gift for DP after birth

[orphanblack1]

Would like to buy DP a gift from me and the baby for putting up with all my moaning and generally being brilliant!

DP is getting me an eternity ring (which will be a joint birth and 40th present I think - with beautiful diamonds from my grandmother's rings) so would like to get him something nice, but not a watch as we are getting married next year so likely will get him a watch for that.

Any ideas?!

How about a nice pair of cufflinks or something? You can get them personalised :)

My gift to DH will be the baby, but I don't think I'll be getting anything either!

What about an experience day or special night out with friends when baby is a few months old? Honestly, there is no material thing anyone needs after having a baby more than they need some time off to feel like a real person again.

You're giving him a baby... isn't that enough? You've every right to moan and complain. Pregnancy is awful 😩😩😩

Yeah I know I’m giving him a baby but would just be nice to do something for him too. I saw a print which was a picture of a daddy bear and baby bear (I call him my bear so it’ll probs call my son that too - also call the cat my bear!) saying “daddy and me” and thought about that framed for nursery but then didn’t seem like much of a gift for him.

Cuff links yes except he doesn’t wear them and we live offshore so experience day is out as would need to book him flights too (am very complicated!!)

Maybe I’ll not get him anything - seems easier!!!

Yy to growing his baby for 9 months and pushing out/having major surgery.

You're too kind! Never entered my head to get a gift for DH.

How about a mug or key ring or something?

If you could wait a little bit you could do one of those hand/feet cast things made into a key ring? X

putting up with a pregnant women..... they are supposed to. He doesn't need a gift for that he has a baby.

Key ring with the baby's foot print or finger print? You can buy kits from notonthehighstreet.com

Oooh I love the key ring idea!

A 23 and me kit for him and the baby so he can see what part of the baby’s genetics came from him. (You will need to catch some baby drool to do the baby’s kit though)

Sorry I'm in the 'you have done enough already' camp.

We really don't need to normalise push presents as 'a thing' imo.

What?? Bad enough people do “push presents” but buying the father a present for “putting up with you” seriously??

Ridiculous (but kind). Firstly, given what you're going through, the least he can do is support you through it. Secondly what the fuck kind of present would be even slightly meaningful next to the fact that you've just given birth to his baby? That just eclipses everything imo.

Maybe wait until you have been through labour and recovery before you decide that DP needs something to say "sorry for having to put up with me"...

What if he hadn’t put up with your moaning OP? That would be kind of disappointing. Putting up with you is the bare minimum a man who gets you pregnant can do. The alternative is him fucking off.

I think it's a nice idea to mark the occasion. You know you're 'giving him a baby' as PPs have said, but you still had this thought, which means it must mean something to you.

DP got me a beautiful bouquet of flowers the day DD came home (she's adopted and we're both women). Neither she nor I had pushed anything out but it was a lovely thing to do!

What about a bottle of wine that you can lay down now and will be ready for drinking in 18 years, so you can toast each other for having raised an adult?

Yeah I get the views of eveyone and to be fair, he’s not complained about me complaining but has just been doing so much to help and I don’t think I’m always grateful.

And yes it’s to mark the occasion also.

Liking the wine idea too!

And also (soppy I know) just because I love him. He’s the best person I know and I’m so glad he gets to be father to our baby. He will teach him so much and I couldn’t ask for a better role model

Haha, this is very thoughtful of you but honestly you are about to push a baby out of your vagina. PUSH A BABY OUT OF YOUR VAGINA. It really hurts and you are left with all sorts of flabby bits and loose areas. i pissed the bed 3 days afyer DD1 was born when i tried to hold it in and nothing held! He doesn't need anything.

Yeah maybe wait til you've been through labour. Your might decide that's enough...

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That made me giggle. I wet myself all along the hallway to the toilet because I couldn't hold it a few days after birth.

I think buying him something is a lovely idea - but I haven't had a baby so could be equally naive!

Best of luck

give! I really had no concept of the cost of pregnancy and childbirth until after I had had my first child. Honestly, what the dad “puts up with” during partner’s pregnancy is nothing.

Omg re the vagina comment!!!! Ha ha, ok I will wait until after labour and reflect!!!! I am bloody petrified about the birth to be fair!!