Pregnant after recurrent miscarriages

[mummyjl15]

Hey! So I found out a week ago that I’m pregnant (I’m 5 weeks today) but I’m so scared to get excited about it even though I’m desperate for another baby. I had my first in 2015 having conceived straight away, no problems with the pregnancy or birth (she’s 2.5yrs now), then we started TTC just over a year ago with 3 miscarriages between July last year and February this year.
I’ve had multiple scans and blood tests at the recurrent miscarriage clinic, all of which came back fine which is good...we’ve got our first scan in just over a week (I’ll be 6+4 weeks but they want to do regular scans and tests after having my miscarriages to monitor me).
I’m terrified of another MC but trying to stay positive. Any tips on what I can do to try to stay calm? I’ve been on no alcohol, no caffeine, healthy diet and regular exercise for over a year so I’m fit and healthy for pregnancy. Praying this one sticks!!! We’ve not told anyone about this pregnancy yet as the last 3 times it’s been the day we found out/told our parents that I’ve miscarried. Know it’s totally unrelated but it’s made us too nervous to say anything until after our 6 week scan

Hi mummy, congratulations on your news. I'm so sorry about your losses. Being pregnant after a miscarriage is a nerve wracking time but all you can do is be kind to yourself. If nerves and stress are an issue I would look into something like headspace the mindfulness guy? It helped me relax and try (although easier said than done) to enjoy my pregnancy. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

I'm sorry for your losses. I had v similar experience - I also had three miscarriages in fairly quick succession (though while trying for my first) and had investigations but no issues found. I'm now 26 weeks into my fourth pregnancy and all, cross fingers and touch wood, seems to be going well this time. The early days were such, such anxious times and I think you do have to just get through it, unfortunately - while I have found things that reduce my anxiety (I was having counselling when I got pregnant and that helped a lot, and later on yoga and mindfulness have helped a bit), there's probably nothing that will take away that anxiety completely when you've experienced repeated loss. Do come over to the pregnancy after miscarriage thread if you'd like to - I also found having other people in the same boat to talk to helped a lot.

I echo what lisa said join us on the pregnancy after miscarriage board, I've found a lot of support and understanding there.
No one throws stats at you either, because when you've been on the wrong side of those statistics they're not comfort any more.
And no one thinks you're crazy for what seem really trivial worries.
Don't know what I'd have done without them sometimes

Thanks so much for your replies. @LisaSimpsonsbff that’s so reassuring to hear, congratulations on your pregnancy! I’ll definitely take a look at that other thread, thank you.
I’m so bloated at only 5 weeks (I’m the size I was at 16 weeks with my first! Although apparently it’s quite common to show quicker following a pregnancy or miscarriage and considering I’ve been pregnant 4 times now in the last 11 months my body’s obviously gone a bit mad!

I’m in almost exactly the same position and you except I haven’t had a successful pregnancy yet.

I had my 6 week scan on Friday (6 + 5). They did an internal scan and could see something in the lining but they couldn’t see anything like the yolk sac etc. Womb looked empty to me. I’m going back on the 23rd as it may be too early. My fingers are crossed.

I hope so much that your scan goes well too :)

Congrats on your news. I also suffered 3 recurrent miscarriages in a short space of time (no reason found for it) now 2 days overdue with my first! I was a bundle of nerves for first 16 weeks or so - cut caffine, chocolate (!), essential oils etc etc., and thankfully it has been a super smooth pregnancy (no morning sickness, backache and so on except for a little bump and very active baby inside). I soon learnt to relax which is best for you and the baby. Good luck, hope everything goes well for you and others in a similar position.

@mummyjl15 I have just had my DD after 6 mc and can completely understand how you are feeling. I would say that although the fear and anxiety never completely left, I did feel more hopeful as time went on. It is good that you are being monitored by the RMC, have they suggested aspirin or anything? My only advice is to take things one day/hour/minute at a time and not worry about worrying (iyswim).

I would definitely join the pg after mc thread, those fantastic women kept me sane through all the tough days.

Congratulations! Good luck with scan :-)

Thanks so much everyone, it’s so good to hear positive stories!
I’m feeling good so far, just anxious! Started to develop sickness and I’m really bloated! Like I look about 16 weeks pregnant, particularly after I’ve eaten! Can’t wait for the scan to confirm if all is ok.
When we go for the scan they’re going to discuss my last blood results with us (which were done before I found out I was expecting as part of the RMC appointments). Apparently they will discuss options with us if anything is required but everything has come back ok so that’s good!
8 days until our scan so I’ll just try to keep positive and relaxed until then. I know at 6+ 3 they probably won’t see much though.

I couldn’t find the other thread for pregnancy after miscarriage...what’s the name of it or can someone share the link with me?

Thanks!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3221956-Fresh-Start-thread-for-pregnancy-after-miscarriage-or-loss

Hi - I have everything crossed for you. I am in a similar position except have no children (yet) I’ve had 3 miscarriages 2 at 7 weeks and the last one at 16 weeks. I am currently 5 weeks pregnant - you want to get excited and look forward but don’t dare too - I think all you can do is take care and keep positive I have my early scan next week so fingers crossed for us both xxx