Don't want anyone kissing my baby when she's born!

[Dollydaydream97]

having the worst anxiety over this and I don't even know why I still have 7 weeks to go 🤦🏻‍♀️ But the thought of people kissing her on the lips makes my skill crawl! I mentioned it to my mum and her reaction was 'ow so I'm not even allowed to kiss my own grand daughter ! ' in a proper bitchy way?!? Like seriously do I have to make a sign saying don't kiss my child ! Has anyone else had this issue once baby was born ? can't stop thinking about it

edition.cnn.com/2017/07/18/health/baby-dies-of-meningitis-from-herpes-virus/index.html

There you go, plenty of other links but just linking this one, It actually happens quite a bit ( babys getting ill from kisses)

People dont realise that just because they themselves feel fine it might not actually be the case.
there is no way anyone is kissing my baby.

I get coldsores although I haven’t had one since my twins were born. Took me a long time to feel comfortable kissing my own babies on the face (they were preemie nicu babies too) let alone anyone else. Totally fine to have a no kissing rule IMO. My friend’s preemie caught herpes from a relative’s coldsure - she ended up in PICU, and still needs medications and has outbreaks now at nearly 2. Not worth the risk.

Sounds like you have hypochondria (health anxiety), and possibly a germs-related form of OCD. I'm the exact same. I have a 10 day old and having multiple people touch him has been hell for my anxiety, as I'm always anticipating where their hands have been, whether they've been ill recently, whether my baby will catch whatever virus/illness is on them or in their system etc. My mum's boyfriend frequently gets cold sores on his lip. and I suspect that my mum has the virus in her system in a dormant state (she's never had an actual cold sore, but she's his partner so obviously must kiss him - doesn't manifest in everyone, though). I've found myself dying inside a little as my mum has approached my baby for a kiss, wishing I could just scream "NO!". I 100% understand how you feel. 100%!

At ten months my boy contracted herpes. He was so so sick. Definitely put your foot down with your mum

She will be your baby, so your rules. Be firm. If you're this worried then that's fine, it's a worry for you so get exactly what you want straight in your mind and tell people that. Your mum had you, now it's your turn. You are the Mum. No one else. Congratulations and the very best of luck with it all x

I wouldn't let anyone kiss my baby on the lips. It's dangerous.

Just explain herpes

I think it's weird to kiss a baby on the lips, head yes, hands, I get it, lips, no. Tell your mum to keep her herpes away from your baby.

I totally understand. My grandmother gets coldsores and kisses babies on the lips. I had a very strong talk with her about not doing it and showed her photos of a baby it had badly affected so she understood. However on one occasion she forgot and did it. I was unhappy but just gently reminded her to not do it

My sister kissed my baby on the lips yesterday! I didn't love it but there wasn't much I could do once it was done! She's generally pretty healthy though and I'd like to think my breastmilk is protecting her!