Anyone tried for a baby very soon after giving birth? Am I nuts?

[Merrydoula]

Call me crazy...I don't know what's wrong with me but I've found myself looking at OPK strips to order so I can track ovulation and get busy to get pregnant again...I've just given birth 3 weeks ago!

What is wrong with me?! It's a very overwhelming feeling that I want another quickly...Please share experiences if any, I need to have an idea of what I could be getting myself into

How is breastfeeding going, OP?

@Merrydoula they say 9 months to carry a baby 9'months to recover from one, otherwise you risk miscarriage and other problems... babies are so easy wait till you have a toddler 🤪

@HJWT babies aren't easy for everyone and not everyone has the luxury of waiting till their baby is a toddler.

My mum fell pregnant with me when my big brother was 8 weeks old. She carried me to full term, no comications.

Dp's friend had 4 babies in 3 years....yep, one after the other!! Not for me, I only want 2 but all her pregnancies went full term and no complications.

I am having less complications in this pregnancy (conceived around 8 weeks after DD was born) than I did with DD.

I chose to have my babies close together cause I am getting on a bit and can't afford a couple year age gap but wanted my DD to have a sibling. I am also doing a degree just now so had a small window to conceive for the birth to happen in the summer holidays. This was best for me 😁

@Bunnybaubles I'm glad that was 'best for you' 😂 I was just giving some advice that is given by doctors and midwives. And by 'wait till you have a toddler' what I meant is a 2 year old is a lot more demanding than a sleeping newborn, so having a toddler and baby won't be easy.

@Bunnybaubles omg!! How is it so far?

@YeOldeTrout breastfeeding going ok, he's up a lot at night etc but nothing unexpected :)

@HJWT Ahh I see now, so easy to read a text out of context lol

I have also read about all the warnings online about the complications of having pregnancies close together. Unfortunately those complications can happen to any pregnancy.
I had a misscariage a couple years ago, but i hadnt been pregnant before and those who i know who have had pregnancies close together haven't had any of those complications.

@Merrydoula it's going great! I had all the awful pregnancy symptoms with DD but none at all this time around, except a bit more tired but that'll pass soon haha fingers crossed.
DD sleeps all night and loves long naps during the day so I am quite lucky, I nap with her. I suffered severe SPD with her so getting it this time will be a challenge. It'll be worth it tho 😊

@Bunnybaubles all I can comment on is the fact my 2 year old has been driving me insane for the last 3 days and if I had a baby right now I'd be pulling my hair out ! Haha but I'm sure I'd get through it because many many women do including my mum she had 5! 🤪

@ HJWT aww hahaha hats off to your mum!!! I do understand tho, I have an 18 and 19 year old from a previous relationship, 1 and a half year age gap. I'm not going to lie, it wasn't always easy AT ALL 😂 So I do know how crazy I am, but I know the baby/ toddler stage passes so fast (Not as fast as we want at the time lol) but it does pass.... that's what I've told DP to reassure him 😉

I had three under three . Second pregnancy was very much planned, I was insanely broody from around 6 weeks PP so we started TTC when he was two months old and I was pregnant by the time he was six months. Honestly the pregnancy wasn’t all that difficult which helped, I don’t know if I’d have coped so well if I’d had all day nausea like I did with DC1. Also DC1 was a very good, quiet baby which again helped.

DC3 was not planned, fell pregnant when DC2 was six months. There’s a good 2-3 year chunk of my life that’s just a blur, I was on autopilot and just absolutely exhausted. It was definitely more difficult with three than two but that goes without saying. I wouldn’t change the age gaps now looking back since I got the baby/toddler stage out of the way quickly.

It's probably hormones, but I was ready for another the second I held my first 😄
We've waited until lo was 4m before trying.
I needed to give my partner, and myself, time to adjust and recover from those first difficult 3m of colic and barely any sleep 😀

If you are breastfeeding then the decision may be taken out of your hands. My DS is 11 months and I've still not had a period. Back at work so separated for 8 hours a day and still no sign of it.

I have a gap of 12 months almost to the day with my dc.

Incredibly hard to begin with but I was 36 when I had dc1 and I really didn't want to hang about with dc2.

I've 2 DC who have a little over 10mths between them, it worked well for us but only because we have a close relationship with both grandparents who helped us enormously. It was especially hard when they were both teething, had colds etc as both obviously wanted to be attached to us at the same time.

One set of grandparents lived across the street so could always pop over to help out and they'd have the babies while we shopped and had them to sleepover once a week so we could catch up on sleep or have time to catch up on housework.

There are huge advantages to having them close together but it certainly isn't an easy option. We went on to have another 2 13mths apart so weren't put off by having the first 2 DC close