More Christmas Cake! Pregnancy after loss (thread 3)

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New thread!

I’m 23 weeks today and have woken up to a few little cramps ( which have now gone) and abit of diarrhoea .. my tummy does feel abit uneasy but I’m wondering if this is ok/ normal or if I should keep my eye on it and then ring someone for advice?

@Athers666
Thank you i will remember this and if it gets any worse I'll go
To the doctors :) x

Hi all!

Scan today confirmed a healthy baby girl ❤ Absolutely thrilled!

She was being a monkey though and had her face wedged against the placenta, making it hard to get a decent profile shot

@CobaltRose96
Ahh congrats lovely x

Congratulation @CobaltRose96 that picture is amazing!

Hi all, currently trying to decide on the downs,Edwards and patu testing for my 12 week scan, I'm in 2 minds whether to have it or not , the midwife has said my age is against me but it's my choice I didn't have it for my other children so don't know whether to not have it now or not ?, I'll be 13+4 at the scan so they've said if I don't want it I can get an earlier scan

Is this the blood test. Would the outcome change how you feel about your pregnancy? I've decided to have the test on Monday and tbh I'm now quite scared of the results.
I think it would not change my feeling and am trying to think at least full warned is full armed for the possibility of a problem. I don't know I'm rambling now. Hope your alright xx

@Lovewinemorethanhusband sorry that last post was for you (baby brain not in gear)

@lillimum it's the nuchal test for downs,patu and edwards, it wouldn't change my mind about what to do but like you said is it better to be aware but then I just don't know, I'm worrying so much about my symptoms coming and going but don't actually know if I can cope for another 3 weeks of not knowing but in the same breath we don't have the money for a private scan really.

@Lovewinemorethanhusband I know what you mean about symptoms mine completely disappeared at 10 +4 and haven't come back. I'm just praying it's not another mmc. I've been to the doc and midwife but no one is willing to check me at all

@lilimum4 it's so worrying isn't it, I just need to know everything is ok and my other successful pregnancies I've had the sickness has continued throughout so now it's disappeared I'm just on edge constantly

Happy Friday all.

5 weeks until Mat leave (not that I'm counting!) but it's getting hard fitting work in! 🙈

Glucose Tolerance Test today - 2nd of this weeks monitoring for Obs Cholestasis and a growth scan. I have a good book with me ☺️

Lovely to see some new names on the thread.

This thread give so much hope - it's madness to think that our baby is likely to arrive a year exactly after our last miscarriage. A difference a year can make.

Just here for a rant really !!

My mum is driving me mental! I no this is horrible and I love her to pieces but atm I just can't deal with the stuff she is messaging me
She's on holiday and you'd think she wants to enjoy her time in the sun but oh no it's constant messages
Asking if I've told all my employers what they need to know
Asking if I've given them enough notice
Thinking I'm 21 weeks and not understanding why I am 23 weeks!!

I am 26 years old and today I feel like I'm 6 years old!!

Asking unnecessary things that doesn't involve her. All the work things are down to me and I've taken care if I've given enough notice and given them my MatB1 form last week when I wouldn't of usually got it till my 25 week appointment!!

I had to tell her she has to stop she's stressing me out!!
Does this seem unfair of me as now she's like I'm only looking out for you! A lot has changed since she had me and my sister so I don't think she fully understands
Arrrgggghhhhhhh

@Alicejj8x to be fair every employer is different maybe but I had to submit my Maternity Intention form and MatB1 at least 15 weeks before expected week of childbirth ie before end of 25 week of pregnancy.

I would just let your mum know your finding the guidance abit intense and you'd ask her for advise if you have any concerns.

She will likely be embarrassed that she has caused you to feel this way.

@Patienceofatoddler
Ahh did you!

My employers said they was happy to wait for me to collect it at my 25 week appointment as this is my first baby I have a 25 week appointment with doc then 28 with midwife but I managed to get it to them earlier as midwife said aslong as I was over 22 weeks I can collect it :)

Yeh I have messaged her I don't want a row with her but I just need her to understand it's abit too intense for me atm

@Alicejj8x everywhere is different here I got it a few days after my 20 week scan as midwife left it at GP surgery for me.

It may be your mum is basing her ideas on a different experience / employer terms and conditions etc.

Def just have a word.

I feel so grateful that my parents (mum esp) and very chilled about things (prol as she is a delivery suite midwife lol) but then she is likely kept very up to date on progress as I seem to ask her with any concerns initially 🤣🙈

Try not to get to upset by it and be honest with her I'm sure she will back off a bit once she knows how it's making you feel 💕 x

Hello ladies can I ask a favour from you please.
Can you all cross your fingers, pray or what ever works for me today.
Today is my wedding anniversary, my due date for my last baby (mmc) and my 12 week scan for this pregnancy.
I'm not feeling very confident as I lost all my symptoms 2 weeks ago. And have had infection after infection, I've been on antibiotics practically the last 8 weeks and I don't know if that will cause damage to my baby.
I'm hoping for the best. I'll update when we get back however It goes. Thank you in advance.

Lilimum what an emotional day for you. I so feel for you. Wishing you all the best and thinking of you x

@Patienceofatoddler thank you

@Lilimum4
My symptoms faded and then a few days later came back with a vengeance now I'm 23 weeks!
Fingers crossed for you today and I hope everything is ok xxx

@Athers666 @Alicejj8x thank you ladies but unfortunately my baby didn't make it. He/she died at 9 weeks. So I'll be leaving this group sorry. Good luck to you all and thank for your support. Xx

@Lilimum4
I am so so sorry I know exactly how you feel I've to had 2 mmc!! It's horrible :( I hope you get the support you need xxxx

So sorry to hear this @lilimum4. Thinking of you! Xxxx

@lilimum4 I'm so sorry. It seems so far from fair that some people have to go through this horrible experience more than once. Hope you've got good support around you in real life. You've definitely got it here any time you need us. Xx

I am so very sorry to read your update. It's just so so unfair. Gutted for you. I'm so sorry x