What do you believe finally got you your bfp?

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Im always reading the conception board but thought I would post here as you have all been so lucky as to get your bfp that I’m hoping you can give me some advice...

So does anyone have advice/tips for things I could do to finally get my own bfp as trying to conceive is really affecting me at the moment, I am wishing time would hurry up to get through to ovulation, then through the 2ww and then when AF arrives I turn into a different person. I have been charting my bbt on fertility friend and using opk’s 2/3 times a day. This cycle I got a positive opk on day 13 and day 14, we BD on 13/14/15 and used pre-seed. I was certain there was no way we could have missed ovulation but today which is 9dpo, the cramps and spotting have begun. I’ve taken a Frer which is negative so certain I’m not pregnant. My cycles are fairly short at 24/25 days but I am at a complete loss, I don’t know what else we could have done this month and it still hasn’t worked.. we have a 4year old ds so we have conceived. Any advice from anyone would be so appreciated as I’m at such a loss now.

Sorry for the long post!

I honestly think it's mostly chance. I conceived four times (first three were miscarriages) and they ran the whole gamut, from super intense trying with temping, ovulation sticks, etc. to one cycle where we actively avoided what I thought was my fertile period (because we wanted to wait a bit longer to try again after a miscarriage) and I fell anyway. In between we had both cycles of trying intensely and cycles where we relaxed and forgot about it where I didn't conceive. I do think it helped when DH started taking vitamins, as that's when I started conceiving at all (though it had been 8 months at that point, which felt like an age but definitely isn't long enough to say it wasn't just coincidence that I didn't fall before). We tried special lube, lying with bum up, etc. etc. all with no apparent change either way.

1st: hubby nearly dying from a double bowel rupture, was the second time on the horse since his release from hospital. Been ntnp for 2.5 years.
2nd: hubby just had two interviews for PGCEs. Trying for 8 months.
Also,hubby has a sperm count of one. Living proof that it only takes one (twice!)

The month I got my BFP I was drinking a glass of grapefruit juice a day, doing 3+ OPKs a day around fertile period and temping and followed the sperm meets eggs plan. Who knows which if any of those were the reason for the BFP, but that’s just what I was doing that month! Previous months I’d only done OPKs and half heartedly drinking grapefruit juice when I remembered.

Jam a pillow under the bum so hips are tilted up.... and go to bed with the good stuff in there, swear by it.

Hubs and I tracked my cycle, temperature, moods etc and started off doing it when I was at my most fertile. Went on like this for a while. He works away, maybe two or more weeks each month. No success for us. Anyway, we were having sex so infrequently (mainly around my cycle) and it just so happens that we conceived when I was at my least likely time to catch (around 2%)! Hubs has poor swimmers and I'm 41 and we still conceived. So I think sometimes it doesn't matter how much you try it's sometime down to chance!

We had a 9 day luteal phase. Gp said it was fine but after a year of no conception referred us to a fertility clinic who confirmed low progesterone levels,prescribed clomid. I also lost half a stone. Bfp within 3 months.

Possibly one of: being told we could join the IVF queue (which I think meant we felt that we had done all we reasonably could and it would then be in someone else’s hands), having that procedure where they push dye through your tubes (HSG or something, is it?) and regular acupuncture. Even now I’m not sure what I think about the acupuncture but the practitioner I saw was qualified under the British and Chinese systems as a doctor and always seemed very credible. Also, no alcohol and generally trying to eat/live healthily. I was 39 when we had our first (after three years of trying) and 42 when we had our second (after nine months of trying).

We had been trying for ages and I was getting so stressed out about it all. I was getting to the point i felt every time AF arrived, a friend or someone I knew would announce their pregnancy after 1 month if trying etc and was even beginning to resent the bfps on each bus on here! We also had recurrent miscarriage to deal with which made the whole thing even more difficult and frustrating.

I'm 21 weeks now and the month it happened for me (Dec) was a totally different month for me. I had my birthday and Christmas so had a lot of annual leave from work, and I really felt relaxed and less stressed. I also deleted MN off my phone for the month for that month as as I say, seeing everyone else's bfps weren't helping. And then finally, I'd starting taking vitamin D and B12 supplements from day 1 of that cycle after being recommended to me!

It could all of course be coincidence, but after almost 3 years of trying and only having 4 miscarriages, I firmly believe all of that from that month went into helping everything along! Good luck

It's took a year to get DS. I have long cycles so only 8-9 fertile windows in that year. We charted, took vitamins, lost weight. But the month I got the BFP was the first month we'd actually managed to have sec every other day, without fail, from the day my period ended for about 30 days (when shenanigans were curtailed by a work trip). We'd tried to do that from the start, but in all previous months things had got in the way - work trips (both of us), cystitis (me), flu (him).

But the month we managed to just shag a lot is the month it worked.

