Should we find out?

[Pixi17]

20 week scan next week and undecided whether to find out if we're expecting a girl or boy! This is our first. What did you do and why? Any advice please?

We didnt find out because we both wanted a suprise. There are plenty of neutral clothes ect for the first few weeks and going to have the nursery neutral too

We found out. I'm like to plan and organise and found a lot of the gender neutral stuff quite limited. We wanted to know, so did DSS which was a big part of it. The grandparents to be kept asking to. We actually paid for a scan at 16 weeks. It helped us narrow down names and just made it all more real.

We did find out and no regrets! We had a name picked out, we could tell people and it was honestly lovely. I have flirted with not finding out if/when we have another but I am fairly sure I'll want to know!

You can ask the sonographer to write the sex down and put it in an envelope so you can open it if and when you're ready.

We’re expecting our first and we found out.

I feel like I know him already and it’s really helped us both bond with him :)

We didn’t find out as fancied a surprise and it was great finding out when we first met Him! Would deffo have a surprise again....

We didn't find out with our first and it was amazing.
I had my mind set on finding out at the 20 week scan, but the week before my brother and his partner had a baby and they didn't know the sex, and the excitement of waiting to hear made me want that for us too.

Found out with our second and it was just as exciting at the birth to be fair , so just go with your heart ! The surprise is lovely but it depends if you want to go neutral with purchases I guess !

I didn't find out for DD1 as I really wanted a surprise. With DD2 I wanted to find out, but then got to the 20 week scan and freaked out and decided I didn't want to know! Was lovely to have surprises but also frustrating not to know! I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant with DC3 and definitely want to find out this time! Pregnancy is long, it's nice to have a surprise half way through x

With dd we found out because I’m not a big fan of surprises in general. Also we only had a girls name so finding out we were having a girl meant I wasn’t stressing anymore about choosing a boys name. Also I like planning and wanted some neutral but also some gendered clothes (I bought stuff up to 12 months in advance to budget for smp!)

This time we will also find out. To help with names, to prepare dd (who is adamant she only wants a sister!) and to help me sort through dd’s old stuff and decide what to keep and what to sell / pass on.

With dd I was convinced from day one we were having a girl, but this time I have no idea!

I’ve found out with all 3 of mine. Each to their own bit I wanted to know everything about my pregnancies and knowing I could know made up my mind for me.

15 weeks with number 4 and will find out if possible. The hardest part is keeping it quiet from dp!

We got it written in an envelope and then we went for a lovely weekend away and opened it at a restaurant. I specifically wanted OH to be the one to tell me, and it was the only way I could control that. I think for our next one we won't find out though.

I found out each time. Was something nice to know.

We didn’t find out with our first two, and have found out with our third. Both ways have been fun, just different, but couldn’t say I preferred one way round over the other.

I thought I didn’t care about sex but when I found out I was having a boy I cried my eyes out. I guess I had felt on some level that it was a girl and I was totally taken aback by unexpected gender disappointment. It took several days to come to terms with it. I’d have hated it to blight the first days of my baby’s life so I’m glad I got over it months before he was born.

Plus it was good to be able to decorate the room, buy clothes and toys, choose a name (and not waste time choosing two). And when modern science offers you such an exciting opportunity to find out about your child before it’s even born it would be a shame not to take advantage!

pregnant with 3rd and going for a surprise this time first 2 I found out to be more prepared but this is our last baby so really wanted to keep it a surprise it's exciting!

There's a sign in our hospital that says we will not write down the gender of the baby and we will only inform another party if the mother is present and consenting.

I've found out. We had to because of genetic problems but I'd have found out anyway, purely to get organised. I find the gender neutral stuff to look more male than female and I'd just want to be ready with clothes and names etc.

We’re going to find out.

Got my scan on 21st dec and going to get sonographer to write it in a Xmas card and we’ll open it on Xmas day.

I cannot wait

We found out. I'll be surprised enough if I manage to push something weighing 7-8lbs out of my vagina, so I don't need no other surprises

I'm a control freak and like to be organised and know stuff, so there was no doubt about finding out for us! And it's been nice to refer to the baby as 'she', especially for DP I think.

I have my scan on the 27th and I'm not fussed either way. This is my first and I'm only concerned about the baby being healthy at the scan. I think if it was my second I'd maybe want to know. Each to their own, everyone's different

We haven't found out, my partner's preference and I sort of went along with it knowing that he was hoping for a girl and if I found out and he didn't I would give it away if it was a girl because I'd be so excited for him or give it away if it was a boy because I'd want to let him know in advance. It hasn't been too bad not finding out and everyone always comments how nice it is to have a suprise plus it means my partner can be the one to let me know at the birth of we e got a boy or a girl x

Didn’t find out in this pregnancy or previously. Not because of the surprise element (didn’t feel that surprising anyway at 50% chance of each!), just felt like baby/childhood stuff is so hyper-gendered pink-vs-blue anyway and I didn’t want to start that off any earlier than necessary.

We found out at 13 weeks last time. Won't find out until 32 weeks unless we get a private scan at 20 weeks (No scan at 20 weeks offered by our hospital). Feel a lot less bonded this time. And name choosing is on hold.

We found out with number 1 but not 2. I found that once I knew it didn’t really change anything, and actually found it more exciting at the end not knowing if baby was a he or she; the moment when my husband passed my baby to me and said “it’s a girl!” was just so magical!

I wanted a boy before we found out what we were having. I like the idea of having a boy first and hopefully a girl after. When we found out that we were having a boy I started mourning the possibility of a little girl! Nothing pleases me it seems haha. But after a few weeks I was very content and came to the conclusion that I would have been very happy either way (obviously).

We found out, and so far we are very happy about that.

It has helped us bond with him, it helped a bit with shopping (not that we've only bought blue things) and we have picked a name.

I think we talk about him in a different way than if we didn't know the sex and I really like it like that.

I personally don't feel like I have that need for keeping something from myself for so long - if the technology is there, and they are offering to tell me, I want to know.
I don't have a specific need for a surprise at the birth - there will be enough excitement already.

Some people like knowing as soon as possible, and others like waiting until the birth and to then find out. There's no right or wrong - it's just preference.