How to tell DSD I'm pregnant

[CaraDeanna]

Currently pregnant with my first and would love to tell my DSD that she's going to be a big sister in a creative fun way. She's only 6 and asks me on an almost weekly basis when I'm going to have a baby - she's going to be very happy! I was thinking of booking a private scan and bringing her a long as a surprise, but if anyone has any better ideas please share!

The way I told work folks and family was pretty low key as I don't tend to do big announcements. We just want it to be special for DSD.

Bump...!

I like the idea of taking her to a private scan. I have a friend who did that with her DS - told him she had a back appt and took him along for him to discover there was a baby in her tummy I guess it would only work if you can be relatively positive reaction - it sounds as if your DSD will be pleased.

How many weeks are you?

How many weeks are you now? Personally I’d wait until you e had your 12 week scan just to be sure everything’s ok then book a private scan. Very exciting!

My husband told my son (not his dad) at Disneyland because he had to explain why I wasn’t going on any rides. He said it was such a lovely feeling getting to tell him he’d be a big brother

Personally don't agree with dc at scans. How about a t shirt with :
I'm gonna be a big sis!
Instead.

I’m going to wait til I’m past 12 weeks but then was thinking about giving DSD some kind of “future big sister” t shirt... I then also thought we could take a photo of her in it and send it to other wider family to announce

Sorry April cross post!

Someone I know had a jigsaw made for her DD to put together, and once made it told her she was going to be a big sister x

Personally I'd wait until after the 20 week scan. Pregnancies are long for a 6 year old and there's really no hurry, may as well wait until you know everything is ok.

I’m getting my two teddy bears with big sister/brother on and a little bag with the same on. They’re 6/7 years old. Going to put a little present from baby in the bags. There’s lots of Etsy x

@Aprilmightbemynewname even a private scan once we've had the 12 week scan?

@Ekphrasis I'm 11 weeks and have 12 week scan booked for this week. Obviously we will wait until after the 12 week scan. I had a scan a week ago and everything was fine so feeling positive.

Yeah I'm not keen on the scan idea either. It's a bit of a weird environment for a six year old and sometimes baby hardly even looks like a baby depending on position etc. Always a risk of getting medical information too and a small child shouldn't be there for that.

I'd get a gift of some sort instead, show her the 12 week scan photos and later let her feel some kicks.

I’d wait until after 20 weeks if you’re going to take her to a private scan.

There are a few threads on children being taken to scans. Some people were told at 20 weeks there were health issues or, even safer, that the heart had stopped beating. Consider rethinking this.

*even sadder

So don't tell her until 20 weeks at all?

There may also be other distressed women in the vicinity who have received bad news or are waiting to find out how/ if their pregnancy is progressing. This could upset your dsd and your happy family could further distress the women.

I def wouldn’t tell her until after 20 weeks. Pregnancy is long enough for an adult - it will seem like years for a small child. Plus safer imo to wait until after anomaly scan.

Personally I wouldn't. You can always receive bad news, sometimes devastating news at a scan. We had a private scan of DS and then told the kids we were putting a film on and popped the scan disc in. Then they had to guess what on Earth it was.

My DS is nearly 4 and I'm not sure how he will take the news tbh
However I am planning on waiting till after 20 weeks at least anyway.
They don't really have a good grasp of time

No, what if there's an anomaly at the scan? A life limiting one? No way would I tell until after a clear 20w scan.

Sorry been out all morning. I've had bad news at scans after previous ones were ok so I'd not have her at a scan. Scans only show what's happening at the moment in time.

The sonographer typed a sweet message on the 12 wk scan pic to our ds but we didn't tell him till after our 20 week scan and just showed him the pics then. We'd also had a harmony test.

I think ideas of a t shirt with I'm a big sister etc are really lovely but tbh ds was just thrilled with the idea at 20 weeks. (He's 5). It's felt like a v v v long time for him to wait since then though; I'm now 37 and it could be another 4 weeks, so I'm glad we told him later on.