My partners family say that he is a disappointment and will rip his family apart if he dosent get me to terminate our baby

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I am 34 my partner is 45 we have been together 8 years. I found out that I was pregnant...unplanned... at the start of this month. After initial worries and a lot of soul searching (I have a 15 yr old and he has a 17 and 13 yr old from a previous marriage) we decided that we wanted to keep the baby and are excited about it. We knew that it might be difficult for our other kids to accept first off but felt that we could get through it together. My bf was really worried about telling his mum too as she has always been hard on him for the choices that he has made in his life and tells him that he has disappointed and shamed his family many times.His mum and most of his family dislike me and think that I am the cause of all the troubles in his life. He was also worried about telling his daughter fearing that she would never speak to him again she also dislikes me. He told his Dad and asked him for help telling his mum who said you just have to tell her. He told his mum and as expected she said that it will ruin their family and that he hasn't looked after his other kids properly. She said that it will kill his Dad and that if he dies it will be his fault. He has spoken to his mum calmly and told her that it's unfair for her to say that

They sound toxic! Controlling and seriously not enough to do in their lives if all they can do is try to control a 45 year old man!

Have your baby and ignore them, toxic nasty fools and ffs who says it'll kill our parents .... they're going to be grandparents ffs that's an honour nothing less, two fingers up to them IMO!

Right, so your mother in law sounds really toxic and so does his sister.
I have had a similar situation with my husbands family. They are vile too. My husband has recently told them that he will no longer see them as he has to put the mental well being of his “proper” family (me, the baby and the cat) first!
For Parents like this nothing is ever enough. It doesn’t matter if you don’t wear expensive trainers or who your family are. Do you love one another and is it a kind relationship. Let her throwdown her ultimatums, it will only drive a wedge between him and his family. There is no way you should terminate this baby because of them. It shouldn’t even be a question in your mind. Your partner will come to see this, when the baby is here that will be his priority.