Has Anyone Else Felt Like This?

[Mosschops30]

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The bit that really pissed me off was this tradition that the proud fathers have to go off out and wet the baby's head!! Oh great. I've been waddling about for the last 9 months trying not to piss my pants when I sneeze, then go through the agonies of labour, spend 5 days in hospital recovering from a CS with a new thing which I know sod all about that makes a lot of noise so I can't sleep and you seem to think that it is your right to go out and get sloshed because 'well done you'. If anyone needs to get sloshed and chill out it's the poor mother.

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Have a good afternoon Mosschops!

Totally agree on head wetting too!

Just seen this thread. I hated, absolutely HATED, every moment of both my pregnancies. You are not alone!

Mosschops, I was so looking forward to being pregnant, having the bump, feeling babe move, getting that glowing feeling - WHAT A LOAD OF CRAP!
Hated being preggers, I never glowed, DS kicked me so hard I actually went to the GP convinced I had a broken rib and my bump just got in the way of everything.
I really missed wearing high heels and apart from the odd night out I'm still not wearing them
As soon as DS was out every week I tried on my old jeans determined to get back in them, and after 8wks (holding breath) I was in them!!

You're not alone, pregnancy is not that great, only people who've never had children think it is.

Part of me wants to get very political about this. We are constantly told what our experiences are around what we are supposed to look like and hence how we should eat, around how we are supposed to enjoy sex and the same for pregnancy. The experience of loads and loads of women bears no resemblance to the version we are fed but the world doesn't want to hear us. Is it any wonder that something as simple as MN means so much to us?

(heavily pregnant woman somehow climbs down off soap box and waddles off)

Go Beansprout!! I'm with you there (but not quite so heavily pregnant)

Ah thanks Pagan - I thought I had killed the thread there!!

Frankly, what's to enjoy?!

I mean, for the first three months you're throwing up, for the last 3 months you're so damn huge you need a rope-and-pulley system just to get out of the bath, kicks HURT, you can't eat anything that you want to, you can't have a nice bottle of wine or three, stretchmarks suck, and I swear Simon Cowell designed all my maternity trousers. People with babies patronise you, people without babies ignore you. Employers think you've left your brain at the door, husbands don't get that you NEVER WANT TO GO NEAR A PENIS AGAIN. EVER.

Mosschops, you're not alone. I think I glowed for approx 4 minutes one Friday afternoon, around 5 months gone. That was it.

Read book, eat chocolate, demand takeaway and have a lovely weekend. {grin]

what a great thread!! I too feel so fed up with being pg and having people tell me how it's this and that. The other thing is a good friend just had a baby two weeks ago and had a really great pg, she really enjoyed it and wants 4 children. What's up with that??

I am convinced this one will be the one and only. I have honestly, and I wish I didn't feel so damn guilty about this, not enjoyed being pregnant for one minute. I hope that doesn't mean I am going to be a bad mum

Oh and another thing, after my friend had this baby, not even a week old, her DH and my DH went to the cricket with a bunch of other guys to wet the baby's head and drank copious amounts of champagne. You can imagine how happy I was about that - NOT!! it wasn't even my baby.

sorry but I hate that tradition - it's such a pile of bull sh..!! cigars and all

Bean I think you got me going I will calm down now. God I love MN!!

I accidentally told a recovering alcoholic with fertility problems that I was bored with being pg (only four months) because I really wanted to drink quite a lot of rose wine. Oops I really have no idea what came over me.
I don't have morning sickness, I don't have any stretchmarks from last time and I feel fine, but I hate getting so fat (I don't mean bump, I mean arms, bum, rippling thighs, double chin etc etc). Also, can't sleep properly. Apart from that....

ps much more bored with it this time than last, I have to say.

Recall reading a book by Lauren Slater (a psychologist) regarding her experiences when PG (she became depressed when PG, but was fine after PG). She had a theory that being depressed when PG was an adjustment to the responsibility and changes in a mother's life resulting from having a baby at an early stage - that most people would experience these type of feelings after the birth rather than before

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oh, bliss. I rarely talk about how horrible I find pregnancy - even on MN. This thread is sooooooooooooo reassuring.

I feel like resorting to physical violence when people say to me 'you MUST be so excited' etc etc.

I genuinely think if it wasn't for MN I would have been on anti-depressants by now. It makes you wonder - how many women are given an inappropriate diagnosis of AND just because they don't conform to society's rose-tinted view of pregnancy and childbirth?

Hated hated hated both pregnancies. In fact the horror of my pregnancies is why we will not be having more kids.
The good thing about hating being pregnant is that when you finally do give birth you are so relieved not to be pregnant that having a newborn seems so nice and easy in comparison. Of course it doesn't always happen like this, but it did for me.

Aloha, congrats on your news! Only just read this.

I am so hugely FAT - it's going to take sooooo long to lose. I was determined this time to not put on too much weight - am about double the size I was with dd.

Just to add my voice too, I detested being pregnant and felt like Prufrock - found baby easier than I expected as was so relieved not to be pregnant any more!

Another one here who does not enjoy pregnancy!

Am 14 weeks with no 3 and am getting really fat! YUCK!!! Nothing tastes right and have gone off chocolate.

I would kill for a large southern comfort and a fag!

I loved it first time around, but this time seems like such hard work. I'm 11 weeks and m/s & exhaustion seem so much worse this time. I'm also feeling really weepy and down - hate not being able to do much. My circumstances are much better this time around (much more supportive husband, less travelling time to work, no money worries, baby was planned, etc. ) so I can't understand why I'm getting down about stuff. Just hoping I'll feel better once the 1st trimester is over.

ME TOO GIRLY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks Dinny! Same to you

This is why I love MN. However I am feeling I know I am not alone. I am almost 36 weeks and had a couple of days last week of "Stop - I want to get off, this is all going too fast". My pelvis/pubic bone ache all day every day, I have terrible heartburn, I can't sleep, I'm exhausted, I worry about everything and I've watched my independence fly right out the window. I daren't say this to anyone because I know how many of my friends have been trying for dbs for a long time and would kill to be in this situation. If I even hint about the aches and pains and worries to other people who have had dbs they all look at me in a really patronising manner and say "ooh, just you wait until he or she arrives. You won't know what's hit you".

LOL Aloha!!

I too have put weight on everywhere this time, my arse is enormous!!!!!!!!!!!
The heartburn has started already (sigh) and i can't BEAR to be in the sun!! Also constantly constipated , feeling sickly if i don't eat all the time and longing for my glasses of Jacobs Creek to be back at hand!

Apart from all that it's going great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I really hope I find having a baby easier than being pg. It's been a hard long slog and I am ready for this to end now, just dreading the birth bit!