To tell Dad before 12 week scan...

[Caramina]

Long story short... I'm due my 12 week scan in 3 weeks. My dad is my soulmate and best friend and I want to tell him about my pregnancy face to face. I know he's going to be over the moon and I want to witness the look in his eye when he finds out he's having his first grandchild (so excited!). Problem is, he's going away for a month in two weeks...

Do I risk telling him before the 12 week scan and something going wrong? I had a scan at 6 weeks and all fine, but I know anything could've happened between then and now. He is a GP however so he will understand this without me having to explain.

Do I not tell him and wait until I'm 15/16 weeks to tell everyone? (Going to be so hard and would like some support earlier than this).

Absolutely no way I can tell some family and not him. I couldn't do it.

What would you do?

I'd tell him buts that's me. I told my Dad at six weeks as I just couldn't not tell him. It will give him something lovely to think about on his time away and you can send him the scan pictures is all is well. Good luck!

I'd tell him. I didn't tell my dad til after 14 weeks but he wouldn't understand the miscarriage chance the way your dad as a GP would! Plus I only saw my dad at 5 weeks and hadn't got my head round it yet. Otherwise it might be hard to keep it under wraps esp if you get sick... and you don't want him to find put from someone else! Congrats btw!

I’d tell him as you’d want him to share your pain even if things didn’t work out in the worst case scenario.

Enjoy your moment.

Congratulations.

I would tell him. Sounds like a lovely relationship

I ended up having to tell so my close family at 2 weeks due to brother finding out and I didn't want just 1 knowing. I was terrified something would go wrong but also felt comforted that my family would understand and be very supportive if it did.

All was well and my dd is now 8 months.

Tbh if he is that close to you and a gp then if something did go wrong he would be very understanding.

However it's your personal choice and if you think you can keep it quiet for another 6/7 weeks

Sounds silly as well but he had a really bad accident a few years back when he was away and I wasn't sure he would come back. I'm scared something will happen to him and he will never know I was pregnant. Sounds completely irrational but once it's happened before it never quite leaves you...

I told my dad the day after I found out, I'd need him if anything went wrong anyway x

Thanks all. It's a wonderful relationship! He's ace. I'm very, very lucky...

Tell him!

Hope your scan is reassuring and wonderful and congratulations on your pregnancy.

Thanks @AnneLovesGilbert - I'm so nervous to tell him. Just wish I could wait until 12 weeks! It's been so hard so far not to blab!

Oh do tell him, he is a gp, he gets it. Congrats!

I told my dad at 8 weeks with both of mine. Didn’t see any reason not to, he’d have been a support to me if id miscarried.
We’re very close, so I think he’d have guessed anyway (especially with DC2 as we were staying with him over Christmas when I was 8/9 weeks)

Id just tell him. The pee was barely dry on the stick before i told my parents.

Thanks both. I need to find a way to tell him now! He lives 200 miles away from me so have two weeks to somehow squeeze in a visit. This is so stressful

I know what you mean OP

Had lunch with my dad today and didn’t tell him as I’ve had a series of losses and can’t bare to put him through it if something were to happen again. Had two scans already and all is well but it’s not long till my 12 week scan and at the moment DH and I are enjoying our little bubble

Your dad sounds wonderful and he’ll be so happy for you. Go for it!

@AnneLovesGilbert he's ace! He's going to be an amazing grandad. Mensah intelligent and the most insightful, level headed man I've ever met. Why haven't I told him already?

Aw, yes, tell him!

Oooh man I'm nervous! What if I can't find a weekend when he's free? It's so awful to tell someone so close over text! FaceTime? I didn't feel this nervous to tell DP!

W told both sets of parents soon after finding out. We’d have told them if we had bad news anyway and we felt like we wanted their support from the start. I was so sick from just before 5 weeks that it would have been impossible to keep a secret anyway as I was pretty much bed bound.

I told my mum and dad about 15 minutes after getting my BFP both times...

We told both sets of parents at 8 weeks. We would have told them if I miscarried so didn't make sense to wait until 12 weeks.

I think I'm going to have to FaceTime him. Had some bleeding yesterday and this morning so booked in at EPAU tomorrow (very worrying). So if all's ok I'll FaceTime him and show him the scan pictures!

Oh no @Caramina I hope it's good news, thinking of you. Please let us know how you get on [flowers

Thanks @AnneLovesGilbert x

Good luck for your scan. I had similar at 8 wks pregnant so went for a scan at the epu and turned out it was implantation bleeding. Fingers crossed all is well