Controversial did anyone drink in pregnancy??

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Not saying I would was just wondering did anyone?

I’m 23 weeks and have had 3 half prosecco half orange juice glasses so far. I go away in 5 weeks and will probably have a small drink each night (4 nights) and maybe a pimms here or there if we get some nice weather

The dowager- my point about units exactly some people might think that by adding more mixer/diluting it they are drinking less, when in fact if it’s one unit it’s one unit regardless of whether you drink it with a litre of mixer.
However the poster with the Baileys may have just wanted to make the drink last longer by diluting it, which is fair enough.

DullandOld, being flippant about this ('FAS-y faces', really?) isn't a great look.

With dc1 I avoided alcohol the first two trimesters and had the odd glass during the second, probably two or three altogether. With the other two I abstained for the first and at least part of the second trimester (except with dc3 I went away for a very rare weekend with a friend when I was 11 or 12 weeks and had a small glass of wine with dinner on each of the two evenings) and then had a small glass every 2 or 3 weeks after that - not always consistently, I sometimes went a month or so without and then a few weeks having one a fortnight. Certainly with dc1 and 2 I read guidelines ranging from up to 8 units a week (!) to the 1-2 units 1-2 times a week cited here. Both of those would have felt like too much, to me. The levels I drank at felt OK. My kids all seem developmentally fine.

It's very hard to know exactly what level might cause a problem in any one individual, and what other factors (including environmental ones) might interact with that likelihood. I don't think there's anything unreasonable, or particularly sanctimonious tbh, about someone deciding that they would rather abstain completely as to them, it's not worth the risk. Where the sanctimony comes in is when that translates into considering themselves superior to others. I agree with the point made about listeria upthread - I was scrupulous about avoiding foods known to be associated with that, as the risk with that seemed so much more total than any theoretical risk with very light drinking such as I did, but have seen so much flippancy about blue cheese and pate and so on on here (and often the whole 'I ate brie throughout and my dc is fine' - listeriosis doesn't work like that), quite possibly from people who on a thread like this might call others alcoholics.

With my youngest, I didn't know I was pregnant for a while and had a few nights when I had been out drinking. As soon as I knew I was pregnant, I didn't touch a drop - but basically spent 6 months worrying about the damage I could have caused.

DS is fine btw - but it's definitely something I feel very guilty about.

I had a house warming and my FIL 50th birthday before 10 weeks. Had the odd G&T in the later stages, but not in the first trimester. If you want a drink, have a drink. If you just don't want to be found out before 12 weeks, and you have the kind of irritating friends and family who will jump on you if you don't have a glass in your hand just have a glass in your hand all night. Occasionally tip it out down the sink / in the loo / into a flower pot, and make your partner drink some. It'll look like you're drinking, nobody will pay attention, and you won't be called out on it.

Bloody hell. There are some judgemental Judy's on here.
I certainly didn't get the feeling from your op that you were a potential alcoholic.
Why are some people so quick to jump to the most negative conclusion.

I think a shandy would be fine at your parents 50th. I had a glass of Prosecco at New Year when I was pregnant (I was about 7 months).
Myself and the baby were fine and he is very healthy!

Enjoy your shandy!

My sister was told to drink a bottle of stout per night
Mind you it was 30 years ago

Think I'll just go for that tactic walk round with a glass disappear into loo every so often and tip it away or a coke and say it's a vodka&coke

Only problem is my dad always buys my drinks so I'm going to have to avoid that lol

Nope! If you can’t give up alcohol for 9 months then you have issues

Nope! If you can’t give up alcohol for 9 months then you have issues

I disagree with this. Someone who can moderate themselves to a small glass occasionally is less likely to have issues than someone for whom it's all or nothing.

No but it helped that dh offered to give alcohol fir 9 months too which I really appreciated.I got v drunk about a week before found out though.ds was fine

*Give up alcohol

Unplanned pregnancy, didn't even know I was until half way through. Stopped when I knew, but had been drinking for the first 20 weeks. All ok though, no FAS face (what a vile post that was).

I didn't drink anything before 13 weeks and then had a small glass of champagne at Christmas and a small glass of wine on holiday, nothing else at all. I had read the advice and looked into the research it was based on and then made my own decision about what I was comfortable with. Personally, if you don't want to have a drink at the birthday parties, maybe try one of the suggestions to avoid it rather than drink just to cover up?

Yes, a small glass of wine a week from about 20 weeks

I craved ice cold fosters shandy for 6 months with dd3. Boxing Day I finally caved and made myself 1. Had 1 sip and it was minging I couldn’t stomach any more.

I think it’s really down to personal choice. I’m 14 weeks and haven’t had an alcoholic drink since I found out. I have bought alcohol free beer though which are really nice.

I was never a big drinker before getting pregnant but I do miss the odd glass of red or a beer on a Saturday night. It’s the judgement I couldn’t handle so I’ve chosen to be tee-total but I don’t judge those having the odd glass and as for people calling you an alcoholic ignore them - that is truly offensive and frankly bloody ridiculous.

I had a glass of cider a few times over the summmer.

I was just craving it. I don't even drink when I'm not pregnant!!
Was small glasses and maybe one a fortnight.

I drank one glass of wine VERY slowly once a week during my pregnancy. Dd is totally ok. Very happy and intelligent little girl. But i do have to suffer the tag of the fact that I "drank when pregnant". Also apparently we're lucky that she is okay.

Small amounts of alcohol aren't the problem, it's other people's attitudes that are. (Also I hate the way that pregnant women are some how expected to lose the ability to count up to 1 and 2).

Of course our lives are full of risks however I feel the research on amount and harm is sketchy either way. The one area of research that is 100% is no alcohol no risk. Why would anyone not heed that.

Everyone saying ‘don’t risk it’- what do you think one glass of wine/week in last trimester is going to do to baby? Do you have any evidence of a medical condition it is risking? (key word here being evidence)

Had three weeks of heavy drinking before realising I was pregnant. Felt so guilty but no harm done.

I had the odd small glass of wine, and a small glass most nights whilst on holiday when I was 30 weeks.

Wanting to have the odd glass does not make you an alcoholic! For me it’s about the wine going with whatever food I am having, so in Spain it was tapas and I can’t have that without a small red wine!

Definitely not.

I do not understand how someone can't give up for 9 months, for your baby