And giving up caffeine. I think that's key actually.

Jam a pillow under the bum so hips are tilted up.... and go to bed with the good stuff in there, swear by it.

Lots of people say this works for them and fair enough, but just as a warning, it gave me not a baby but a nasty bout of thrush!

I've "heard" via the internet (& its nothing I can back up) that ideally to maximise your chances of conceiving semen should be present in your vagina before you ovulate. So the advice is don't use ovulation test kits but just have regular sex. I also heard (again can't back it up) that its better to be regular with sex than frequent ie don't have it 10 days in a row but rather every 2-3 days throughout the month. As for me I gave up trying & gave away the baby gear from DD1. One month due to illness & OH working away we had sex only once, at I time I shouldn't have been ovulating but obviously I was & I conceived.

For me it was giving up hope it would ever happen. I thought, sod it, I'm on holiday and I want a drink and a cigarette. I did drink and smoked and relaxed. We didn't dtd much but i still fell pregnant.

Earlier start to DTD in cycle - from day 5 onwards. Also acupuncture with Zita West practitioner.

Trying for over a year, being stressed about it taking a year meaning there might be a problem, both being tested and coming back clear of issues. At that point I thought fine, I'm sick of thinking about it. We conceived 2 weeks later, as I apparently ovulated 4 weeks into my 38 day cycle. I was so relaxed about it I mistook my implantation bleed for a period so was 7 weeks gone when I did a test.

I was ttc for 6 months, the month I conceived i followed some advice from another forum user (different forum)

I used castor oil packs. Basically soaking a cloth (i used a pillow case) in castor oil, laying it on lower abdomen, covered in a plastic bag and a towel. Leave t on there for an hour while you relax, then wipe off. It said to do it a few times a week, it is said that it helps to create blood flow in that area and can unblock tubes which maybe stopping you getting pregnant. Alongside this i took spearmint capsules daily (both of these i started after period ended up until ovulation occurred then stopped) as spearmint is said to lower testosterone levels.

That is the month i got my bfp :)

I am 9 weeks now, had a scan at 8 weeks and baby had a strong heartbeat 💗 good luck

It happened when I stopped trying

After 4 failed rounds of IVF.

Both times I’d stopped trying, stopped overthinking. We’d had tests and he first time the consultant told me to try till November then we’d start some medication to help. I got pg the next month. This time I did the clearblue trial (read about it here) and was using their ovulation kit and tried at the times it said. I was super relaxed. Bam, pregnant again! Obviously it’s unhelpful to tell anyone to relax but it’s what helped me.

DP and I started trying in April last year. I was tracking AF and jumping on DP before and after ovulation. It made DTD a chore and not that enjoyable.

We decided to just fuck it all off and stop with the tracking, we booked a holiday for DS’s birthday and low and behold a drunken fondle gave us our BFP.

I’m now 19+1 and can feel baby fluttering away. I know it’s hard to not focus all your time on achieving that much wanted positive test but for us it was definitely a case of not stressing, worrying and added pressure.

It took us 10 months, including one MC and I was using OPK etc but one day I noticed EWCM while I was at work and luckily my husband worked around the corner so I invited him to the disabled toilet in our building and bingo 3 weeks later BFP :)

Metformin.

Oh and temping. I have a longer luteal phase than most so I was always missing it. I’d never have known that otherwise.

This time it was after multiple miscarriages and we’d finally said no more, we already have 3 and our youngest is 6. About a month and a half later I got my bfp and now I’m 33+4. I was also on the mini pill so this one was determined to be a part of our lives. We had relaxed and had started to enjoy each other again rather than dtd because we were hoping to get pregnant 😊 oh yeah we’d also booked a family holiday to Disneyland Paris (we are still going but we’ve had to move the date to next year rather than this year)

We were due to start IVF treatment next month after 18 months of trying. I had a Hycosy last month and this month was so surprised to finally get a BFP! I was starting to believe it would never happen for us. I have also been having acupuncture and Chinese medicine since Feb - not something I would usually do but you’ll try anything when desperate :-). My acupuncturist advised what foods to concentrate on - leafy greens and more leafy greens, along with soup made from chicken bones! This was specific to me as they picked up on circulation issues and said this could help blood flow. I also cut out alcohol and caffeine from January. I believe the Hycosy played a massive part as it acts as an endometrial scratch (something you can pay for before IVF which helps with implantation). Best of luck and hang in there. I’ve felt like I was going crazy for months before finally getting a positive. xxxx

SMEP can't recommend it enough. Sperm Meets Egg Plan worked first month we tried it after almost 2 years of trying. Also lying down for 30 minutes after sex with my legs propped up on a foam wedge we have. I hated all that "don't even try" or "don't think about it" advice. It wasn't helpful. What was, was that the SMEP covered all of the important days which meant I didn't stress about it at all because I knew it was covered.