Anyone just got a BFP and feeling anxious?

[GirlCroosh]

Got a positive pregnancy test yesterday

Was over the moon yesterday. But now the anxiety is hitting. Every time I go to the toilet checking for blood, obsessively checking checking my symptoms, running through possible things that could go wrong.

I've got a 2.5 yo DD and had a missed miscarriage earlier this year. I was anxious the whole pregnancy with my DD. Thankfully I was less anxious with the one I lost, but because of how that pregnancy ended, the anxiety is back this time.

Is anyone else feeling the same or have any pregnancy anxiety coping tips??

Hi, I’m in a similar boat to you! I think I’m 5 weeks today. I had two miscarriages before I had my DD and so anxiety is taking over! I don’t have any tips I’m afraid. Time seems to move so slowly doesn’t it towards 12 weeks.

Hello,

I'm in exactly the same position! I tested and got a bfp at 9dpo very light which has darkened (I've tested everyday since on various brands) and is now a pretty dark line. I had bloods yesterday and waiting for dr to confirm they were positive today before going back tomorrow to check levels are rising!

Af is due tomorrow. I had a cp in June and another very early loss done time ago. I'm constantly in the toilet checking as both last time started with cramps and blood. I had some back pain yesterday but thankfully nothing else and got a very dark line this morning.

Hoping this is it, although my third time pregnant this would be my first baby! hope we all have sticky ones! X

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages

12 week scan seems a lifetime away. I found out I miscarried at the scan last time, so that's playing on my mind too.

I think I'm 4 weeks, but my cycles are irregular so not too sure.

Oh @sprinkle sorry for your losses too

My only symptom so far is back pain, which was my first sign with both my previous pregnancies. I've done another test today and the line is darker, so that's good at least.

I'm trying to be happy that, right now, I'm pregnant. But stopping my mind wandering is easier said than done!!

Yes I know what you mean, I'm trying to be happy also! Just trying to think let's get thought this day still pregnant.

I am in that boat too! Had a miscarriage at 6 weeks this time last year and has took us a whole year to get another BFP. Every little twinge I feel I am googling if it is a sign of mc I am so worried about it happening again! I think I am about 6 weeks now and have no symptoms at all which is making me even more anxious! I'm debating paying for a private early scan to put my mind at rest but at the moment I am just testing every other day.

Hey ladies I had my first BFP Sunday and Monday and I’m so worried I’m going to have a cp 😞 or that the tests were wrong ☹️

It's horrible isn't it. I'm sure they aren't wrong but it is hard to believe especially after a loss!

@GirlCroosh have you missed your period as of yet? Mine would be due tomorrow and I already know I'm basically going to be spending the day on the toilet obsessively checking! I think I'll relax a tiny bit once that's passed and she doesn't show up but then I'll be onto worrying about something else!

Sorry to hear about your losses

I think I'm quite naturally anxious about ttc, pregnancy, birth and the newborn stage, but since the miscarriage it's worse.

@sprinkle I'm not totally sure when my period is due because my cycles are irregular. Based on when I think I ovulated, I would guess Thursday. So true that once one worry is gone it's onto the next.

As I've not really got symptoms, I'm trying not to think of myself as pregnant yet.

Was thinking about doing some yoga later to help me relax, but now worried it might dislodge something. Argh! I don't know!!!

Hoping we all have sticky beans here!

You should do some yoga, as you say it may help you relax if sees sticks im going to join pregnancy yoga.

Glad to have some people in the same position to talk with. Sorry if tmi but is anyone having/had a 'wet' feeling down there, feels as though af has come with blood but thankfully when I wipe there is nothing only some wet white/clear cm. just keep running to the toilet to check!

I am in exactly the same boat! BFP four days ago now four weeks. Had a miscarriage before so totally anxiety ridden. I even paid privately to get my hcg levels checked I was that paranoid. I guess it’s a horrible waiting game...glad I am not the only one who feels like. I told my friend and she said she just didn’t worry at all and everything turned out fine...lucky her I guess!

Sprinkleofsunshine I started having discharge on the day my period was due. This freaked me out of course but no bleeding so it’s fine for now!

The wait till 12 weeks is awful, wishing you lots of strength :(! These are some things which helped me:

1. Taking things one day at a time. I had moderate morning sickness so managing that was a fairly good distraction technique. Every morning I planned out what I wanted to eat that day (cravings etc), went to the supermarket to buy ingredients and basic cooking if I felt up to it.

2. Listening to guided meditations on YouTube and on various apps. When I was really anxious this was the only thing that helped. There are some that are pregnancy focused and some which are generalised anxiety focused (Lisa A Romano on YouTube is great). Sometimes I had to avoid the pregnancy themed ones just because just that alone triggered more anxiety.

3. Reading, crafting, playing mobile games, watching Netflix or YouTube all help to take your mind "elsewhere". I enjoyed re-reading books that reminded me of an entire different time in my life (eg my favourite novels from university).

4. Do not download any pregnancy apps, or surf too many baby-themed websites. These force you to sentimentalise pregnancy, e.g. thinking of baby names, nursery decor, buying tiny clothing etc. This is not at all helpful in the very early stages.

