you should ask for another scan, but for what it's worth I asked my ex-midwife mum what she thinks and she sees girl

snowone · 15/01/2019 20:53

Hi OP - we had a private scan at 16 weeks too. The lady did say that she was 99.9% certain that we were having a girl but that if the NHS scan said differently then we should ring back and let her know

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lelrx · 15/01/2019 20:59

Thank you, I really appreciate you all taking your time to give me advice! And for majority of you being so nice x

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MadameJosephine · 15/01/2019 21:02

I’m a sonographer and I can’t tell either way from those shots, sorry. I work both in the NHS and privately and in these circumstances the private company I work for has in the past offered another scan and if they agreed that their first one was wrong they’ve given the customer a complimentary 4d scan as a goodwill gesture so it’s worth calling

Lululabelle · 15/01/2019 21:06

@Hedgehogblues she's not asking for the gender of her baby she's asking for the sex, learn the difference before you get on your high horse, your judgement is harmful bullshit, respect other people's rights to parent how they want or just scroll past the post and move on!!

@lelrx I'd say girl based off no knowledge whatsoever! But I'd deffo get in contact with the private scan company and tell them about your situation x

Stephisaur · 16/01/2019 00:49

I can’t really make out anything from the scan photos :(

I would call the scan place in the morning and ask for a rescan. My pictures at 17 weeks were much clearer!

So confusing for you - I hope you’re able to get a clear answer soon so that you can sort the nursery out and start to bond :)

Shadow1234 · 16/01/2019 01:02

Definitely ring scan place. As previous poster said, they normally call you back for a re-scan, and if they are still wrong, they will offer a free 4D scan later on in the pregnancy. (this happened to my daughters friend).

jessstan2 · 16/01/2019 01:04

I'm so glad we didn't have scans in my day, except for first mothers over 36 or those who had particular health problems. It all seems so much more complicated now. Don't think I'd like that.

ChristmasFlary · 16/01/2019 04:25

Hope you get it sorted OP. I knew what gender both mine were (boy's) and I liked knowing. I had a 4D scan with ds2 and it was very clear. Maybe ask for one of those?

Was so glad l knew as it meant l could buy all blue clothing and get ahead buying rugby and football kits. Also meant l could have a car's and train themed nursery done actually none of that is true, l just wrote it to piss the PC brigade off like Hedgehogblues

blackcat86 · 16/01/2019 04:39

I'm not sure why some people are so anti gender scan. I had one privately at 16 weeks. Partly it was to help everyone bond with baby (including teenage DSS) and partly because it really is easier to buy stuff. It was also a nice check up between the 12 and 20 week appointments. Ours was correct and we have a 5 month old DD but if it was mentioned during nhs scans we always said that we had been told baby was a girl and if they wanted to confirm that would be great. The further along you get, the easier it should be for them to accurately tell you the gender.

Those scan photos are not great. We were given usual baby scan pictures rather than the potty shot. I would be calling the scan place and saying 1. The gender they gave you may be wrong, 2. The pictures are not great as there is a potty shot and one that presumably is meant to be all of baby but is very poor quality. When I've had private scans they usually say they'll invite you back for free if they can't get a good picture. Most will also say that they can never be 100% sure so they aren't responsible for anything you do as a result of the gender they give you (like purchases, decorating) but I would have expected better pictures at least.

spugzbunny · 16/01/2019 07:26

@Hedgehogblues

Part of being a feminist, or even just vaguely interested in equal rights, is that mothers and their children have a choice. My baby is too young to choose her own clothes but I think she looks fabulous in pink tutus. She can choose her own toys though and loves her blue car.

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lelrx · 16/01/2019 07:54

At no point have I said my child is not entitled to a choice? Absolutely our child can play with whatever she chooses and any other preference she will not be questioned, you should just on a post and assume!!

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