The etiquette of baby showers

[gimmeadoughnut123]

Just after some opinions. I would like a baby shower as it's very rare I manage to get all of my friends together and it would be a nice way to do so before baby arrives.

Question 1 - is it weird to throw it myself? I would just do something low key at home in the garden. I don't want to put it on my best friend as she found planning my hen party quite stressful and has a lot going on sorting out a mortgage. I could chat to my Mum about organising it if she would like to, and I can always give her a hand. But then I've also been told it's rude to ask people to organise them.

2 - I'm due in June so would have the shower in April. Is January too early to send invites? My friends live hectic lives so would probably prefer advance notice, so it was in their diaries.

3 - one of the reasons I was considering doing it myself is that I really hate baby shower games like pin the dummy on the baby or whatever. So I could avoid any of that and just have a nice get together.

What do you think?

Hi OP

I started thinking about mine last month and messaged my friends for suggestions (I’ve been ill with sickness and nausea) so was limited with what I could eat. I love breakfast food from porridge, fruit to a full English with the help of tablets these foods tend to stay down! I decided to opt for a brunch themed baby shower which everyone seems to be happy about. My close friends were already discussing a surprise baby shower so I’ve literally booked the venue I liked and gave them a list of close friends and family who have said they will come. They’ve taken over everything else - I wouldn’t have a problem in organising my own baby shower though.. I’m not asking for gifts it’s a fab time to get your closest loved ones together. Besides, if they are your closest loved ones they’ll buy little things for your LO anyway (again not expecting it but as they are very close to me I know how they will be)

Not sure if I’ve got the wrong end of the stick but to the PP saying not to arrange your own as your essentially asking for presents, isn’t the point of baby showers to invite only close people? Usually a small number of people? Not Brenda the office gossip, who will certainly be slagging you off for organising your own baby shower and rolling her eyes because she’s had to watch you being showered with gifts, love & attention.... Brenda certainly wasn’t on my guest list anyway.

I had a baby shower! It was a lovely afternoon tea in a hotel which my sister and 2 friends organised. All of my family and friends were lovely and gave us presents although we stated that we didn't expect anything. Call it a baby shower if you want OP and do whatever you want to do. You'll find most people on Mumsnet aren't baby shower fans but each to their own!