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Do I have to take my baby when I go for a wee?!

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Scout1774 · 30/08/2018 11:04

Ok so this is a strange question perhaps but one that is really stressing me out!
I am pregnant for the first time, due in October/November, so all getting quite soon. One of my friends kindly gave me a bouncy baby chair she no longer uses, and she said "it's quite small so you can take it to the bathroom with you when you need the loo." I didn't say anything, but I thought, "why do I need to take the baby to the loo with me?" Then I have read a couple of pregnancy books, and one of them said "if you have friends come over try and get them to hold the baby so that you can go to the loo."
What's wrong with putting the baby in the moses basket in the bedroom, shutting the door (so the cat can't get in) and then popping to the loo for two minutes? Obviously if the baby was hungry or needed something from me at that moment I wouldn't do anything, but if he was calm what's wrong with him being alone for a few minutes?
Sorry - do tell me if I am being very naive!

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Gettingbackonmyfeet · 30/08/2018 15:06

This thread has brought back memories

These sort of things scared the living daylights out of me with ds1

So now sat safely with two little reprebates at nearly three and six here is what I learnt

They will not spontaneously combust if you nip for a wee (although the thought will cross your mind ...the wonders of newborn stage hormones)

Nor will a brief gust of wind manage to cause a chain effect in the room leading to sudden doom for the newborn

They will not suffer irreparable attachment damage if left for the period of time it takes for a quick wee and wash your hands

Changing your clothes and having half a cup of coffee will save your sanity...there is no shame in putting them in front of shiny stuff to keep their attention whilst you achieve this

There will be 5483796 people who will claim catastrophic consequences ranging from imminent nuclear war to your child morphing instantly into the tiniest serial killer on earth if you look away for a split second or do not baby wear at every moment of the day

There will also be 593739 people who will claim normal worrying and natural concern for the most precious thing in your life will in fact cause neuroses the like of which even Freud would have balked at...and in fact said newborn should be climbing Kilimanjaro by week 2

So my considered advice is this

Use your common sense

Develop an internal tune you can play in your head during the unwanted advice ( best combined with a beatific and glazed smile that suggests your listening )

Please don't stress..you will be fine use your sense , accept your a bit nuts at first because we all are and do what works for you

(Of course my two just had a 20 minute row about whose mother I am ? Spoiler...im both their mothers which they know full well....so take from that what you willGrin)

MirandaWest · 30/08/2018 15:08

I really can’t remember what I did Blush.

But mine are 14 and 12 now Smile

dinosaurkisses · 30/08/2018 15:10

“Changing your clothes and having half a cup of coffee will save your sanity...there is no shame in putting them in front of shiny stuff to keep their attention whilst you achieve this”

Exactly this.

My mid morning shower while dd napped in her bassinett was a tiny bit of normality that made me feel a bit more human during the first few weeks after DH went back to work.

ThirdChildFourthPile · 30/08/2018 17:10

Hideandgo that gave me a genuinely unexpected chuckle!

megletthesecond · 30/08/2018 17:11

No.
It never occurred to me. I'd have trodden on them for a start.

OutPinked · 30/08/2018 17:31

I didn’t take mine to the loo but I did have to when I was in the shower/bath with dc2&3 as they were majorly attached to me and would scream if I left them alone or even with DH. Bouncer chairs are useful regardless.

CocoDeMoll · 30/08/2018 17:40

I have done many a wee (and poo) with a baby in a sling Blush.

I keep a baby chair in the loo always for ds. It’s just easier to take them with you especially if you have a very loving but rough older sibling that will have pounced on them in the time it takes you to wee!!

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