Is it really necessary to do a pregnancy test?

[Timeforanothernewone]

Someone tell me there's no need ..

Eldest is 19m, youngest 7m and ebf (obviously solids, but no formula milk).

I haven't yet had a period but DH and I, for the first time since ds2, DTD on Friday.

Cue cramping and that niggling feeling of indigestion this morning after my toast.

I started symptoms early with both pregnancies but still... Seriously.

This is a major fuck up. DH starts uni in sept as well as working full time. We'll be blessed if I am pregnant but it might just kill me.

Did you use contraception?

Can't you get the implant as post exposure contraceptive up to 5 or 10 days after DTD?
Either way you'd be covered today ?
It could just be that your body is reacting after no sex for 7+ months, but if you want to be sure then either get covered or do a test

You can’t get pregnancy symptoms five days after unprotected sex. It isn’t possible.

You could still be pregnant though. I’d make an urgent appointment at your gp to discuss an emergency contraceptive coil.

We used the pull out method so basically no contraception!

I wonder whether it could be my period arriving.

I think I had symptoms with my two boys about 7dpo. I pretty much started puking the second the sperm hit the egg with my first and then puked right up until about 35 weeks

is it wrong that I'd secretly be really pleased if I was pregnant? We always wanted three close in age but had accepted that we'd wait until DH qualifies

I don't understand what you're asking. That there's no need to do a test because you're obviously pregnant, or because you're not?

You won't have pregnancy symptoms so soon after conception, if it's occurred. So yes, you will need to do a test in a week or so to know for sure. I'd think after having two kids, this would all be rather obvious to you

I just wanted someone to talk to about it. Get excited about it with and panic about it with

You're probably not pregnant. If you are, congratulations - and if not, I would so so seriously advise you to try another method of contraception. I have 3 and a 4th on the way shortly, it's fab but is busy and hard work. There's a lot of research that shows worse outcomes for both children (due to much less attention) and mothers (due to lack of time for recovery of things like pelvic floor and iron stores), when you have more closer together.
It's also not entirely fair to your DH if he is trying to study and work and also help out - honestly, unless you have a lot of family are around or you can afford a nanny I would strongly suspect he'd end up dropping out. With three so small it is physically a two person job a lot of the time, even just to keep them in clean nappies and food, let alone actually play. It gets trickier not easier as your youngest gets older and is more mobile, needs proper meals and routine etc.

I can tell you really want this and don't want to rain on your parade (after all, I was you once, and I love having three!) but seriously, speak to your HV/ gp about a method other than pull out for just now, and maybe about why spacing can be really helpful.

The ideal would be when DH qualifies. Boys will be 6 and 7. Dh is away two weekends a month at uni and works Mon-fri plus one Saturday a month so it's all on me, really.

I'm getting my smear test done on Thursday. I'll discuss then. We're not sexually active so I've not thought about contraceptives but maybe now I need to get it sorted

As a PP said, it’s impossible to feel pregnancy symptoms five days after sex. In all likelihood you’re not pregnant.

I really don't get all these women who don't use contraception (use withdrawal) and then clutch their pearls in horror that they might be pregnant because they have psychosomatic symptoms a few days after conception. I'm in my 40s and had excellent sex education at school (from a biology point of view anyway) and can't believe how ignorant many are about reproduction and contraception. Has sex ed changed drastically since the 80s and 90s??

Is not possible, an embryo after fertilisation has to get to blastocyst which takes 5-6 days, following that it will then take a few days to start implantation then your levels will start to rise.

No nurse who values her PIN number will do a smear on someone who might be pregnant so I'd rebook that if I were you for when you can be certain you're not pregnant. I'm a smear taker and would make you rebook. And give you advice on effective contraception.

I'm not pearl clutching. I'm just kinda hopeful. Stupidly hopeful

You didn't use contraception, and by your own admission you want to be 'secretly' pregnant

So wait 3 weeks and take a test

🙄

I had cramps the first few times after an orgasm with DH, I am BF DD2 and it seems to intensify all feelings in that area. If you had mind blowing sex it may well be your body adjusting to the feeling of orgasm again. Took my breath away!

Wait two weeks and take a test.

Not secretly pregnant.

Ah never mind. I'm off

You’ve posted before haven’t you about wanting another so soon by your dh is starting university and will have x
Amount of hours to fill for example 300 hours in year 3? You concluded now would be the wrong time. But you ‘secretly’ want to be pregnant. Are you planning on ‘accidentally’ falling pregnant?

Dh is an adult. He knows how contraception works. We've discussed and his feeling is that i don't need hormones pumped into my body. I'm not sure what my feelings are yet. He'd also rather have a small gap but for obvious reasons, won't be the one doing all the work. Life isn't too bad at the moment but as pp have suggested, when the baby starts moving things will get more manic

And yeh, 300 hours supervised, plus two weekends a month lectures plus additional study time.

If it's depressing you to think that it'll be when DH qualifies, there's not necessarily a need to wait so long. In 3 years your youngest might be able to qualify for 30 hours of nursery (assuming you head back to work or study even quite part time), while your eldest will be at school. Once children get to around 2.5-3 and are able to do more for and by themselves, things get a lot more manageable with 3+. It doesn't have to be forever - but for your sake, your DCs sake and your DH's sake (and assuming that his study will really help you all, your financial future, waiting at least a couple of years sounds very sensible, and a blessing that you're not pregnant this time. Also your own relationship - if it's taken 7 months to have sex since the birth, then either you need the time to invest in your relationship together or to recover physically, if that's why it's been a while - once you have 3 it's hard to find a slot sometimes without at least one DC in the room!
All round good news and good luck with the study and with the next...

I’d wait a week or 2 and then do a test just in case. I’ve fallen pregnant 4 times before my periods have come back whilst breastfeeding so it can happen. Re the smear I had one before I found out I was pregnant with one of my children. It’s actually safe but they do usually recommend you don’t as the cervix undergoes changes in pregnancy so you can get cell changes that aren’t significant but could lead to further tests that actually you don’t need.

Too early to test and you wouldn't be having symptoms this early even if you were. I would leave it and if you don't have a period do a test. You might not have even ovulated yet so I wouldn't be too worried just yet.

It is exciting, and scary. Sorry people have to pour cold water on it here. Good luck either way op.

I think it is unlikely based on what you have said but obviously not impossible.