5. Find and stick to a new routine. This sounds silly but even the smallest things can help you feel somewhat more in control of your anxiety. For instance I'd wake up and make a cup of fennel tea and a slice of toast. started going to bed earlier and looked forward to tiny things like putting on a face mask every 2 days.

6. Know that it's not going to last forever. I pretended that I was simply having regular "sick days". If you get ill with a cold or perhaps a mental rough patch, you know that you should take care of yourself and ride it out. Cancel plans if needed, stay home and rest, do things that cheer you up.

I feel exactly the same. I'm about 5 and a half weeks and my anxiety levels are through the roof. We already have DS who is two and I was very anxious during my pregnancy with him. I was sort of expecting it this time but I'd forgotten how horrible it is!

I've booked a private early scan for 7 weeks just to check everything is where it should be at that point. I had one last time and found it useful although I know not everyone does.

Fingers crossed for everyone, just got to get through it a day at a time.

Congratulations I'm 5+3 and so so anxious, no previous pregnancies but naturally a worrier! I've booked a reassurance scan for next week, is that something you could do?

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The anxiety is horrendous after a mmc. I had a normal mc with my very first pregnancy and was anxious when I became pregnant again but the pregnancy was so different and when there was no bleeding I felt pretty confident everything was ok. Fast forward a few babies to when I had the mmc I was devastated. I’d had all normal (for me) symptoms and went for a dating scan (as I had conceived whilst not having periods) by myself to find the baby had died at ~9 weeks. I have had a baby since and was a mess all the way through (kept telling the midwife and consultant but they weren’t interested). I’m 9 weeks pregnant today. I’ve had a scan last week (private) and everything was ok and have another booked for Saturday. There really should be much more support for women pregnant after mc.

I wouldn't wish this anxiety on anyone, but its so comforting to hear from people going through similar things. Thanks so much.

Amazing tips @pomfluff I've been catching up on the bodyguard as a distraction technique. I'll check out guided meditation too. It's reminded me of the hypnotherapy download I had in late pregnancy with DD, didn't help with the labour but got me to sleep when I was massive and anxious and uncomfortable! I'm going to see if I can find some for early pregnancy.

For those of you who had reassurance scans / tests - did they lessen your anxiety? Money's pretty tight so I wouldn't want to pay then still be stressing after. Also, does anyone know if the NHS would follow up if anything bad was found on an early private scan?

I had a lot of stuff done privately last time and I found it did really help me so I will do the same this time although I appreciate it's not possible for everyone to throw lots of money at it.

I had an early private scan at 7 weeks to convince myself that I was really pregnant and to check everything was as it should be. I then had the Harmony test privately at 10 weeks (and found out the gender which was amazing!). Harmony package included scans at 10 and 12 weeks.

I also had my scan on the NHS at 12 weeks but I declined the NHS screening due to already having a low risk Harmony result.

It's very individual I think, I loved the Harmony but I know others who are happy with the NHS screening or prefer no screening at all.

I'm also pregnant after a mmc last year and terribly anxious. I'm investing in early private scans this time. I know from my 3 months of false positive tests post-mmc that poas is basically meaningless once you've had a positive, and having only found out at 14 weeks that the foetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks before I know it would be a lot easier to find out sooner. That's physically and mentally of course. Keeping fingers crossed for everyone in the same situation

I think that's the big benefit in my mind of earlier scans. I know they are only a snap shot and don't guarantee anything but I'd rather know sooner rather than later if something had gone wrong.

I'm sorry to hear about your MMC, fingers crossed for all of us.

I'm sorry to hear about your mmc @ApplestheHare.

I'm still waiting on my 48hr quantitative bloods I had Taken yest to show the hcg is doubling. Fx, as the first number was 178 which seemed quite decent but I know you can't really make much judgement until you have the second and can see they're going up.

As long as I get through that ok I think I'm going to book an early scan. I'll still probably be a bag of nerves once that's worn off but the heartache of getting to the 12wk and potentially having learnt you have had a mmc sounds truly awful. Sorry to those of you who have gone through it

How is everyone today?

I wonder if anyone had had their bloods done on here. I phoned for the results from my 48hours test and they want to test again in 48hours.

She didn't give me the figures as she said she couldn't see them on the system and then said they aren't allowed to give them over the phone anyway. I've got to ring back & speak to dr in morning if I'm anxious (which I am!!) just seems odd they were on there Monday.

I'm wondering why they would retest again thought if perhaps they haven't risen fast enough or possible inconclusive? So worried this isn't a good sign but really trying to be positive

I'm thinking I won't book an early scan because money is tight - and I had a scare at the 20 week scan with my daughter that led to more scans and horrendous worry. Turned out she's totally fine. So I can see the other side of scans, that they can throw up false alarms that can make anxiety way worse.

I'll see how I go though! Having to go through the first trimester for no reason again would be awful. With my MMC I still had sickness etc, as my body hadn't realised baby stopped growing weeks earlier. For those who are planning scan or have had one, how many weeks is best to have it done?

I've never had bloods done I'm afraid so can't help with that side of things but I'm keeping everything crossed for you that it's just procedure and all is well.

I think a private scan is best around 7-8 weeks. In IVF pregnancies they always scan at 7 weeks to check the pregnancy is viable at that stage. You should definitely see a heartbeat at that point if dates are right.

A week to go till our private scan, I'm counting down the days!