Just going to go on a rant. Feel free to join in.

[Firstbornunicorn]

So I'm 13 weeks pregnant and have been feeling nauseous since before the line ever appeared on my pregnancy test.

I was expecting it to be a lot better by now, but no.

I was so unbelievably tired during the early weeks that I phoned my doctor, certain something was wrong. She told me to woman up.

At 8 weeks, I had a midnight dash to a&e with what could either have been appendicitis or an ectopic pregnancy. It was a kidney infection. So no wonder I'd been feeling rotten.

I throw up most days. Multiple times a day.

12 week scan didn't go to plan and am dealing with the fallout of this and trying to get NHS to fall in line with the private scan I had to get due to their incompetence.

I've missed so much work that I've run out of sick days and an now going to be broke for the foreseeable.

And now, I think I've got another UTI, I can't move for fear of vomiting, and to top it all off, my DH has given me a Twix which I've only gone and bloody lost

I didn't post this in AIBU because I know I am. I'm super excited about baby. But seriously - I naively imagined I'd be eating healthily, doing Pilates 5 nights per week, and going on lovely shopping trips with my mum on weekends.

Anyone else want to rant about anything?

Check the sofa for the Twix

@Reaa the Twix is the real villain of the piece! I suspect I've knocked it off the bed but I'm scared to check in case I chunder.

@Firstbornunicorn I cried so bad the other week when I lost my chocolate bar.
Properly cried my little heart out.

As for the UTI I am waiting for one...I have had them in every pregnancy and they are raging ones too, the other year I was admitted due to one (not when pregnant).

Ive felt shite for weeks now, think I need a twix too.

@Lilbear14 disappearing chocolate is horrible. Not that I even want to eat the Twix, but I enjoyed knowing it was there.

As for the UTIs... Hopefully you'll be lucky and miss that boat this time. I only got amoxicillin for my last one which mustn't have cleared it completely.

Found my missing chocolate. Still don't fancy it, but have managed to eat a slice of pizza which is so far staying down!

I cried last week because there was no bacon.

I’m 28 weeks and feel like a fucking whale.

I’m anaemic and want to just sleep.

I thought nausea was a thing of the past as second trimester was not too bad. Why does no one tell you it rears it’s ugly head in the third trimester? On the upside my pelvic floor survived the violent heaving the other morning.

@Sexnotgender that's hugely disappointing!!! I didn't know the bloody nausea is supposed to come back. I've not even got rid of the first bout yet. I'll hit the roof if I get round 2 in trimester 3!

I’m very disappointed too

Thankfully I’ve only had a couple of spells of it but yesterday morning was horrendous. Like properly spewing and stomach spasms.

@Sexnotgender bet you can't wait to get that baby out!

I’m getting to that point! Then the fear kicks in that I’ve actually got to get him out then I think I’ll just stay pregnant forever

Being pregnant is SO FUCKING SHIT.

First trimester is grim: I had bleeding and pain so was terrified of miscarriage and was exhausted and constantly nauseous right up until about 14 weeks before it finally eased off.

I felt much better in the second trimester. I’m 35 weeks now and the exhaustion and nausea (and heartburn!) has come back for the last few weeks but it’s totally different now: I know I’m nearly there, my colleagues all know about the pregnancy and are supportive and I feel the baby kicking all the time so I know he/she is fine.

Hang in there OP, it definitely gets better

SO FUCKING SHIT

Firstbornunicorn 👋 Sorry you’re still feeling really crappy. Glad you’ve managed to find the chocolate (even if you don’t fancy it right now) and managed to eat a pizza.

I’m still living on ‘beige’ food (mainly toast) and chocolate. I thought at 14+5 I’d have less aversion to healthy food. I don’t feel nauseous luckily, but the thought of eating anything that’s not pizza or potato croquettes or similar makes me literally (the face, not confused!)

Are you seeing the Dr about the UTI?

