When did you announce to the world that you were pregnant?

[BabyBlueBella]

Hi all. New to mn. Been reading through numerous threads for a while but never had a reason to post!

I do have one question however... I'm around 10 weeks pregnant and due my 12 week scan very soon. I know the miscarriage risk drops significantly at 12 weeks, however it still seems very early to be telling the world.

Now I'm not looking to do a huge announcement. No social media posts, no dramatic reveals, I simply want to tell people as and when (work, friends, non immediate family etc).

My question? When did you start telling people who aren't immediate family that you were pregnant? Is 12 weeks really a 'safe' time to do this?

I'm not looking to make a huge secret of it, I just dread telling folks and something then going wrong...

@Liz3891 you're just a week behind me! I hope you're feeling well and wishing you a huge congratulations

Both times I had little choice but to tell people immediately as I was so sick. Particularly with DD1 where the violent and unstoppable puking started three days before I even thought to do a pregnancy test (and the first one I did was still negative!)

So with both I told work and close family/best friend at 4/5weeks to explain why I was the colour of an old dishrag and puking in a bag for life. The wider world I was cashier with until the 12 week scan. I couldn’t have kept it a secret any longer than that though.

Cagier Not cashier!

@RosieCotton thankfully I don't have Facebook so don't have to worry about that! I have Instagram however it is far less intrusive that ye old bookface.

@FellOutOfBed2wice haha I knew what you meant when you said you told work, did you tell your manager? Or did you tell everyone?

Told the people we’re closest to after the 12 week scan, but DH put a photo up of me on Facebook at about 20 weeks and it was obvious in that I was upduffed, so I suppose our world as it were found out then.

@ReggaetonLente that's a lovely way to announce. 20 weeks is a great time and there's nothing more lovely than a baby bump! Can't wait for mine to arrive!

I told work very early because I was extremely sick and had to change duties. Also pregnancy related sickness legally isn’t recorded as normal sickness absence so it makes sense to get your legal maternity rights at work as soon as possible if you need it... otherwise your sickness record will suffer. Close family I told about 6-7 weeks as it was Christmas and I was not eating or drinking so it was hard to hide. I would want family support if the worst happened as well. I’m not a terribly private person with family though. I told general colleagues and friends after 12 weeks scan. This time round I had a noticeable baby bump by 10 weeks so I doubt anyone didn’t know by 12 weeks.

Told very close friends early on as they'd know anyway (birthday drinks). Told friends and family after scan. Telling work next week (will be 15 weeks) - dreading it as I hate fuss. Trying to find the simplest way to tell people without any fanfare... Any tips, let me know!

As many have said, it just has to be when you feel comfortable. Don't feel pressured by anyone.

We told people after the 12 week scan (so about 13 weeks), to be honest I just wanted to be able to talk about it! I was sick until 18 weeks and people noticed I was popping to the toilet every 20 mins.

I was told at 7weeks I'd had a miscarriage so told my parents and my boss (was in no fit state to work, needed to have time off for a scans etc). Had a scan (5days later) and they'd made a mistake and ds was fine. After that we told close family and friends but waited until after the 12 week scan to tell everyone at work and other friends.

I told family and close friends at about 6-8 weeks because I was so Ill and just couldn't not address it.

I told everyone else after the 12 week scan for the same reasons.

Tell people when it feels right for you. There is no right or wrong.

Depends on who and why. My immediate line manager at work knew at 9 weeks as I missed a meeting as I was throwing up so bad and my face can't lie. Other people found out much much later, and I'm sure some people still don't know (Currently 40+3)

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything oh my goodness. That must have been awful, but a wonderful surprise at the same time. So glad it worked out ok for you!

I had a scan at 10 weeks that showed all was ok

@QueenOfMyWorld I've had a scan at 10 weeks too as I had pain and they were worried about ectopic. All was fine! Baby measuring perfect size and wriggling around like a mad thing! Maybe I'm overthinking. The first few weeks of pregnancy are so lonely

I'm 10 weeks today. I told my parents at around 5 weeks and work after a viability scan at 8 weeks 5 days. I lost my first baby in January at 13 weeks after a diagnosis of Edwards Syndrome and I would need the support of work if things went wrong plus there are some risks in my job so it was probably best to let them know.

