Anyone else fed up of the standard "is it a boy or a girl" questions?

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Just that really....

All the time, is it a boy or a girl?? Do you want to find out? When will you find out?

It's a baby....why does it need a gender?!

All the time!!!!

Oh my fucking God - this is yet another tedious thread on the gender question isn't it?

Nobody actually gives a shit, it's just something to say. A bit like 'oh you're big/small/whatever' or guessing what it is based on how you're carrying (everyone guesses boy, it's a girl.)
We've been telling everyone it's a surprise even though we found out. I've occasionally said 'we're pretty sure it's a human baby' when people ask 'do you know what you're having?' Feel free to do the same.

As long as people refrain from touching me, I don't really care. Crack on, you might even win the work sweepstake.

@harrietm87 now that question does annoy me!! And in my experience tends to be asked by the older generations. So the replies of ‘is it any of your business’ or ‘yes we were at it like rabbits’ don’t seem to be appropriate 😂

It's just small talk, starts with "how long have you got left", moves onto "do you know if it's a boy or a girl" then sometimes ends with "picked any names yet?"

No one means anything bad by it!

People are trying to be supportive and show interest in a major thing that’s happening to you despite actually not being bothered.
Congratulations on having unprotected sex hope the birth of your theyby goes ok! Or would you rather everyone pretend you’re not pregnant at all?

flyingchimps and harriet yep, that's a genuinely rude one. I got asked several times if I was happy about it!

For context, I'm 31, married, in a settled job, so not even the excuse that I'm not in a typical situation or anything. Even though that still wouldn't make it ok for Susan from accounts to ask something so personal!

Whoaaaa OP calm down!

@HolyShmoly had that one from so many people ... my parents and in laws and friends! Not Susan from account though 😂

@HolyShmoly it was the first thing my boss asked me!! The MIL did also, but she would 🙄

We are similar to you: 27, married, homeowners, stable careers 😂 I felt a little like I was being treated like one of the year 11s who accidentally got pregnant 😂😂

OP, do you mean comments from people in real life, or the (endless) nub theory posts on MN?

My 18 month old still gets that question, so yeah, I'm sick of it.

Well, it's rather rude to not even comment!

@HolyShmoly @Flyingchimps kind of glad this wasn't just me. I told a colleague at work and I got an "ermmm, was that on purpose...?"

OP, it really is just people trying to show interest. If they'd said "is it a girl, bet you can't wait to cover her in pink and have her only play with dollies?" I might have understood, but you're reading way too much into it at present.

You’re going to have to learn to ignore this, OP. The banal comments don’t go away after the baby is born. People are just trying to show an interest.

Just say you don’t know. Also it’s a biological fact that the sex will be male or female, when someone asks that they aren’t stereotyping or gendering a baby! I’m having a boy, that’s a fact. I have no idea how he’ll grow up and what he’ll like and want to do in his life, but the fact is right now he has a penis and I don’t see what’s offensive about someone knowing that.

I’d love to be at a point in life where polite strangers was something that got me angry enough to make a post about