Sorry to everyone else that’s suffering too

@Darkstar4855 aw, thank you! I've just been to see my GP and get anti sickness drugs. He wanted to admit me but we've struck a deal... I'll give a urine sample this afternoon and if the ketones have gone down then he'll let me stay home!

I love how angry this thread is. It's really refreshing. I don't want sympathy because I know how incredibly lucky I am to get preggo really easily and not to have HG, but I do want to state how INCREDIBLY FUCKING SHIT it is being pregnant and how I had no idea AT ALL it would be this bad. 12 weeks and no sign of the nausea abating.

How is everyone's partner behaving? I had a proper meltdown at mine last night because although sympathetic, he hasn't exactly been scurrying round making things easier for me, so even though he doesn't work on Wednesday mornings there wasn't any dinner in the fridge last night and he doesn't get home until 8:30pm so I had to sort it out instead. We have a cleaner every fortnight and she's coming today so I was getting the house tidy and rather than just getting on with stuff that obviously needed doing I had to specifically ask him to do each individual task with him being sullen and awkward about each of them "well that doesn't NEED to be done before the cleaner comes" "YES! I KNOW! But it also hasn't been done for the last three weeks so CAN YOU GET OFF YOUTUBE AND JUST FUCKING DO IT SO I DON'T HAVE TO." Had a bit of a strop and told him he needs to be supporting me at the moment, which yielded toast and marmite and a glass of orange juice in bed this morning to stop me bundering first thing. I'm sure he'll be happy when I'm feeling better too as I'll be in less of a grump. He's not a dick, he just needs to step up at the moment.

@FrazzyAndFrumpled hi!! I think I'm just a massive whinger really. Hopefully the anti sickness drugs will help a lot. I left in a urine sample 2 days ago and haven't heard back so presumably it was clear. Leaving one in this afternoon so I'll find out more then

Noodella18 your partner needs to learn how to spot when something needs doing and just do it - you’re not his mother!!

Having said that, mine’s not much better he absolutely dotes on me and always makes me food/drinks, but housework just doesn’t get done. By either of us... we could do with a cleaner!

Firstbornunicorn you’re allowed to be a big whinger! I hope your ketones have reduced this afternoon so you can stay out of hospital.

@Noodella18 my DH has been doing his best but he doesn't even seem to notice when the floor needs swept or windows need a wipe down! I'm usually far too miserable to care - until somebody calls round, and then I'm mortified. He actually went out yesterday and got me loads of food I can keep by the bed to nibble on if I wake up in the night. This resulted in me nibbling on a digestive biscuit and then immediately vomming it back up - thankfully I missed him or I'm sure he'd be rethinking his kindness 😂

@frizzy I know!!!! He hates it when I ask him to do stuff and really kicks back against it because he doesn’t like the feeling of ‘having’ to do something, but if I don’t ask him he doesn’t do it and I have to!!!!!! Aaarrrrrgh!!!!!!

Noodella18 when I was pregnant with dC, I made a cleaning ‘rota’, both of us having one small job to do each day. It didn’t ever get started, let alone last long 🙄🤷‍♀️

DC1, that should say.

@FrazzyAndFrumpled many cleaning rotas have met a violent end before they ever really started in my home 😂

I cried for shloer three days ago when the corner shop didn't stock it and husband came back empty handed.. Husband found the lidl version yesterday and brought me that instead it finished yesterday too

@frazzy ah well, best intentions and all that. Rota idea is dead in the water for us, partner has a proper bee in his bonnet about ‘having’ to do things. He’s usually quite good and will clean the kitchen of his own accord, it’s just when it needs to be done eg because cleaner is coming that he gets difficult. Drives me up the wall.

Just had a chat with him and he was reasonable about it, said he accepted house needs to be tidy for cleaner and that he realises I have been taking on the mental load for that in getting it organised and that if I put it in the diary he will make a conscious effort to tidy stuff up the previous day. So that’s a start at least.