When to have a baby shower / reveal party?

[JessicaJones1]

I'm hoping to have a little party to reveal the sex of our baby and was wondering when others have had or plan on having theirs? How long should I wait?

“Sprinkles”?! FFS!

Well done Hallmark! 😂

It’s the people asking for those gifts, making lists of which gifts people should give them and holding parties for the purpose of being showered with gifts that is grabby!

Which is why, in the US where showers are a thing, the etiquette is that a) a mother to be never throws her own shower - it is organised for her by someone else, b) showers are strictly for first babies, other than when a woman is having another baby after a large gap and no longer has her baby things.

“ And I did not have a gift list/did not want gifts , but then was told through my sister that several guests had said they would have preferrred me to have one, as it would have made their shopping task easier”

Need you mean they expressly went against your wishes? That’s disgusting, I wouldn’t call them friends.

Maybe do it mid-third trimester?

So that you are not feeling utterly exhausted/massive and doing it once you're past say 32 weeks, you are kind of in the home straight so to speak.

Those kinds of parties are totally not my thing, but do whatever feels good for you and your family.

Buxbaum / Queen ok, fair enough. I do guess the "shower" part of the name implies you will be showered with gifts. Is there another/more appropriate name for this other type of party?

Super in the end I gave in (didn't want to be "difficultl). Didn't create a registry, but gave my sis a list of the types of things people could buy (if they wanted). Was pretty short, had things on it like sleepsuits, towels, sleeping bags, baby toiletries - that sort of stuff.

she wasn't asking for all your opinions in what you think of showers/parties,

OP i would say before third trimester starts so you can still enjoy it and be able to move properly ignore the negative posters on here and enjoy :)

I had a reveal party, it was wonderful!
I made a pink cake and my mum cut it.
Just me, my two best friends, my mum, Nan, aunt, Cousin and her girls.

I will never forget seeing my 90 year old Nan hopping Up and down with her face covered while my mum counted down from 5, cut the cake and shouted it's pink and everyone screamed and my mum cried.

Ignore the spoil sports, have your lovely day xxx

Sorry I actually didn't answer your question.

I had a gender scan on the Tuesday and the little party on the Sunday.
I was 16ish weeks.

I asked everyone to bring a cake or something tea party related, my best friends made some sandwiches and bought some pink & blue balloons (bless them)

We had a wonderful excitable girlie afternoon.

We just all love any excuse to be together having a nice time, a reason to celebrate anything as a family xx aww makes me love life so much 💕

I’m so glad you said sex instead of gender!

However sex reveal party’s are shite! Who cares what the sex is.

Baby showers are god awful too - I mean it’s really tempting fate too celebrate before the baby is born. Presents and family visits are for after the baby is SAFELY here.

Op the baby showers I have attended in the past have been organised around a month before due date.

So many chip pissers have been triggered in this post . I’m 5 weeks pregnant today after ttc for 3 years and still unsure whether our little peanut will stick. But if he/she decides to stick around then I want to celebrate it with my family and friends call it a baby shower or not (not bothered by presents) as everyone knows how much we have wanted this baby for so long

@MrsCrumbtious having lost a baby myself I could never celebrate before a babies birth. It’s bonkers

Congratulations on your pregnancy, MrsC. I really hope that all goes well for you. Please don't conflate the (perfectly reasonable) desire to have a party with how wanted your child is.