When did you announce to the world that you were pregnant?

[BabyBlueBella]

Hi all. New to mn. Been reading through numerous threads for a while but never had a reason to post!

I do have one question however... I'm around 10 weeks pregnant and due my 12 week scan very soon. I know the miscarriage risk drops significantly at 12 weeks, however it still seems very early to be telling the world.

Now I'm not looking to do a huge announcement. No social media posts, no dramatic reveals, I simply want to tell people as and when (work, friends, non immediate family etc).

My question? When did you start telling people who aren't immediate family that you were pregnant? Is 12 weeks really a 'safe' time to do this?

I'm not looking to make a huge secret of it, I just dread telling folks and something then going wrong...

I think it's superstition more than anything else.Telling people can't make something happen same as not telling can't prevent it x

@QueenOfMyWorld whilst that's very true, I still believe that the risk of miscarriage is much lower at say 12 weeks as opposed to 10 for example, so my reason for waiting isn't so much due to superstition, but medical facts... maybe I am more concerned than I need to be. Who knows...

This grid is useful for miscarriage stats, and if you put in your personal details (age, weight, previous pregnancies) then it will tailor the numbers to you.

Risk of miscarriage doesn’t stay high and then fall off a cliff at 12 weeks - it peters off very gradually.

Risk of miscarriage between 10 weeks and 12 weeks is the difference of just over 1%.

datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.php?mode=table

Heading towards 34 weeks, still not told the world. Too worried about late complications and still birth. For a developed country we have an appaling record.

Thanks @AaronPurrSir - I've seen that site before but have tried to avoid as looking at the research it's based on 'miscarriage amongst black and white women', 'miscarriage in ivf treatment', 'miscarriage risk in asymptomatic women' - I just don't think you can trust these sites to generalise across the whole population! I worry about taking data from non-validated sources at face value!

@zaalitje are you in the UK? UK ranks 24th safest out of 179 countries which I don't think is awful. Would be nice to be top 10 though!

Close friends and family when I was about 6 weeks, as if I miscarried then I would want their emotional support, work and the rest of the world around 15 weeks

@StylishMummy I only just told my family at 10 weeks! Part of my thinks it'll be easier to tell work so they know why I am coming in late/absolutely exhausted/slightly fat/only consuming ginger been and ready salted crisps/in the bathroom for 5-10% of my working day! But then there's that 1% chance that I'll have a miscarriage and end up having to explain....

*ginger beer!

12 weeks with both.

I told my 2 best friends at 5 weeks as I knew I’d need them to pick me up for the floor if anything went wrong. I’ve always known about their pregnancies straight away as we’re very close. My closest family I told at 7 weeks when I’d had a viability scan. I did lose my shit when my Nan, who I’m very close to, told all of my extended family when I wasn’t ready for them to know. My headteacher I told at 11 weeks as I needed cover for appts etc and so that I she had plenty of time to find cover for my leave.

I told the rest of my friends and my closet collegues who I consider friends around the 13/14 week mark. The school gossip has now caught wind is spreading the news to the rest of the staff. But I don’t mind as I’ve told the people I wanted to at work. I’m currently 18 weeks but want to keep it from the children I teach until I’ve had my anomoly scan at 22 + 5. I’m wearing baggy shirts which mostly over my expanding tum.

I have banned all mention on social media . Had words with my mum when, in her overexcitement, she made a reference on social media

I don't actually know how far along I am but it's around 9-11 weeks. I have my booking appt Monday. I haven't told anyone yet but I have started getting a little pouch and I don't think I'll be able to hide it at work when it's too warm for jumpers so I guess once I've had my first scan?

@babybluebella I told my manager and my shift partner. I don't want anyone else to know til after 16 weeks.

I can't cope with their excitement, but hope to join in soon :)

5 weeks with my first baby, 12 weeks my second although some people knew before.
I don't really believe in waiting until a certain time. It doesn't stop something bad happening. If something bad did happem, I'd rather have lots of support. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks before these pregnancies and noone except my partner knew. I felt really lonely and wished people knew.

I just told as and when, I’m close to work colleagues and only have a few close friends, I would have wanted people to know if I had a loss too so figured waiting would make no difference. But then I’m an open book in most areas of life. Never ‘announced’ it though.

I didn’t tell my son (10) until I’d had scan though.

Sorry OP just seen you asked me a question. I told my direct boss and the second in dept, mainly because they came into my classroom after school to see me and I was throwing up in a carrier bag.

babybluebella I'm not sure why I would wait longer next time. Maybe just to make it seem shorter. I'm quite a private person anyway so didn't really like doing the reveal to work. Saying that though my DH is a bit if a blabber mouth and works for the same company (another reason why i keep private there!) so I'm sure he would let it slip!

@boodles101 I understand the need for privacy. I have a couple of people at work I'm close to but don't tend to talk about my private life to a wider audience! I have no idea how I would even tell people... might just not say anything and let people guess!

If everything goes well (fingers crossed) we'll be telling parents at 8 weeks. I'm currently 6+3. My mum and dad are visiting us then and I'd like to tell them face to face. We also have an early scan at 8 weeks so we'll hopefully have a picture to show them. I'm thinking about telling my manager (who is also a friend) around then. Telling her to explain why I've been a bit rubbish and also going on a hen do when I'll be 9 weeks which she is on too and hoping she can help me keep the secret!