GP says I'm way further than dates from last period?! HELP

[hanny24]

So, I've been putting off going to the DRs... (I have my own issues from my last pregnancy 11 years ago)
I finally went today to see someone, I told them my last period was 6th July and I discovered I was pregnant end of August. The GP felt my stomach and said "your womb is much higher, I would say you are 14-16 weeks at least" but I KNOW my last period was a period, it wasn't a light bleed or spotting and it came right on time. I'm so confused but also scared, because I then thought to ask her "if it's more than one would that make the womb higher" to which she said yes only if you have twins in the family.... and yes, we have twins in the family on my mums side. Safe to say I've not stopped crying and I honestly don't know what to do with myself, for me one baby is going to take getting used to but two? I'm not even happy I'm pregnant I don't think, I'm full of anxiety and horrible thoughts and it's eating me up inside. I have an urgent appointment with a midwife tomorrow for bloods etc and I just can't even hold it together without crying, I just don't think I'm meant to be a mum and I have no idea what I'm thinking.

Please if anyone had anything similar, I would like all details. I am so scared.....

Your doctor is literally making an educated guess. Try to relax, they are probably wrong.

The only way of knowing for sure is to go for a dating scan. If you haven’t been booked for one yet, I would look into having one done privately for your own peace of mind.

Congratulations on the pregnancy xx

Don't panic yet, get a scan. Do you have a partner?

You are seeing the midwife tomorrow. She will sort out a scan if you feel larger than expected, called a "dating scan". It's quite common.

It’s a big shock if you weren’t expecting it, don’t be too hard on yourself The GP is just guessing, I would wait until you see the midwife tomorrow. Did they say they’d give you a scan then?

Is there a particular reason you don’t think you’re meant to be a mum?

@lepotato yes I have a partner of 5 years, this would be our first child together

@Pinkandproud I already have a 10+ year old and I was 16 when I was pregnant with her. It was a very traumatic time of my life which I think I have never recovered from. I just feel like I was never born to be a Mum like I see some women are.... I don't feel excited, I just feel I don't know, nothing but dread and anxiety and that my life and mild freedom is over 😭

Also thanks for everyone's replies, this is my first post as I signed up today just so I could speak to some people without having to talk and ball my eyes out I guess! So thanks for taking the time to reply, I do feel a little at ease to think she must just be wrong...

Oh love, your previous experience sounds very traumatic and I’m not surprised you’re scared about going through it again.

Do you feel ok in yourself in day to day life? Or do you feel low and anxious quite a bit?

I hope you get reassuring news when you see the midwife tomorrow.

At this gestation your womb grows at a similar rate and you are unlikely to show as 16 weeks when the reality is that you are 12 weeks. It’s only non identical twins that can run in families, on the maternal side only, and your odds of identical twins is the same as everyone else. Some women go continue to bleed, like a period, at the time their periods are due, despite being pregnant. However, I don’t think pregnancy is your doctor’s area of expertise so for now I wouldn’t be too concerned.

My last period was on the 13th July so only a week after you and I’ve just had my 12 week scan today. So that means you could be 13 weeks which isn’t far off what the doctor has said. How far along did you think you were op?

Nobody palpated my uterus at that stage, so maybe a GP's opinion isn't the best bet. I would wait to speak to the midwife. Can you afford a private scan if it is causing you so much anxiety?

You could well just be further than you think, my friend was 4 was ahead at her '12 week' scan and she'd had a totally normal period. She said if she'd known she was pregnant she would have been really worried!

You'd be nearly 13 weeks, try not to worry.

Fwiw, I had twins and at 15 weeks measured 25, so you'd probably be bigger if you did have them. (Plus, they're really not as bad as people make out!)

If your not happy your pregnant and feeling dread is abortion maybe not an option to decide?

You've had a bit of a shock and it takes a while to get your head round it. Take a deep breath and calm down. You'll be fine!

@Pinkandproud no I'm just anxious every day. I try to not think about it but when I do it just gets on top of me, also hate seeing myself in the mirror never felt so unattractive in my whole life and I know I'm just getter fatter each day. Really struggling to find any positive at the moment....

Just anxious about the pregnancy, or generally before you got pregnant too? Do you know what you feel anxious about/why?

@Pinkandproud just the fact that my whole life will change, money, I'm already in debt, what if my partner won't want to be with me, what if it ruins our relationship, my stomach is going to be awful I'm not going to be attractive.... the list really is endless

Please talk to the midwife today about all if your concerns and worries.

For what it's worth, a friend if mine recently found out quite far in to pregnancy that she was pregnant. The GP roughly dated her from abdominal exam and he was out by about 4 weeks (had ultrasound the following week).
I really don't think it's something they do often enough to be even fairly accurate.

Hope the MW cam give you some support and reassurance today.

Does your partner know?

If you really don't want to be pregnant, you could choose to terminate even if you're as far along as your GP thinks you might be. You could call Marie Stopes or BPAS for an appointment - they could scan and date you and give you some non-judgemental counselling about your options.

My last period was the 6th of July as well and I'm nearly 13 weeks. Could it be that you're bump is just prominent already? Mine has suddenly popped this past week and a lot of the women on the mn antenatal group are saying similar. The antenatal groups are well worth joining on here too, every body is due around the same time and we're all at the same stages, it's nice to just talk about it freely with others going through the same!

Try not to panic and have a good chat to the midwife today, I'm sure that they'll be able to help. It may be worth asking if there is any counselling available to talk it through with somebody as you're not feeling in the best place about it all?

Have you got children's centres in your area still? They can often offer support groups for women who are expecting too.

I hope today goes well and reassures you.

Can you go to a private scan to put your mind a rest? They will be able to tell you if it is twins or a singleton and also tell you how far along you are.

They range in price from £50-£90.

When is your NHS scan booked for?

@QueenOfCatan I'm new to mumsnet so I haven't joined a group yet (not sure how!) hopefully the GP is wrong, I'm just panicking now that it's twins or something as we do have twins in the family and on my mums side (my sister was a twin and I have twin cousins from my mothers sister) I am more calm today since seeing the midwife and having a chat, hopefully will have a scan by week after next....

@Namechanger55555 I did see a few sites but I need to save every pound at the moment as my job is on a 0 hour contract and last wages were awful as my hours dropped significantly last month. They're back up again now tho, but I can't really spend money on a scan

Oh love. You poor thing you sound so panicked. What is your partners job like? If there isn’t money for a scan this may work I your favour because your NHS scan will come through sooner (should be pretty immediate if GP says you’re in second tri) which will also date for you.

Some women continue to have periods through pregnancy so that’s one explanation. Good luck and stick around here, lots of support available