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Is this real? A positive?

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Whitley83 · 12/05/2018 14:02

I have no idea where to start! I lost our pregnancy at 10 weeks on 19th Dec. We gave up trying and I went really down hill and took a lot of reacrational drugs (I'm ashamed) I took coke the last time on tuesday. This morning i woke and took a test.. the result is below, is it really positive??? What have I done :( I feel like I've killed my child with drug abuse. Please don't judge, I am still grieving my lost child x

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MinnyMountain · 13/05/2018 17:27

I'm calling twins with a strong positive like that at 3.5 weeks

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Whitley83 · 13/05/2018 17:41

I think my husband would keel over if I mentioned twins... I'll wait until the scan haha I'd secretly love two at once!

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Mississippilessly · 13/05/2018 17:45

I'm not an expert but I'm sure everything will be fine - as others have said the embryo (or embryos) are in their own sac atm - they don't share your blood.
I secretly wanted twins - we would like 2 children and i like the efficiency!

Ivegotfamilyandidrinkcupsoftea · 13/05/2018 17:45

I like the idea of twins but if i had them now when i already have 4 dc i think it would finish me off

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Whitley83 · 13/05/2018 17:57

You've all really put my mind at rest. Thank you. I'm going to relax and not think about it for a few weeks and see my dr next week and then I'll take it from there.

I'm a strong believer in everything happens for a reason xxx

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TammySwansonTwo · 13/05/2018 19:50

Yeah, it’s amazing how many people say to me “oh my god, I’ve always wanted twins”... my reaction depends on how long it took us to get out of the house, and how much sleep I’ve had in the previous week.

When we found out we were having twins, my husband was overjoyed and beyond excited, it was me who was terrified and swearing and wondering what the hell we were going to do. It stayed like that until we set up our double buggy and then he nearly had a nervous breakdown.

20 months in and we are still alive :D

SpunBodgeSquarepants · 13/05/2018 22:18

Obviously not something I would advise - and clearly I was not in a good place. I just wanted to share my experience to reassure OP. Thankfully everything turned out ok and things are much better for us both now.

And seriously - social services?! That's clearly come from someone who has had no involvement with social services in their life - they have more to worry about.

RLOU88 · 13/05/2018 23:08

34 weeks pregnant though is a pretty shit thing to do

SpunBodgeSquarepants · 13/05/2018 23:16

Yep. Agreed. I'm sure lots of shit things happen when people find themselves in a shit place. Not something I am proud of.

BrutusMcDogface · 14/05/2018 07:22

Spun I don't think you deserve the kicking you've just received on here. Glad things have improved for you.

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Whitley83 · 14/05/2018 07:48

@spun - thank you for being so honest. I'm not judging and I don't think anyone else can until they've got rock bottom. People handle things differently in their own way. As long as you and baby are ok x

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RLOU88 · 14/05/2018 08:48

At risk of a thread derail, I think I’ll answer you both as I was guilty of the “kicking”. If you check my history on here you will see that I was addicted to cocaine in a massive way. I lost a lot of people and hit complete rock bottom. then I fell pregnant and went from doing coke a day to never touching it again. It can be done whatever the circumstances it’s not just your life you are messing with at 34 weeks pregnant and I reserve the right to feel that way strongly.
I’ll probably get a bashing now but threads are for discussion and that’s my view!
OP, I am sure everything is fine with your baby at such a early time in your pregnancy as the baby wouldn’t have been sharing a blood supply with yet. Good luck with everything.

BrutusMcDogface · 14/05/2018 12:45

RLOU- sorry to hear of your troubles but just because you (incredibly!) managed to stop (well done) doesn't mean everyone else has the presence of mind or willpower to do so.

Ps I have never searched someone's history!! Is that a thing?!

LapinR0se · 14/05/2018 12:52

Doing coke at 34 weeks pregnant is absolutely despicable and just because the baby happens to be fine does not mean it’s acceptable. Bloody hell im actually quite angry about that.

Ivegotfamilyandidrinkcupsoftea · 14/05/2018 12:54

Have to say i agree with RLOU88 on this one

I dont really care what problems you had

You were 36 weeks pregnant

Its inexcusable

Ivegotfamilyandidrinkcupsoftea · 14/05/2018 12:54

Sorry 34

SpunBodgeSquarepants · 14/05/2018 16:02

Well it was either that or suicide which I'm sure would have been worse for the baby.

Adviceplease360 · 16/05/2018 13:32

Well it was either that or suicide which I'm sure would have been worse for the baby.

No actually, better a dead 'mum' than an addict always putting drugs first.
What an horrendous thing to be proud of.

SpunBodgeSquarepants · 16/05/2018 14:35

Dead mum and dead baby. I'm no addict- I never said that. Anyway, I seem to have completely derailed the thread; sorry OP - I only meant to reassure you.

BrutusMcDogface · 16/05/2018 18:00

No actually, better a dead 'mum' than an addict always putting drugs first.
What an horrendous thing to be proud of.

ODFO. I don't think she's proud of it.

RLOU88 · 17/05/2018 07:57

I don’t think she is proud of it but I don’t think a line of coke stops you committing suicide either. I’ve been there, the highs don’t last long and the lows are suicide enducing enough alone. I think it’s a cop out of an inexcusable act.

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