Has Anyone Else Felt Like This?

[Mosschops30]

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Hi. I felt quite depressed when pregnant. I was petrified of the birth and felt very inadequate compared to all the other pregnant mums who all seemed to be so excited and broody! My broodiness disappeared as soon as I found out I was pregnant! The only reason I wanted to stay pregnant was because I didn't want the baby to arrive!!! I didn't think I could cope.

I also felt like I looked stupid, because I am large chested, my bump never looked that big and I just thought people thought I was very fat!

Its over 9 months ago since I gave birth and I am starting to feel normal again and am so happy with my life at the moment...... not sure I could be pregnant again though!

Don't worry about feeling miserable, I think it is quite normal. Make sure you make lots of time for yourself and do things you enjoy....and if you want to sit on the sofa, watch tv and eat chocolate, then do it!

I never felt or had that "blooming" stage when I was Pg with Ds1,2 or 3.

Hi
I am 14 weeks now and i have been SOOOOO sad these last few months. I have cryed buckets and felt so tied down! Why i should feel like this i don't know as i have one dd aged 3.6 and have tryed for months for this baby. It feels alot worse than hormones, it felt like real depression
i feel a little better these past few days and have been feeling baby move for a while now so it's getting real.
How3 far on are you??

Hi. Can understand how you feel. I felt different with all of mine, tho I didnt glow and feel wonderful all the way through with any, just had different levels of uncomfortablness, sickness, fatness etc!!! Cant say I enjoyed pregnancy as much as lots of others did, but everyone is different. No, I am afraid you never will be the same again, but its a great kind of different being a mother, and you'll never want to go back to being how you were again. Im sure too, that you will probably only feel this way temporarily - I seem to remember I had days of feeling pretty suicidal and other days when I was full of excitement and hope. Hormones get you that way! You are completely 'normal' right now - dont worry.

Oh I felt like this when I was pregnant. You have this image of how lovely it should be when in reality I felt like I was going to pop! I remember as well not being able to jump up and down and run really bothered me (although I am a lazy slob and dont do these things non pregnant) Good news is that you forget about this so quickly when the baby is born! I am even thinking about having baby number two next year. Loads of hugs and sympathy to you and although this is really cheesy it will be worth it. x

Hi mosschops, I'm 35 weeks and look absoloutely nothing like the magaziens either, my belly button sticks out (well it's stretched to snapping point) the girls in the mags never look like that do they their tums are always so smooth and stretch mark, linea niagra mark free!? I'm tired, fed up, hot, and am wearing tents, the clingy clothes are too hot for me, and also I really do not want to spend lots of money on clothes I will only wear for a few months. Your not alone I guarantee you that much, there's me sitting here swathed in a tent... OK so I'm wearing dp's pyjamas, a lot more comfortable than anything in my wardrobe anyways, (hope the post man doesn't come knocking). For me it will all be worth it when I'm holding my baby in my arms. Good luck

Don't worry I hated being pregnant and I had an easy pregnancy. But it does end even when it feels like you've been pregnant for years! How far gone are you?

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The site in this thread might interest you run by another mumsnetter called Rhubarb.
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There are many women who do not view pregnancy as a joyful experience to varying degrees.

Indifferent this time but the first time I wasn't exactly delighted with it all. And this is from someone who had the easiest pregnancy, never sick, looked great (so everyone said), had a small neat bump and lost all weight pretty quickly afterwards. I too wanted to buy nice clothes and look glam.

It passes and make sure once junior has popped out and you're feeling back to normal a bit, go on a shopping spree for yourself. It's the best pick me up. Get your hair done, buy ridiculously impractical but gorgeous shoes and something really expensive coz you'll deserve it and no-one should ever deny you it. The baby will get so many pressies and you'll be lucky if you get a jar of bath salts so treat yourself.

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Here is another thread that shows you are not alone Mosschops30
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Amazing ! You stole my phrase! I have always said (have had four babies) that PND meant nothing to me but I suffered every time, apart from the first pregnancy, from ante-natal depression. Are you worried about anything in particular or do you feel that you just can't cope or won't be able to cope with the new baby? I know all these feelings.

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And whilst my DD naps instead of doing all the other 3 million things I need to do I'm going to paint my toenails instead whilst I can still reach - so there.

I suffered ante-natal depression with my first pg - it was awful. Completely disappeared after birth though. You're certainly not alone!

been there, felt that, started prozac at 30 week pg. have read that 1 in 10 women experience ante natal depression. and konw what its like wanting to scream at the next person who told me i was blooming/glowing etc

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Thanks for this thread. There are a million "shoulds" attached to how we are supposed to feel, but hey, what is logical about enjoying sickness, rampant hormones, increasing size, discomfort, anxiety etc etc etc etc? Sometimes I feel like no-one can hear me scream as they are so busy telling me "it's all lovely and worth it" while reserving the right to ignore how I actually feel and make personal remarks to me. Grrrr.

could be hormonal, could be that this pg is bringing back to you how stressful your first pg was - sometimes pg can bring a lot of subcosciious worries to the surface

It may well be down to pregnancy-related chemical changes in the brain - given my time over again I would've gone to the doc about it

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moss i could take the touching (just) it was the oh your going to be a mummy you must be so proud where as i felt like screaming no i dont feel proud (please add swear word in there)i feel like rubbish the baby is kicking the hell into me my hormoans are all over the place oh and the glowing bit its a old wifes tale to make woman want to get pregnant
all i can say is it will be over before you know it then you just got the sleepless nights and the array of dirty nappies a bit of advice which helped me is try and get out as much as possible the fresh air will put things in perspctive for you and if people look at you like a alien tell them if they carry on you will cry you can get away with it because they put it own to hormoans

Mosschops - totally agree - just what is that about?! How many times am I supposed to smile at people asking me if I am sure I am not due yet etc etc? Seriously one the hardest things about being preg. is the public property aspect to it. I like to choose who I talk to about what - my belly sticking out doesn't actually make my preg/baby anyone else's business, but people just do not see it like that.