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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Is this real? A positive?

46 replies

Whitley83 · 12/05/2018 14:02

I have no idea where to start! I lost our pregnancy at 10 weeks on 19th Dec. We gave up trying and I went really down hill and took a lot of reacrational drugs (I'm ashamed) I took coke the last time on tuesday. This morning i woke and took a test.. the result is below, is it really positive??? What have I done :( I feel like I've killed my child with drug abuse. Please don't judge, I am still grieving my lost child x

Is this real? A positive?
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Whitley83 · 12/05/2018 14:03

I also started a new job on Tuesday..

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Summer1986 · 12/05/2018 14:05

That test is definitely positive. I'm sorry to hear of your loss but congratulations on this news.
I can't advise on the drugs as no experience but now is the time to stop and start looking after you and little bean. How far along are you?

RLOU88 · 12/05/2018 14:05

The clear blue easy read tests normally always show a slight positive but this one is quiet clearly there so I would think you are pregnant. Chances are everything is fine. Lots of people drink ridiculous amounts before finding out they were pregnant and go on to have normal pregnancies.

Fluffybat · 12/05/2018 14:09

I'm so sorry about your loss and what a difficult time you have been through. That's a positive! No doubt about it. Congratulations. I'm sure you have done no long lasting damage if the pregnancy is early on. You should book a doctor's appointment to discuss possible effects from the drugs though. Good luck and this could be your fresh start.

DharmaLovesDrarry · 12/05/2018 14:11

No judgement here, and that's definitely a positive, Congratulations Flowers

Do you know when your last period was? Pretty sure the foetus isn't 'linked' as it were to us until 4-6 weeks.

Sorry for the loss of your baby in December; I can't imagine how hard that must have been. It might be worth speaking to your GP about counselling, though I appreciate that waiting lists etc it might not happen.

In relation to drugs, do you think you may need support to stop using? Pretty sue there are services available, again might be worth speaking to your GP x

Whitley83 · 12/05/2018 14:16

Thank you everyone. My period is due on the 16th so I'm about 3 and a half weeks . I think I had ptsd from the miscarriage as every hospital I went to turned me away as there was nothing they could do - which I understand but I was in so much pain and in a mess I really hope this little one sticks xx thank you everyone

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Adviceplease360 · 12/05/2018 14:19

Congratulations, I hope it all goes well for you.
Sorry but have to check are you addicted to drugs?

Whitley83 · 12/05/2018 14:23

I can take or leave them.. I can happily never take drugs again z

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TammySwansonTwo · 12/05/2018 14:25

This looks a lot like my positive test - in mine the horizontal line was just grey and the vertical line was very dark blue. I couldn’t figure out what it meant as I thought the vertical one was for negative (I was stressed and being stupid).

Unsure if it was related but I was having twins

Whitley83 · 12/05/2018 14:29

Thank you Tammy.. twice I've heard twins today. Someone said because it was so clear early on. I'm pushing 35 and my mum is a twin also x

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vampirethriller · 12/05/2018 15:04

Almost exactly the same thing happened to me. Miscarriage on new years day this year, had a couple of weeks of madness and old bad habits, then pregnant by Feb unexpectedly. I'm 15 weeks now and everything is ok with the baby. I'm 35 too if that's any help to know! Congratulations Flowers

TammySwansonTwo · 12/05/2018 15:07

Well I was 34, and no twins in my family at all, and they’re non-identical.

If your Mum is non-identical then it’s a strong possibility.

Wishing you all the best x

Ivegotfamilyandidrinkcupsoftea · 12/05/2018 15:09

Congrats op

Fwiw before i found out i was expecting dc1 i was doing all sorts of things a pregnant person shouldnt. I stopped as soon as i found out and hes now 10 years old and perfectly fine

SpunBodgeSquarepants · 12/05/2018 18:59

I did coke weekly up to 8 weeks, and then from about 34 weeks. My DS is now a happy and healthy 4 year old. You won't even be sharing your blood supply yet, there's really nothing to worry about. Obviously it's wise not to touch it again though.

Adviceplease360 · 12/05/2018 19:49

I did coke weekly up to 8 weeks, and then from about 34 weeks. My DS is now a happy and healthy 4 year old.

I hope I have misunderstood this.
You took drugs for the last 6 weeks of your pregnancy?

Adviceplease360 · 12/05/2018 19:50

Op, good luck to you hope it all goes well.

whoknewitwouldbethishard · 13/05/2018 08:06

@SpunBodgeSquarepants you did coke at 34w pregnant????

lapenguin · 13/05/2018 12:07

Congratulations! Don't worry about what you did before you knew, it's about what you do moving forward that counts! You don't share a blood supply for the first few weeks anyway. Go to the doctors, meet your midwife and be honest with what happened, they will do what they can to reassure you :)

SecretStash · 13/05/2018 12:19

I hope social services were involved with the drug taking at 34+ weeks.

bobstersmum · 13/05/2018 12:24

Wtf spunbodge absolutely disgraceful to knowingly take drugs while pregnant.
Op you didn't know you were pregnant I hope no harm is done and you have a wonderful pregnancy good luck!

Mummytooscarleo · 13/05/2018 15:15

Please someone tell me I read that wrong u did drugs at 34weeks?!?!?! And whitley congratulations hun wish u all the best💙❤

Ivegotfamilyandidrinkcupsoftea · 13/05/2018 17:08

I hope that poster just wanted to get reactions....

midmidlifecrisis · 13/05/2018 17:14

Congratulations, fingers crossed it's a sticky one. Sorry for your loss in December, that must have been very traumatic for you.

On a personal level, I had consumed lots of alcohol and didn't realise I was pregnant until 7 weeks. I didn't touch a drop after. My baby was fine, overdue and plump. Baby is 18m now. I doubt this early on you would have done any damage at all. Seek medical advice obviously to double check (I'm not a doctor), but I'm sure it's all fine, please don't worry.

I was going to say twins too, for 3.5 weeks that is one heck of a positive line Thanks

Sparklesanddiamomdsforever · 13/05/2018 17:19
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BrutusMcDogface · 13/05/2018 17:27

Congratulations! Flowers