Don't want anyone kissing my baby when she's born!

[Dollydaydream97]

having the worst anxiety over this and I don't even know why I still have 7 weeks to go 🤦🏻‍♀️ But the thought of people kissing her on the lips makes my skill crawl! I mentioned it to my mum and her reaction was 'ow so I'm not even allowed to kiss my own grand daughter ! ' in a proper bitchy way?!? Like seriously do I have to make a sign saying don't kiss my child ! Has anyone else had this issue once baby was born ? can't stop thinking about it

Would anyone really kiss a baby on the lips?

I love the soft bit on the top of the head for kisses.

You will have to make a sign, because it won’t cross anyone’s mind that giving a newborn baby a kiss is a problem.

I didn't mind family kissing my babies on the head or cheeks but, honestly, no one ever attempted to kiss any of them on the mouth.

I don't think I've ever seen anyone kiss a newborn on the lips.
I think you're are worrying yourself needlessly about this.

Not one single person has ever attempted to kiss either of my babies on the mouth. I don’t think it’s a common thing to do!

Make sure dc has a dummy and tell dm your baby your rules.

Why would anyone kiss a baby on the lips?

Very close family might give her a little kiss, but it’s probably going to be her hands and head, maybe her cheeks but lips is unlikely I’d say!

Why are you so worked up over it? It's just a kiss.

Oh really.... Just calm yourself and quit worrying. Only close family will contemplate kissing, and it will be on cheek or forehead! Babies NEED to build up immunity to normal everyday bacteria which strengthens their immune systems.

I cant help but find this a bit weird. I get that it might not be common to kiss a baby on the lips but if any of my friends or family went to give my baby a smooch it wouldn't have even register in my mind. I can only assume you're worried about spreading germs?

I've never seen anyone kiss a baby on the lips.

Because my mum turns round and said I can't wait to kiss those little lips when I had my 4d scan ! And of course baby's need to build an immunity but I don't want anyone kissing her on the mouth straight after she's been born

Well then the issue here is your mum, because seriously no one has ever tried to kiss my children on the lips.

@SoyDora
I just wanted to know if it was normal for people to kiss people's baby's on the lips after being born or whether it wasent .

It’s not

Who kisses a baby except Mum/Dad, siblings, possibly grandparents?

Hold a baby, yes. Kiss someone else’s baby? No. Weird.

Not normal imo and if she tries I think you’d be fine to ask her to keep her kissing to forehead/cheeks.

Oh - I misunderstood. You think someone will want to kiss your baby on the lips. Why? No-one does that.

When my second dd was born my eldest wouldn't let anyone except my mum and partner come near 'my baby sister' or let strangers look in the pram without her permission but she was only 2 and half
I guess it's normal to feel protective but I think it's a little too much to tell your mum she can't kiss her own gbaby, I'm sure she won't be snogging her just pecks (unless she smokes heavily then tbh I might be with you on the face kissing)
Don't panic.

Totally get this. It’s really dangerous to let anyone kiss a newborn on the lips incase they pass on coldsaws. Some people have the virus without even realising.
You’re the parent so totally within your right to be strict on this and avoid it from happening.
Don’t let it stress you out though, I think once the baby is here you will be able to control most interaction and avoid too many kisses

With all due respect I think kisses from nan will be the least of your stresses when baby arrives. I'm sure your mum meant kisses in general not actually on the lips

It sounds like there are some boundary issues with you mum. If you have expressed that you don’t want that, and it’s your child not hers, then she should respect that. That’s it.

Hate to be rude but some of you are missing the point , I wanted to know whether it was normal to kiss other people's newborn baby's on the lips because my mum got very pissed off when I said I don't want anyone kissing her lips so yes she had full intentions of kissing her lips...I'm uncomfortable with it because unfortunately she always had cold sores ect and they lay dormant in your system and yes baby's need their immune system built up but let's not go giving the poor child herpes ones she's been born 🤦🏻‍♀️ i just don't see the need to kiss someone else's child forehead and cheeks I'm absolutely fine with how could you not want to kiss a newborns face but the lips are just a no and I simply wanted to know if anyone else felt the same or whether I'm just a weirdo 😂 Thanks all

@Dollydaydream97

Yep I got that... and no you’re certainly not a weirdo. I feel exactly the same, especially if your mum is prone to coldsores!
Stick to your guns on this one, with your mum and anyone else! Newborns are way too vulnerable - trust me I know I was in a&e with my son at 5 weeks as he had meningitis because he’d picked up cold symptoms!! Never worth the risk