When did you tell your work you were pregnant?

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I’ll be 6 weeks on Wednesday so probably too soon too say anything yet but was thinking of mentioning it to my boss at 8 weeks once I’ve had a private scan.

Buuuuuut I feel awful today. I can’t be off sick as I had a stomach bug last week and a cold the week before.

Also dreading telling them as I’ve just passed my probation and it’s going to screw my boss over.

When did you tell your work place?

I had to say something a day after finding out, only because i was bleeding a bit and very bad cramps and was told by a doctor to take a week off and not over do it. I probably still would of said something though because i had to lift heavy things x

Oh i was on a 3 month trail too, just coming to the end off it. They still kept me on x

I told my line manager at 9 weeks after we'd had a private scan. I'm 11 weeks and nobody else knows (though I keep thinking they do as I'm so bloated!). I'll probably tell everyone else next week. Guess it depends whether there's any risks where you work?

I was also feeling awful at week 6 and 7 and every morning was contemplating phoning in sick but managed to get through it. Can't say I was very productive at work though!! Depends if you feel at all able to go in?

About 8 hours before I was admitted to hospital with hyperemisis, where I stayed for 16 days. That was at 7 weeks. I only told my (female) boss and my 2 closet colleagues, because I had a very strong feeling that my attendance was about to nose dive!

I told my MD at 9 weeks. I told other managers at 14 weeks and it was public knowledge at 17.

15 weeks, but I'm a teacher abroad and wanted to make sure that my job was secure!

If you are needing to take time off for pregnancy related illness, beat in mind that the law does not allow your employer to penalise you for this (can not be used against you in attendance discipliaries etc). But they can not honour this if they don’t know!

Pregnancy Sickness Support has lots of help and info to help deal with the sickness, and to inform doctors and employers.

I said it at 6 weeks. I had a desk based job but with a fair amount of international travel. So I needed to give my 2 bosses a heads up about that (not refusing to go, but a “just so you know, in case anything goes wrong and I have to get help abroad” way).

Also complicated that, 7 weeks before, we’d booked my flights along with everyone else in the (large) delegation to a massive intergovernmental conference - to depart the same day as my mat leave was due to start. So I was probably going to have to cancel that and needed to do that early before penalties ate up the refund.

We didn’t tell family though until 13 weeks, after the consultant appt. And I only told the 2 bosses, not the rest of the office, until after our families knew.

I had two rounds of IVF and sick leave for this so they've been won me every step of the way! It's been useful though as I'm only 7 weeks but felt awful last week so could just say I was knackered hormonal and nauseas!

Turns out my boss and his wife had four rounds of ivf in total too - I'm sure they'll be more understanding than you think, especially if they have kids.

The first time around 12 weeks but partly because I had pretty much just started my job! They were great about it.

This time I had to say something at 6 weeks because I'd bloated so badly and my work trousers have no give so I had to wear my maternity ones. That and the fact that my sickness is horrific -.- it's strictly between me and my manager until I'm 12 weeks though :)

I told my immediate boss at 8 weeks because I needed some time off for appointments and couldn't afford to take them unpaid but they can't pay me if they don't know. I didn't tell anyone else until 16 weeks when we had a private scan and told DD.

Last time I didn't say anything until 12 weeks because I managed to book appointments on already booked off days for my booking appointment and scan.

Day before my 12 weeks scan as I had supervision and I just couldn’t not say!

I was on placement and I had to tell them at 10 weeks because I was so unwell for a couple of days.
My paid work I told them this morning, I’m 13 weeks today.

I’m 6 weeks today and “told” two colleagues on Thursday last week. I say “told” because one of them guessed (been saying for weekend “I’m jormonal” but didn’t know then it wasn’t just PMT and said it again and she asked and I didn’t deny) and I accidentally passed a post it with midwife self referral details to the other and she found out that that way!

It’s nice for someone to know at work as it’s good to have someone around if you feel sick etc.

My manager works in a different office and I don’t plan to tell him until at least 12 week’s but there are two other women pregnant in my team in the other offices but they are much further along. We’re only a team of about 15 - there must be something in the water!

I think I told my manager the day after we found out (maybe 4 weeks?) but that was because I had been quite open with him about the fertility treatment we'd been undergoing and needing time off for hospital appointments. I told him early in case there was a need for more scans than normal. I didn't tell other people at work until I was about 20 weeks.

Massively depends on how you feel and how easy it will be for you to attend appointments without asking for time off. I didn't tell my work until 16 weeks, but I felt ok and my work is flexible enough that I didn't need to formally book any time off for appointments. DH, who is a teacher, had to tell them when I had my first early scan (I had multiple ones due to previous recurrent miscarriage) at 6+3, which I hated but it was either that or he didn't come.

I told my manager at 5 weeks as I was suffering with my blood pressure and felt faint quite a bit. I work in a busy pharmacy and I’m expected to stand for 8 hours with only a 1 hour lunch break so I needed to give her the heads up why I was sitting down and going to the loo so often! Luckily she’s pregnant with twins so she’s been amazingly supportive. I’m not telling anyone else until I’m 12 weeks. It really depends on what you do at work and if your safety is at risk. Plus if they know the reason you’re acting differently they’ll be more supportive/ understanding.

Around 14 weeks each time, once we'd had the scan, told family and didn't want work people to hear via friends in common.
It was harder to keep quiet with my 3rd and 4th pregnancies as I felt really sick, but am glad I did. A lot of people want to tell really early, especially first time around as it's all so exciting, but unfortunately many people do treat you differently when they know you are expecting and I'd rather have more time being seen and treated as a professional rather than someone who's already half way out the door, especially as my industry is not the most stable.
When I miscarried at 11 weeks I told my boss on order to take a week off sick, but not the team, because it was still so raw and every time people talked to me about it I would cry, and it was actually helpful to have a time to switch off it a
bit - however friends of mine have appreciated support, it's so personal.

If you've only just passed probation, unless you are chucking up 10 times a day, why not wait another month and a half until at least 12 weeks? It lets you show how great a worker you are and get more established, which is all really valuable down the line if you might want to ask for something like a part time or flexible return to work.

I was 21 weeks when I told my work with DD. Tbf i only Ieft it so long as id foubd out i was pregnant on the day i started and waa worried they're think I'd kept it from them at interview. Looking back they really weren't fussed

22 weeks. My employer is not supportive. I left it as late as possible.

5 weeks. I felt so sick. Also pregnancy sickness protection and maternity rights only kick in after you've told your employer.

Told boss just before 24 weeks - still must tell colleagues.......

Told mine at 7 weeks as I work in a day nursery and I’d have to cut back on lifting children for nappy changes