Thought I was having a boy..its a girl! And now I don't know how I feel about it

[KatieandBB]

originally wanted a little girl SO badly, then felt guilty so convinced myself of the benefits of having a boy. dh also certain he would produce another boy.

Just been for a scan (27 weeks) and its a girl. Now have to undo all my positive vibes about having boys and start thinking about girls again

anyone got lovely uplifting tales of their dd's for me? especially any dads tales as dh is in shock!

Do you have a ds already? Are they absolutely certain it's a girl - you won't know for definate until she/he is born!

my dh has a son who is 10, this is my first

Congratulations ! My dd a 100% daddy's girl. Think girls are much more independant and stubborn, she will be running your house in no time

thanks lilyloo, that sounds like my sort of girl

I know its not certain that it WILL be a girl, but scanning lady seemed pretty sure.

oh I wish it was accurate don't know whether I could convice myself of boy, then girl, then back to boy again!

boy or girl it's your baby and you'll love him or her more than you ever imagined was possible

i have one of each and trust me there's nothing more or less fabulous about either, with the exception of nappy changes there's no real differance. every baby has it's own individual personality irrespective of gender

good luck with everything

you will get your head round it by the time the baby is born.I have one of each both are lovely in their own way.I have found them different but don't know if that's because of gender or personality.

The same thing has happened to me. dh and i thought it was going to be boy but been told we are having a girl. Dh was bit put out to start with as felt uncertain about how to deal with girls as not sure how they would bond etc but is really happy now and is constantly calling the bump 'her' or 'she'.

My sis has had 2 girls and they are both mega daddy's girls and he is a real softy with them - they have him wrapped round their little fingers!

love to know what the 'benefits of having a boy' are

(I have one of each.. both fab)

I was told that there are two kinds of 'it's a girl' scans. In the first they can't see the boys bits so assume it's a girl (but the bits might be hiding!). The second is more certain as you can see 3 lines that will develop into the labia.

We were told it was a girl at the 20 wk scan too, in fact we were told twice because she(?) wouldn't turn around at first so had to go for a walk and come back later to check face and sonographer kindly had another look at the sex for us. She pointed out the 3 lines and said she was pretty certain (though no guarantees).

I was secretly quite pleased (although would have been happy either way) but am now having doubts about whether or not it's accurate and dream that it's a boy virtually every night! DH is abslutely certain it's a girl as he 'saw the 3 lines' and has decorated a very girly nursery. I'm just a little concerned that if it is a boy it'll feel that we've got 'the wrong one' given that DH is telling everyone it's a girl and will only think about girls names...

I was in shock the other way round - about having a boy when I was positive it was a girl, grew up in a female family etc. etc. Took me a good few weeks to get my head around it (what do you DO with boys, I kept asking people!). But got very close to my bump in later pregnancy and adored ds from before the moment he was born, IYSWIM.

You will adjust, honest!

Girls are lovely.You get to dress them up and then let them puke all over it and have to put on next nice outfit
No seriously girls are just as good as boys(I have one of each)
My dd is a daddy and mummys girl and she likes such things as sorting washing and dusting so I'm happy these things now take shorter time Also she likes running and talking to bugs so into everything
Why is dh in shock? Most men I know want a girl so she can be daddys little lady.

Gender scans are accurate by a percentage of 95% - 98% (depending on where you've had the scan done) if is performed around when you had it done. For all you people that are saying it could be wrong, I think it's safe to say it's far more likely they got it right! Very unusual to be told the wrong gender unless you go and have the scan done by someone not very well trained and/or using older equipment which will effect clarity of the scan. Just wanted to mention this!

DD's are wonderful! You will have a little mini-you to go do lovely girly things with like shopping, getting your hair and nails done, girly lunches, etc. Plus think of all the pretty pink and lacey girl clothes and accessories you can now buy for her! You DH will no doubt be besotted with her also once she's born, I'm sure she will end up being a daddy's girl in no time and have him wrapped around her finger. It just takes time to get used to the idea of a little baby girl when you've had in your head it was a boy, but once she's born you won't be able to picture her any other way then exactly who she is.

