snide remarks/nasty comments from people re:pregnant AGAIN!!!

[RoseQuartz]

Hi there,
Does anybody here have a large family? Was just wondering as dh and I are sick and tired of people poking their nose in and saying something totally ridiculous to us....some have gone as far as telling us we have enough children and should not have any more!! And the most often asked question is: are you going to have any more, or when's the next one due?!!!! It's about time you bought a new television!! Do you know what causes it!! Ever heard of birth control!! Flippin heck your husband must like being on his face!! DH is normally so calm, but one day at the local shop one woman really went under his nose.....she had a walking stick and she raised it and pointed it towards his manhood and said it needed chopping off! This was in front of a shop load of customers.....so dh got a bit annoyed and told her, its normal for people to have kids you know, not all women are like you, after all you've never had it have you!! He he, she was dead embarrassed and hasn't said a wrong word since!!aaaaaarrrrggggghhhhhhh their comments drive us both nuts, and we dread them finding out that I am expecting baby number SEVEN!!!Another comment is ' how many more are you going to have'? even the local midwife came round and told us somebody had asked her if we were going to have any more children? Anyway have any of you got some really 'shockingly good' answers that would knock anyone's socks off if (well no its not if, its WHEN)they dare say anything when it becomes common knowledge that I am pregnant again!! Please share them with us, the more disgusting they are then so much the better!!! thanks

congrats on no. 7

My sis has 7 kids including 2 sets of twins and she and dh are both over 6'3" and live in a small welsh town - so every time they go out as a family it creates a spectacle! I will ask her about witty retorts as I know they attract plenty of comments... altho you have plenty already - i am sorry you get a hard time but I know what fun large families are so it is all worth it - i am sure you know that too.

To those that have said to us "havent you heard of contraception" after numbers 3,4 and 5 (yawn,yawn) I find saying
"We've been together 18 years and have 5 children- do you really think that's the only times we've had sex?"
I love that face as they stalk off!

custy has already said it.

i am just about to pop no 5 and am so fed up with all the comments, even though dh and I are completely agreed this is our last he said the other day it makes him want to have another one just to shut them up! People are bloody rude and intrusive,why do they feel they have the right to comment on your sex life, contraception etc etc.
however I think there is quite a bit of jealousy, a lot of women who have completed their families and now see them all at school and growing away have been quite wistful, saying they miss having a little one around or they wish they had had another, but money, dh etc had stopped them.
I dont generally have anything clever to say but just say i am one of five and get the message accross it is a positive choice not a load of accidents

How about: "Yes, we've got that sex thing off to a fine art!"

Or: "We just can't get enough of each other!"

Or: "We're going for a world record - only 10 more to go!" (I don't know what the record is so I'm just throwing numbers out there!)

I find it amazing how society puts pressure on people to both extremeties. My friend didn't want any children and when she got married, she got so sick of everybody asking her when they were going to have children. Unfortunately, you seem to be on the receiving end of the other end of the scale and I think its just wrong! It is completely up to you how many children you have - its none of their business!

well it ain't 17 cos my MIL is one of 24

Whenever I was asked 'Is this the last one? I'd say 'Well, yes.....until the next one of course'.
When asked "Are you pregnant AGAIN!!" I'd say "No" and leave it at that.
There might be something you could use on this list

Wow!!! How lovely to have such a big family! I'm an only child and would have loved to have been surrounded by lots of brothers and sisters! (I'm not complaining by the way, one is good too).

I'm now off to google what the world record is, just because its bugging me now LOL!

How about: "No, we still have a few more to come, actually - you see, our plan is to build an army in an attempt to eliminate rude, nosy, useless b*stards like you from the world"

congrats on all your children - i am jealous, would love loads of kids!

As far as google is showing up, one lady had 27 pg's resulting in 69 children so a few more to go yet Rose!

Love that link juuule!!

Great link... Makes me want to have more!!!

Good for you rosequartz, my own mum is horrified i want more than two, despite me being one of three!!O well cant please them all!

My lil sis said that she thought my parents were really irresponsible having 5.
I asked her which one she would like my parents to have stopped at!!
Personally I love being part of a big family and I hope our financial situation will allow me to do the same.

