Anyone else overdue and in need of a rant

[Namechangemum100]

Argh!

I am 41+2 today with dC2, Dc1 was born 41+3 so it looks as though my second is going to be later than my first as I don't feel like I am anywhere near labour even though I am ready to pop!

I am mahoosive and Soo uncomfortable.

Anyone else want to join me in this horrible limbo land!

@harriet my first was like that- 2/5 engaged the whole time from about 36 weeks. Ended up with an induction which was uneventful- she was a ventouse delivery but they hardly had to apply any pressure as it turned out. So not all inductions are terrible if it comes to that- the only reason I’m trying to avoid it is to hopefully not be in hospital as long so I can get home to my toddler! Good luck

41+5...wow this is soooo frustrating!

Awe no I was hoping it had happened by now. But it really won't be long, hopefully baby will make an appearance before induction. Have they said how long over they will allow you

@ForeverHopeful21 yes it can, but that's v unusual with a first baby.
My concern is that your cervix really needs the pressure of the baby's head on it to encourage it to change (soften, move forward and start to dilate), which is less of an issue in subsequent pregnancies as I think the cervix never really closes once it's been open once. So without that I just don't think I'm going to be able to go naturally. Hope I'm wrong! I'm 40+5 by hospital dates, 40+1 by my own today.

Feeling utterly miserable and like the worst mum in the world as my 14 month old is spending the day stuck in watching peppa pig for the millionth day in a row as I have literally 0 energy, lower back pain and no one to help 😭😭😭

@harrietm87 I had no chance of baby being engaged early as my baby has been breech until 38+3! I'm so concerned since reading your comments. I've been having braxton hicks all week and was hoping it was a good sign that labour was imminent, clearly not then. Looks like I'm in for a long wait if my baby isn't even engaged yet

@ForeverHopeful21 that's brilliant the baby has turned! And so sorry I'm worrying you - I'm just thinking the worst as in a fed up and panicked state myself! I think for some people it really can all happen quite quickly, and since your baby is clearly pretty mobile maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones! Mine has been head down for months, then 1/5 engaged for a month, now 2/5...it's just moving at a glacial pace which doesn't make me hopeful things will suddenly go quickly for me!

@namechange I feel exactly the same- can barely do anything with my little one, I hate it, and feel so guilty. Thankfully she’s in nursery this afternoon so at least she’ll have loads of fun there.

Really grumpy, tearful and fed up today- pregnancy is not suiting me! Getting very annoyed at all the messages asking for updates- just want to be left alone!

@melon eugh I know the feeling...I wake up to at least 1 or 2 messages daily...as if at this point I'm going to forget to let people know!

I've been avoiding having a takeaway for the last 3 weeks as I don't like the idea of labouring on a stomach full of rubbish but I'm giving in to one tonight as I'm beyond caring and it feels hopeless thinking it might actually happen tonight anyway!

I cannot sleep at all tonight and am becoming so overwhelmed by this pregnancy.

41+6 now and don't know how much longer I can keep this up, but I desperately don't want to be induced.

I had a lovely natural birth with DD and had planned a home birth this time round which will go out of the window if I'm induced. To top it off, we have no childcare for DD, so if I am to be induced I will be going to the hospital alone to deliver baby whilst dh looks after DD. It's making me utterly terrified at this point.

Sweep seems to have done nothing apart from cause period like pains and still feel like I am nowhere close to labour.

I just don't know what to do at this point. I'm not sure I can face another working week with no dh looking after DD in this condition. I feel like I am letting her down as I can't spend anywhere near as much quality time with her, and if I do end up going in for induction that's even more time away from her.

Everyday just feels like a struggle of monitoring and panicking about babies movements as I am so hyper sensitive now, as well as the crippling exhaustion of looking after a 14 month old when this big. Even taking her upstairs to change her nappy is enough to leave me in tears from feeling so tired and overwhelmed by it all.

Just laying here wide awake for the last few hours begging my body to make this happen 😔

Sorry for the rant, feeling very sorry for myself now.

