How to tell DSD I'm pregnant

[CaraDeanna]

Currently pregnant with my first and would love to tell my DSD that she's going to be a big sister in a creative fun way. She's only 6 and asks me on an almost weekly basis when I'm going to have a baby - she's going to be very happy! I was thinking of booking a private scan and bringing her a long as a surprise, but if anyone has any better ideas please share!

The way I told work folks and family was pretty low key as I don't tend to do big announcements. We just want it to be special for DSD.

Thanks all.

The only problem is if we don't tell DSD then we can't really tell anyone else. If his ex were to find out she would absolutely tell DSD which I would be really disheartened about. I'd love to tell her with DP...

Tricky one!

We had to take our 15 month old to a scan and it wasn't great news. I was so focussed in trying to ask and be told things in such a way to not distress our toddler that it made for a frustrating appointment. I wouldn't wait as long as possible, make sure she knows before anyone less important and maybe take her to a later scan when you know things are okay.

Thanks everyone. This has been a real eye opener and has made me feel a little naive, if anything!

I think most people tell their other children after 12 weeks so I would't worry too much. Yes things could go wrong at 20 week scan but also after that and even after birth, but it's much more likely that they won't. I'd go ahead with after the 12 week scan. I wouldn't take her to a scan though, there's much more exciting and personal ways to tell her! What about a treasure hunt with little clues and then the prize is a scan pic and a big sister t-shirt. You can then use this to announce. It will really make her feel part of things which is very important. As you say the last thing you want is someone else telling her and it's likely that you'll be showing before 20 weeks. I'm 16 weeks with my first and it's obvious already plus I would have hated to keep it a secret for so long.

I would wait...

@babydreamer1 thank you! I've never done this before. I'm not in a rush I would just hate for her to find out from someone else and not get to experience that moment with her... it's really important to us that she feels included as she's so desperate for a sibling!

@YearOfYouRemember for?

I was correcting a mistake from previous post. It typed wouldn't when I meant would.

@YearOfYouRemember oh! My apologies!

No probs