Tell the nosey bastards to cock off, or tell them that's it's not your fault you are both virile and fertile sex gods and do they need tips in doing it properly, as you have evidently got the hang of it and they haven't?

Or that the country is being overrun with stupid people and you took it upon yourself to help balance it out with some smart ones.

Hi rosequatz

I get some of these comments and I'm only expecting my second, so some people are just rude and feel the need to comment no matter what.

an't you just say "what's wrong with big familes?" or "Have you got something against children, you were one once"

Anyway i'm sure they'll all get over it.

CONGRATULATIONS alot of my friends (growing up) came from big families and I always wished ours was bigger, so I now want 4 although originally thought about having only 2.

I would say 'oh my God...is it all the sex we have that's making these babies!!! I never knew. Thanks for telling me!'

People are rude.

I am one of ten myself I have 8 brothers 22-11yrs and a 3 yr old sister, growing up in a large family was a nightmare as kids we heard every single bad/nasty comment you could think of nothing surprise's me anymore, at school we all got bullied and my little brother's still do, it wasn't nice for my parents either grown parents were/are the worsted. The worse time for us children was when we were in the paper or on television, now that brings all them comments flooding back! People think that big families means benefits, out of control children, scummy clothes and scummy attitude but they couldn't be more wrong, my dad worked every hour god sent to bring food to the table and roof over our heads and so on, my mother was a selfish mother enough said there (very long story). I only want 3 children myself and most of my brother's feel the same way. The bad/nasty comments unfortunately wont stop but the way you respond need to be under control, nice and with a smile , other wise your giving them what they want, trust me been there my whole life!

my god - I was saddened to read your post, I'm so sorry you have been through so much, it's awful that anybody should be bullied just because they come from a larger than average family, take heart from the fact that they're only jealous of you.
You mentoned the scummy clothes and matching attitude of kids from larger families, and that people just assume we are all on benefits - blah blah blah, my god I wish we were, we'd then live in luxury as many other people do round here, cos they have everything handed to them on a plate by the system! Isn't it so annoying though.
Suppose you lot being on tv and in the papers made the bullying worse though, I bet they secretly wished it was them and that's why they bullied you. Rise above them! They are the scum of the earth, not children/parents of larger families. These idiot people who think their opinions matter, obvously have a chip on their shoulder, feel sorry for them!! take care and support each other come what may!xxx Are the ten of you close by any chance?? I truly hope my kids all grow up and be close to each other so they can help/support each other no matter what life throws at them.

PurpleLostPrincess..........where did you find the information on the woman who had 69 kids, I would love to have a look at it, not that I intend to compete with her!!!

RoseQuartz, not so close these days 3 of my brothers have moved away and got a life of their own now and me and my mother don't get on, our dad died of cancer 2 years ago today and it's split us apart, some of my brothers and my sister live at home with my mother and I don't get to see them much, so the family is now pretty much split. Papers and the TV didn't help but we know alot of the big family's in our area and they all say the same, big family's get a bad deal when it comes to the attitude of others, just seems to be the way it is, and from a kids point of view they get a pretty raw deal too, and I don't think it's ever going to change when we've got people out there that do just have kids just for the money!

i get plenty of was it planned questions!!
Also as I am with my second nusband had 3 with my first and expecting 3rd wirh 2nd people think I want to make them equal!!!!
what a reason!!!!

I don't understand people who make comments like that, I'm one of four and loved it, at my old church theres a family of 7 (catholics) but i cant think of anything better than having loads of brothers and sisters! Besides you only have to go back a couple of generations and familys of 10 or more children were not uncommon. If i had the choice i would have at least 4 children, and i agree that people who say horrid things are most probably just jelous!

i dont undertsand why anyoen wou want 7 kids tbh

Wheniamqueen - Is the fact they are Catholics relevant?

I went to Catholic primary and secondary schools in the 70s and me and my 3 sisters was a SMALL family compared to a lot of my school friends. The catholic bit is because catholics aren't supposed to practise birth control, therefore practising catholics who also have sex are more predisposed to have large families.
Me I've stopped at 2 but had 16m gap so got enough comments like 'haven't you two thought of buying a telly'