When did you start telling people?

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I'm nearly 7 weeks pregnant and only my husband knows. I've nearly let it slip to my parents and friends I've seen since I found out a few weeks ago but so far I've not told anyone.

I work term time so I don't need to tell my work yet but I'm wondering when other people told others?

My husband doesn't want me to tell anyone until we have our first scan which I can understand.

I'm having dc2 and we told our parents, my sister and my employer straight away.

Apart from work, they're all people I'd be looking for support from if I had a miscarriage, so I didn't see the point in delaying telling them news they'd be delighted to hear.

With DC1 after 12 week scan

Currently pregnant with DC2 waiting till 20 week scan if possible

We told my mum, sister, mother in law and sister in law. When I had my MC the people I needed were able to help me. I was about 5 weeks when we found out/told them.

With dd2 I didn't know I was pregnant till I was nearly 20 weeks.
I was so shocked, I still remember my sister's laughing thinking I was joking😂😂😂
I never showed until I was about 27weeks, so then I told people.

A couple of good friends who supported me when I had a miscarriage. No intentions of telling anyone else until after the scan and nuchal screening results are in.

We're having DC2 but told my parents and in-laws as soon as we found out with both. My employer doesn't know yet as I'm still on maternity leave with DC1! 😂

I'm 10 weeks pregnant with #2 and feeling weird about telling people. I waited until 15 weeks with my daughter, but feel like I'm already showing and not sure if I can keep it under wraps for as long. For some reason I feel like people will think I'm being greedy and selfish for having another baby!! Argh!

@myotherbagisgucci I'm in the same boat, but if you think that's bad, I'll only be back at work for about eight weeks before I head off on maternity again! My employer is NOT happy 😂

That did make me chuckle @dinosaurkisses 😅 And at least you won't have to find much childcare for your first! 🙊

I'm guessing my boss will feel exactly the same as yours! I think they'll be 19/20 weeks between when I go back and leave again, but that doesn't include all the holidays I've got saved to use either! 🙈

I would like to tell my mum but my husband doesn't want me to. He wants to wait until the scan.

How will your mum feel if you leave telling her for 12 weeks? Xx

How will your mum feel if you leave telling her for 12 weeks? Xx

I'm don't see how that is relevant. The OP does not need to factor the feelings of others in to this. It's between her and her DH, it's their baby.

What's next? How will mum feel not being birth partner? or not being first to meet baby?

I told my mum before my partner...because shes my rock and i knew she would be so excited.

I get the wait though - i lost my first and it was heartbreaking. But i needed the support from my mum/partner etc

Now the 2nd is due, again she was told - and very close friends once we had a scan at 8 weeks (private). And my employer as i work in a high risk place.

Will tell everyone else at 12 weeks scan - but wont be announcing it on social media!

@Wellthisunexpected I don't understand why you wouldn't tell your mum! Surely the support you receive from her during your pregnancy is just as important as the one you receive from your partner/DH!

How will mum feel not bring birth partner? Or not bring first to meet baby? My mum was my birth partner, along with my husband when I had my DD. Having her there with us was a massive comfort to me and a incredible moment for us both to share as mother and daughter.

My daughter and her partner told us at 6 weeks saying don’t tell anyone until we have our scan and then a few days later it was my sons stag do and the barman in the pub was very pleased for them both iyswim😂😂😂😂

• son in law she isn’t marrying her brother 😂😂

16 weeks for us.

I don't understand why you wouldn't tell your mum! Surely the support you receive from her during your pregnancy is just as important as the one you receive from your partner/DH!

Well I’m not telling mine because I’ve had several miscarriages already, and I don’t want to tell her (or anyone else) until I’m pretty sure this one’s going to last.

12 weeks with my first pregnancy but it turned out to be such a horrific pregnancy I waited til 20 weeks the second time around

myotherbagisgucci there are many, many reasons why someone wouldn't tell their mum! For one, not everyone has a good relationship with their mum, for others they want to keep things private. For some their mum can't keep a secret and some want time just knowing as a couple!

Personally I can't understand why anyone would want their mum as their birthing partner, but I also appreciate not everyone feels as I do!

And no, don't think the support you get from your mum is as important as that you get from DH/ DP.

DC1 - told my parents at about 7 weeks and work at about 13 weeks after the scan.

DC2 - told my parents at about 8 weeks and also work at 8 weeks (because of awful morning sickness, I would have waited otherwise).

DC3 - told my parents at 13 weeks (because we knew discussions would take place and if DC1 found out then the whole world would find out) and work at 16 weeks.

I don't think there's any right or wrong. Just what works best for you. You can tell work up until 25 weeks but I always think that it's useful to tell them for time off for appointments and general support. Fwiw my mum didn't bat and eyelid when we told them at 13 weeks this time, she was absolutely fine.

@Wellthisunexpected obviously I have a different relationship to my mum.

myotherbagisgucci plus my point wasn't that she shouldn't not tell her mum, just that she shouldn't be factoring mum's feelings in to her decisions. That way marrital disharmony lies.

First time round I told everyone after my scan. My sister guessed at around 8 weeks though. I did the whole thing of asking for wine and not drinking it etc which worked for everyone except her. This time round I’ve not been bothered to be honest. A few of my friends with kids have guessed. My parents and inlaws seem to be oblivious.

I told my close family and best friends as soon as I found out. Everyone else after the 12 week scan