So glad I found this thread. I am 40+5 with baby #1 (a boy) today, so I know exactly how you feel!

So far there are no signs that anything is happening. Today the doctor told me that my cervix is 3cm dilated but still quite long and hard (25% effaced) and the baby is only just engaged (station -3). I also have no contractions - at least, I haven't noticed any - not even Braxton Hicks, though TBH I don't really know what they're supposed to feel like. The doctor says that if I don't go into labour naturally by Sunday, I will have to be induced early next week, which I was desperately hoping to avoid.

Sometimes I feel like I've been so tired and in so much pain and discomfort for so long now that if/when labour finally starts I won't have the energy to get through it. Anybody else?

Hope something starts to happen for the rest of you soon!

Hi @HarryHarry sounds like we're in a similar position! I'm 40+6 today by hospital dates, 40+2 by my own. My hospital start pushing induction at 40+10, so tried to book me in for Wednesday but I refused and am having another sweep instead. You know you don't have to consent to an induction?

It sounds like things are happening for you though. At my appt last week my cervix was softening but not effaced and not dilated, though baby was at -2 station. I think you're doing well!

@Namechangemum100 sorry you're finding it so tough - I really don't blame you! My DH is away today and tomorrow so I've actually totally changed my mindset to not wanting the baby to come now until next week and it's making me feel loads better! Do you think it would be helpful to set a deadline in your mind and just tell yourself the baby won't arrive until then? Might be the last thing you'd want to do but sometimes a bit of reverse psychology can pay offZ

@harrietm87 Two days before yesterday's appointment I was given a Bishop score of zero so it all happened quite quickly. You never know, you might have opened up a bit by now too.

I would like to refuse an induction as I would rather just let nature take its course but OTOH I don't want to go against medical advice in case something goes wrong and it's my fault. Also I'm kind of under pressure to give birth sooner rather than later as I have (unwanted) visitors coming in a few weeks and I want as much time as possible on my own with the baby before they arrive.

@Namechangemum100 I read that stress and anxiety can make the cervix start closing up again as the body will try to prevent itself from going into labour if it perceives a threat so do try to relax as much as you can. I know it's almost impossible!

Was 40+10 with both dd1 and dd2 and was induced.

I'm 38+4 today and I'm thoroughly fed up.

@HarryHarry that's good to know! My bishops score was 1 on Wednesday. I've had some period pain type cramps on and off since then (really only when lying down) but that's it, no show or anything.

I feel more confident about delaying an induction for a few days as I know my dates are wrong (my ovulation was induced the cycle we conceived and I had scans before and afterwards so the hospital's date just isn't possible) but I wouldn't want to go beyond 42 weeks. As I understand it there is no increased risk before 42 weeks anyway?

Hopefully there's still time to go naturally...

@harrietm87 Any news? Induction booked for tomorrow evening

@HarryHarry nope, no news. My period type cramps have ramped up a bit but that's it! I have a sweep on Wednesday and guess I will discuss induction then, depending what my bishop score is. I'm either 41 weeks or 40+3 today.

Good luck with the induction!

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Baby boy was FINALLY born this morning at home, weighing a lovely 9lb8oz.

So happy to finally have him here!

Hoping all your lovely babies make an appearance for you all soon!

Today I'm feeling ratty, very fat (feel like my face is the size of the moon), fed up, tired, embarrassed about the weight I've put on (though within normal range), don't want to see anyone, don't want to go out, want to enjoy this quiet time til baby is due (plus I'm still on annual leave don't start maternity til 20th) but same time want baby to come, feeling anxious about whether birth will be like with dd1 (horrible) or dd2 (not too bad and quick).

The glow has definitely gone!

Sorry - last post all about me!

Congratulations on the birth of your boy!! Fantastic news!!!

Thank you@fia but please don't apologise, this thread really helped me even if it was just to vent and let off steam, so I don't blame you for feeling the way you do!

Congrats @Namechangemum100! Well done on holding out for your home birth! How pregnant were you in the end?

Congratulations op I'm so happy to see your post.

@Namechangemum100 - Great news! Did it all happen the way you wanted in the end?