Anyone else fed up of the standard "is it a boy or a girl" questions?

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Just that really....

All the time, is it a boy or a girl?? Do you want to find out? When will you find out?

It's a baby....why does it need a gender?!

All the time!!!!

I just don't read them!

To you? People are just being polite and trying to take an interest.....

You know people actually aren’t that interested in other people’s pregnancies. They’re being polite.

If they didn’t ask you’d moan nobody was taking any interest.

It’s hard to make polite small talk about other people’s pregnancies without causing offence.

What would you rather people say?

It's literally a way of showing interest and conversation. Same as 'how are you?' no one actually cares how people are.

I think people are just making conversation...also I think it's a fair question as well. If it angers you, just say you don't know and you don't want to find out and then change the conversation subject.

I'm hoping for a velociraptor, but we're going to be happy as long as it's got it's all it's talons.

It's the "have you thought of any names yet" question that gets me. I just think its such a personal thing, I don't really like discussing it with people and think they should just wait until he/she is born!

Just blurt out, "I wanted a TEA CUP PIG!!"

@fuzzywuzzy I don't care if people aren't interested, I'm really not that self involved that I need people to notice I'm pregnant FFS. I'd rather people said nothing at all if that's the only small minded thing they can think of. Oh you're pregnant lets give it a gender and a stereotype before we can finish our breath.

People who have asked seem to have nothing better to say than to fall in to the gender questions than just leave the conversation where it ended.

They don't care if you're having a boy or a girl, it's small talk. You're really clutching at straws here if the only thing in life you have to get annoyed about is strangers being polite

I must be super self involved I love people asking about my pregnancy 😂

Wow you are way overthinking this one. It’s about making small talk and feigning some interest in order to be polite. Clearly you do not appreciate the effort one iota but to think it’s anything other than a rather boring attempt at conversation is an over reaction of monumental proportions.

Doesn't bother me at all, very inoffensive question. They're not asking the gender they're asking the sex.

There’s not really anything else to ask other than ‘how many weeks’ and ‘do you know if it’s a boy or a girl’, just as once it’s a newborn it’ll be ‘what did you call her’ and ‘does she sleep’. It’s a pretty standard way of acknowledging the pregnancy and a lot less intrusive than asking about your health and birth plans!

Tell them they are being ‘small minded’ word will soon get out and no one will ask you any more.

They irritate me too. I've been hiding them at a rate of 3-5 a day.

Nub and skull theory are as accurate as tossing a coin, so they're pointless questions too.

You sound really rude OP. As pp have said, people are just being polite. And, it's SEX, not gender.

Do you actually know the answer? We chose not to find out so just say we don't know when people ask (obvs) - you could say that regardless of the truth if you'd rather? I don't think anyone actually cares, just seems to be one of the standard questions. At least it's better than "was it planned?" which people also ask sometimes!

I must be small minded then. I work where there's usually someone pregnant, I usually say "congrats" " how far along" "do you know what you're having". Only trying to be friendly and take an interest.

You are being way, way too sensitive. People are making polite small talk.

This thread wins the ‘mountain out of molehill’ thread Ive ever seen on MN. Or anywhere.

OP, honestly, chill. They’re just making chit chat. They’re not gender stereotyping, they’re being nice taking an interest.

People are being polite, they’re most likely not at all interested.

Much like when you go to work on a Monday morning and someone asks how your weekend was.

People are being friendly. If I had a pound for the number of times a stranger has called out "was it buy one get one free?" About my twins in the 7 months since they were born I'd be doing very nicely by now. I always respond with a smile and a friendly comment. Its not that hard to be nice.

Oh and it's sex not gender....

I agree that this seems like a massive overreaction. People are just trying to be polite/nice/show an interest. It's a bit like now - at 37 weeks I keep getting "oh not long now!". Yes, it does mean I have the same conversation multiple times a day but I think it's nice that people want to take an interest in me and the baby!

No one really cares. Don't worry about it.