young mums to be?

[SavanahXx]

hello ladies, I'm a young mum to be, and I was just wondering if there are any more young mummies to be? would really appreciate some mum friends x

It was brilliant ❤ Like I said, I was a bit worried because I'd been feeling a lot better recently (nausea has almost completely gone) but clearly I shouldn't have worried

Bean also did a somersault! Their head was originally on the right but they then did a flip

aww @CobaltRose that sounds amazing!! my little one just kinda' wriggled at my 12 weeks scan, abit like how a fish flaps when its out of water lmao glad you're feeling better now! its horrible feeling sick all the time!

@SavanahXx, bean did that too! Flapped and jiggled like a landed fish lol

Yeah, it's great to not feel sick anymore, but now I feel really really tired! If it's not one thing it's another

its the strangest thing isn't it, yet the most amazing! I kept going "look, the baby looks like its flapping like a fish" while crying then laughing haha @CobaltRose and aww! I hope you feel better soon! they say that its the first trimester is the hardest and you feel better in the second, personally I didn't, ive felt worse haha, but I hope you feel great soon! not long till your second trimester now

22 and 11 weeks pregnant over here 🎉 not got my 13 week scan until the 29th and I'm just so anxious something goes wrong 🙁🙁

hello @MissMoodyMoo I hope your scan goes okay, hard to do but please try not to worry, you'll hopefully see your jellybean wriggling about so soon, bet your counting down the days aren't you?

Hi ladies, just wondered if I could join this thread, I'm in a bit of a different situation to you all but I could use a bit of support.
I'm 18 and nearly 33 weeks pregnant but it was unplanned and the dad doesn't want to be involved. I'm thinking that the best course of action is adoption but I'm not really very proud of this choice.
I started another thread earlier this evening looking for advice and people have been lovely so it's just nice to chat to people really, especially as I'm keeping the pregnancy a secret so I don't really have any support.
Thank you and good luck to all of you with your pregnancies, you must all be very excited!

hello @MissKatyKat of course you can join I was just reading your thread, your situation sounds so tough don't make a decision if your not 10000% sure though, it may seem like the best course, but it might not be the right decision, I could be wrong, but if your saying your not proud of the choice, maybe your not completely sure? but you do whatever you feel is right hunni, do you know what you're having? and I'm here, if you ever want a chat, doesn't seem right you not having that much support, I hope you're ok chick

Thank you so much for your reply @SavanahXx that really means a lot. To be honest I don't think I really want to do it, but I think it's the best thing for the baby and it will make everything more difficult if I don't. Yes, I'm having a little girl Thank you for the support and the offer of a chat, that would be lovely xx

Hi can I join? currently 16 weeks with first. I'm 19, will be 20 when he or she is born! I have an early gender scan booked for Sunday!x

oh no @MissKatyKat sounds like an impossible situation, but don't do it if you don't 100% want too, because you wouldn't want to later regret it, I don't think anyone is ever really prepared for a baby, I know my mum wasn't, she was 17 when she got pregnant and had me 2 days before her 18th, I turned out alright you kinda just go with the flow, and everyone just seems to manage, don't let anyone influence your decision though, make sure its your decision 100%

and aww, I'm having a little girl too, have you had your second trimester 'glow' yet? where you feel loads better? still not had mine, still feel awful and your very welcome, I'm here anytime, could also do with people who are pregnant and get it, don't think my OH fully gets what its like being pregnant haha, hard to explain it to him xx

hello @Kate123cl course you can join
congratulations on being pregnant!! how's your pregnancy so far? hope you're finding everything ok and bet your excited for Sunday? do you have a feeling on what the baby is? I thought girl for me, and OH kept saying boy, but its a little girl [happy] x

Thank you @SavanahXx your messages are so kind. It's not a decision I'll be taking lightly, I'm going to have to think long and hard.
I guess I've had maybe half the 'glow' as I don't feel sick anymore but I'm still pretty tired and still working all through summer while trying to make sure nobody realises I'm pregnant, which is exhausting in itself. I hope you start to feel better soon, are you working? xx

no need to thank me @MissKatyKat and good, I'm here if you need anything either decision you make and lucky you! I still feel as sick as a dog! I haven't actually been sick at all throughout my pregnancy, just spend all day feeling sick, and I'm with you on the tiredness! I was told a few weeks ago I'm anemic though, so maybe its that, but my tablets aren't helping, so maybe its not that, I'm not sure. and now way! how have you managed to hide it this long if you don't mind me asking? and nono, not working, probably that's why I get criticised ahahah, ive had jobs, never liked any of them! I guess I never knew what I wanted to do, but I'm so sure on being a mum, guess I'm kinda destined to do that or something haha what do you work as? sorry if I'm being nosey lmaoo xx