I have another scan and CVS at 10+5. If all goes well I'll have a dating scan at 11+6, a 16 week scan and then 20 week scan. We think we'll let people know after 16 week scan but I might wait to 20 weeks.

My work are so happy for us and excited which is lovely but it's still too early for me. Their excitement makes me nervous.

I don't think there's any right way.

I told my friends and work after my last 12 week scan but I was letting them know bad news. I'm hoping to share happy news in a couple of months.

With DC1 I told my line manager as soon as I knew due to the nature of my job (although I didn't discover I was pregnant until I was 10wks...). The rest of the team were told after my 12wk scan again because of the type of job. I didn't announce it outside of my team however, and as I carried very small some people were confused as to where I was going when I said "Friday's my last day" at 39wks! (worked right up until she was born).
Friends I told after the 12wk scan bar one close friend who I told within 2 days of testing.
The rest of the world found out with a FB birth announcement.

DC2 I was self-employed so no need to tell work. I told one friend as soon as I know (same friend as before at a little under 4wks) and the rest as and when we saw them after the 12wk scan.
Again, the rest of the world was informed with a FB birth announcement.

@ANewHope18 sorry you went through that. I know how it feels, it's heart wrenching. Glad all is ok so far!

When you say you told work, do you mean you told your managers? Or you told all of your colleagues?

I told My mum at about 6 weeks, only because we were chatting on the phone and she mentioned something about me trying for a baby in the next few months (good old parental pressure) so I just dropped it in well how about having one in months?? I then told work after the 12 week scan.
If I have another I would hold off on telling work as long as possible I think. Not sure if I could get to 20weeks without it being obviously but maybe about 16 weeks.

No need to announce to the world. Immediate friends and family, then whenever you need or want to tell others.

@Thiswayorthatway I don't plan on a big announcement, but would like to tell people myself rather than Chinese whispers down the line! People can speculate now but would drive me mad down the line when I'm off every other week for an appointment an people are wondering! I work in a very close knit office.

@boodles101 what makes you say your hold off? If you don't mind me asking...

We told my mum and dad and my inlaws pretty much as soon as we found out (about 5 weeks or so) we had suffered a late loss at 20 weeks with our first daughter, she was very poorly and we were actually undergoing genetic testing when we found I was pregnant again, so we wanted immediate support around us should anything go wrong or we got, for want of a better word, 'bad' results. Fortunately we were fine and the issue did not come from us, it was 'just one of those things' and unlikely to happen again. After that we only told those we were likely to actually see once we had the 12 week scan under our belts, which was very few people, and everyone else found out once she was actually born safe and well. Pregnancy was not an easy or enjoyable time for me I really didn't want to be fending off well meaning questions and 'advice'. I just wanted to get to the end of it. I already felt like I was under a microscope with all the extra scans and consultant appointments.

@Tamingoftheglue that's really interesting. I feel the same way , really reluctant to announce my pregnancy as it's my DC6. I am nearly 17 weeks but still haven't told most people , only about 3 friends. Not even my kids. My parents - who do now know (via my sister) said "don't expect us to say congratulations ". So upsetting :( it's not as if I want anything from them , either practical or financial ...
It's not been a nice pregnancy so far.
Kxx

I'm currently 8 weeks. With my first we told people a week or so after our 12 week scan. So perhaps 13 weeks? I was planning on waiting until our 20 week scan with this one but since DS is only 6 months old I'm already showing! So I'm going to have to bite the bullet and announce it after our 12 week scan. Even though I'm gonna get some judgemental comments!

This time both sets of parents, dh's sisters and close friends 13 weeks, rest of family 20 weeks after scan and acquaintances are figuring it out now at 31 weeks. I carry smallish and wear bump hiding clothes.

With my first, work figured it out pretty quickly as I kept retching/being sick everywhere. Told family at 10 weeks and everyone else at 12.