Scan with dd was accurate they saw her ovaries didn't know this was possible

I was convinced my DH could only produce boys and had the shock of my life when they told me I was expecting a girl.
I didn't quite believe it until she was born and saw for myself.
Although I was sure I was expecting a boy before the scan I also secretly wanted a girl (but would never have told anyone). Their clothes are more cute and sometimes I think girl babies are a bit more alert than boys, although of course both are lots of fun.
My husband is far more soppy about our daughter than he would be about a boy and her first word was "daddy" (grrr).

ahh thankyou all so much! feeling much more confident about having a little girl now

Twig - not really sure of benefits to having boys, was telling myself that playing with planes and trains and the general grime of looking after boys was better (love spending time with my stepson so was thinking of that really)

I'm afraid to have to tell you that DD loves spiderman and cars and power rangers objects to wearing dresses doesn't like being wet and forces clothes changes but very happy to mucky

I was convinced right until the moment that DD came out that she was a boy, didn't want a girl no way but she is the best most georgeous thing and now if I get pregnant I probably wouldn't want a boy

They can do everything boys can, I grew up with actionman and trains

GlitteringGoldie - 95-98% accuracy - if so that's great - do you work in the area/know where the numbers came form? Is that just for private sexing scans or also for NHS 20 wk scans (where they are more concerned with checking baby is OK)? Reason that I ask is that there have been a number of threads on here of the 'I was told it was a girl at the scan but a boy came out' sort and the replies suggested that the chance if it being wrong was a bit higher than that (although of course if could just be that the 2-5% of people for whom it was wrong are more likely to reply to the thread!)

I know, there's been loads of threads on here about this. I actually ended up looking into the statistics because I had so many people I know - actually my in laws to be precise! - telling me that it's not accurate, etc etc, and I got fed up hearing it from them and decided to research it myself. I firstly spoke to where I had my scan done and they actually told me their own personal odds on gender scanning, this was a private scan I'd gone for.

There was a study done by Whitlow, Lazanakis and Economides in 1999 on the sonographic identification of fetal gender from 11 to 14 weeks of gestation, which of course is earlier than when most gender scans are performed generally. The results of the study, in a nutshell, showed that by 14 weeks the accuracy was 98%. Earlier than that the odds of accurately being able to determine the gender were obviously not nearly as good - 59% at 11 weeks, but this isn't surprising really. I've seen a number of studies that had very similar results, there's been quite a few conducted on this topic.

In most cases of "not getting the gender right" it is actually accounted for by the times when the sonographer was unable to determine the sex mostly due to the postion of the baby, not because they got it wrong. That truly is unusual but of course you are going to here the stories when that happens. It's down to human error when this does happen and like many things in life, you need to check beforehand when going to have the gender scan done to find out their success rate to get an idea of their track record. You can ask this with any place you go to have the scan performed. You can check other issues too, such as their accuracy of far more important things such as spotting health problems too and for things such as their own personal statistical risks for CVS and amnio should you need or choose to have these performed. It's always good to research these things before going into it. I just wanted to mention also that when you go for a 3d/4d scan even the untrained eye can certainly see what sex the baby is, kinda hard to miss because it's so clear! However, that's not to say that a 2d scan is less reliable to a trained technician. Hope this answers your question, sorry if it's a bit long winded!

Just wanted to clarify (because it didn't come out so clear below) that when I said, "In most cases of 'not getting the gender right' it is actually accounted for by the times when the sonographer was unable to determine the sex", I don't mean when they say it's a girl but a boy comes out, I mean what that small 2%-5% discrepancy generally accounts for, if that makes sense? Not sure if that confuses things more!

Thanks - that's a fantastic answer - sorry I didn't mean to seem to doubt you I just wondered where it came from/what it applied to.

Thanks again!

No probs!

Congratulations! Babies of all varieties are lovely. I have a boy and a girl and they are first and foremost small people (well, first they are just babies!). But the shopping for a girl is 100 times more enjoyable!