You're not being too nosey at all, it's nice to talk! I just work in a clothes shop at the moment until I go to uni in september, unless I decide not to go obviously. There's nothing wrong with just wanting to be a mum, to be honest I have no idea what I actually want to do with my life and I probably never will! Sorry to hear you're anaemic, health wise I've actually been very lucky, although I was pretty sick at the start. I don't mind you asking at all, I've just worn loser clothes, which hasn't been ideal in this heat but I haven't really had a choice, and I've been very lucky in that the bump is tiny at the moment and I'm nearly 33 weeks. Hopefully I won't suddenly get huge overnight because I really don't want anyone to know about it, especially while I still haven't made a decision. xx

good, I'm glad haha, definitely wouldn't want to impose and be too nosey haha, I remember wanting to go to uni, then once I reached secondary, I realised that while everyone was making plans on what they wanted in their future, I was the odd one out and never knew what I wanted, I did an apprenticeship, then realised how much I hated it, then went to college, and didn't like that either, so dropped out, I guess I was kinda lucky in a way, because I had money in an account for when I turned 18, so i've been able to use that and live off it, and invest in things that I know I can sell at some point in the future so that I'm secure when it comes too money (I just reaaalllyyy don't want to sell them yet) haha, so I'm not just one of them that left school and thought "I'm leaving school to have a baby so I can get a house" I tried, and really just didn't like any of it!!

and must of been horrible wearing loose clothes, especially in this weather we've been having!! and wish my bump was tiny -.- I'm only 5 months and cause I'm so small, I look at least 6/7 months -.- but I really hope you're ok with everything you've got going on xx

I'm as okay as I can be at the moment, and just chatting to you helps. You talk a lot of sense about your life, and I'd never judge anyone else on their life choices anyway, and I'm hardly in a position to judge anyone right now! I'm very small as well so I've been really surprised that I've stayed so small so far, it's almost like the baby knows I don't want anyone to know. This is the bump tonight at nearly 33 weeks.

omggg! you're so lucky! I swear you really don't look 33 weeks pregnant, do you reckon she's just going to be a small baby? and aw, I'm glad it helps, I've been through an awful lot, had a traumatic childhood, and I had to grow up at a young age, so I think that's why I'm the way I am today, and I've tried to hide it from certain people, my mums not the nicest of people, she wished horrible things on my baby the first time I was pregnant, and then I ended up having a MMC, then sent people to my door to kick off the day after I found out I was pregnant the second time (she didn't know I was pregnant that time) then I miscarried with that pregnancy, she is just all round a ball of stress I don't want in my life, and without her, I'm never stressed, so whenever I see someone she knows, I have to try and hide lmfaoo, there's no hiding this bump tho, no idea how ive done it this long, its only a matter of time before I cant waddle off quick enough and get spotted haha xx

Wow I'm sorry your mum causes you so much stress! It sounds like you're definitely better off without her. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I'm close with both my parents but I still haven't told them about this, a few people on my original thread are telling me that I should but I really don't want them to be upset or disappointed that I'm giving the baby away so I don't really want to say anything to them unless I change my mind and even then they'll probably be so shocked that I kept it from them for so long.

ohhh don't worry, I kinda adjusted and got used to her personality, enough was enough though, and I changed my number and haven't spoke to her for a year, and I'm 19, but feel like i've had the life experience of a 60 year old, definitely not good haha -.- and the decision is entirely yours hunni, I think people are just trying to advise you, a lot of people on mumsnet are a lot older too, so maybe their logic is abit different too? I don't know, they might not be disappointed though, maybe they'd understand? or maybe your right and maybe they would try and change your mind or what not, but I don't think anyone can say what they would be like, other than them themselves, but you've said you're all close, so I cant see them being disappointed in you no matter what decision you make! xx

I just wish I could make a decision to be honest. Or I wish someone would tell me what to do. Thanks so much for chatting with me, it's really helped xx

@SavanahXx Aww that's lovely, congrats on your little girl! yep, really excited for Sunday! DP is really hoping for a boy and I'm hoping opposite! although I do have a feeling it's a boy, I'll be happy either way! X

aww chick @MissKatyKat how do you really feel? I think you'd be an amazing mum if you keep her, you even contemplating having her put up for adoption because its the 'best decision' shows how much you actually love her, and that you want wants best for her, and that's what being a parent is all about, wanting what is best for your child, so if you decide to keep her, I think you'd honestly be amazing!! that's my opinion anyway, I don't think anyone can tell you what to do, you have to be the one to make that decision, and I understand its a huuugeee decision, but time really is running out hunni, only 7 weeks till shes here right? I'm glad talking has helped, always here

@Kate123cl thank you I'm so excited to meet her, still haven't decided on any names yet though haha, she's going to end up being a nameless baby at this rate lmao, and aww! you'll have to let us know whether its a boy or girl and I know what you mean, I wasn't bothered whether she was a boy or girl, just as long as the baby was ok!! x

Oh god 7 weeks, that sounds so close when you put it like that and I've still got so much to think about. Everyone's been so helpful on the thread I started which is making me just reconsider everything so I have no idea what I'm doing now. I've decided to send the dad a message tomorow and see what he says, but I don't think it'll make much difference. Thanks for your support @SavanahXx xx

its really not that long @MissKatyKat but if you reconsider, id tell your mum and dad, it sounds like they would definitely help out! I'm not even that close to my dad and he already keeps ringing up being all like "ive picked up this for the baby, ive picked up that for the baby" so I think with you being close to your parents, youd get even more support than I do!! I'm glad you've decided to tell the dad, my dad wasn't around till I was 11, because he was 16 when he got my mum pregnant and he "wasn't ready for kids at all" but when he'd grown up, he had a change of hear, I dunno, I think either way you'll do amazingly no matter what you decide, with or without the dad xx